So I was wondering do you hate random guys who are Quiet/shy , just becoz that's the way they are?
I feel shy/quiet guys are hated by girls :(
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Some girls will try to tease you or make you jealous if the like you and aren't getting much of a response from you otherwise.
I love shy/quiet guys!!! Usually they're more genuine and sweeter. I've never heard of anyone hating shy guys. Sometimes being shy can make the conversation a bit stressed though, bc it can be a one sided conversation if the other doesn't respond much. One of the way girls bond with people is through conversation (sharing interests, laughing, just finding out about each other)
One of the reasons you always see "outgoing" guys with girls is bc they just talk to them more therefore increasing their probability that one of those girls would be interested.
Thanks :) But can shy/quiet guys come off as arrogant or gay? Some people thought I was stuck-up and some girls talk to me in a girly way...
i LOOOOVE shy/quiet guys!! (doesn't hurt that the saying is the shyer/quieter = the kinkier ;])
don't worry about it, you've just noticed the bitches because they tend to be more vocal than the non-bitches.
there are a lot of reasons people might assume someone's gay, haha. i'm a lesbian and they assume i'm a lesbian because i check women out, talk about my ex-gf etc. i give them pretty clear signals, is what i'm saying.
so no, i don't assume quiet men are gay unless i get a 'feeling' they're gay, but it's their business so i don't particularly care or notice when they are. they probably talk girly stuff to you because they feel comfortable around you b ecause you aren't loud and cocky like a lot of men, esp those annoying ones who think they need to be an alpha male lol! i hate those, they're so unhealthy in relationships. they're probably just comfy around you in which case, be thankful for that - you have a gift that will help you, my friend!
But if they talk girly to me, how can I proceed to dating/sex?
if sex is all you're concerned about then you're always going to have issues. most girls want relationships.
however, you can proceed to dating by asking her out. it doesn't matter what you talk about. asking her out will show that you're interested - if she says no, that's fine, continue being their friend if you can. you never know what'll happen but they'll definitely know you're single & looking and could set you up with another friend of theirs.
See... You say they most likely want to be friends. why do girls most of the time only want to be friends with shy/quiet guys. Why give us attention if they don't like us?
Because we're humans and we like to have friends too? How old are you actually because I don't think you're actually 25. Girls date plenty of shy and quiet guys, but they have way better attitudes and respect women more than you do. Maybe it's your entire attitude because it's certainly rubbing me the wrong way.
I also said most girls want relationships. As in romantic.
My attitude is shy/quiet and I have never hurt girls. Those random girls give me attention and tease but doesn't go further than that :( Also if girls just want shy/quiet guys as friends, then we end up being the gay-friend. That's why I failed with girls. F **k friends !! Girls want to bang outgoing guys and come to us for gay time :(
/excuse me/? you are so off the mark, so fucking offensive, and SO wrong. THIS is why 'girls' (and i can tell you're young because you only know 'girls' and not 'women' because calling them 'women' would imply they're as old as your mother) don't want to be with you. i can't stand even conversing with you. stop offending girls/women, stop offending gay men, and be honest about how old you are. you're going to be reported for lying about your age, also. please don't talk to me anymore, i'm completely finished with you. you're going to believe whatever you want because it makes you feel better about yourself for blaming girls for not wanting to be with you instead of blaming YOURSELF.
I never lied about my age.. Do you get it? I am 25 years old !! I am in no way being offensive to all the girls out or offending gay men. I am just saying that girls talk to me as if I am a girl. I never asked for it and I never said I am gay to them.
I am trying to explain I have been nice to girls, never been cocky or arrogant , but nothing happens besides attention. I am single till now because girls friend-zone because I am quiet/shy.
The cocky guys however get most girls and they are really offensive to them.
So please don't misunderstand me. It's just my frustration. Girls only want to be friends with shy/quiet guys, so here I am at 25 single and it is a shame for myself :(
i'm ignoring you. i no longer wish to converse with you. goodbye.
Please I am telling the truth:) I apologise for any comment that hurt you , but my intention was not to be offensive. I didn't think it would come across as offensive. Don't ignore me, please :(
I just wanted to say " I AM REALLY SORRY ". I didn't mean it all and I very much like you the way you think :) I won't trouble you :))))))))))))
I don't know about those girl but I personnaly love the quiet, shy ones I think they're cute and if they try to make these guys jealous it's maybe because they're attracted to them after all its always the quiet ones ^^
Thanks :) But if they are attracted , why would they kiss other guys in front of me?
cool :P
Who would do this? How horrible! Stay away from girls like this! If they are just trying to catch your eye, than they like you!, but if they are trying to make you jealous, well don't bother with them.
Thanks :) At least I know there are beautiful , down to earth women like you ;) My pleasure to hear your sweet comment.
I tease shy guys because I like them and want them to be open more
If I hate you, you don't exist to me and I will only talk to you if it's really neccessary
Thanks :) But why do they make eye contact and then kiss other guys or mention other guys they find "Hot " ?
cool :)
I think shy/quiet guys are interpreted as gay. Coz random girls who tease , talk to me as if I am gay.
that is the truth :( Random girls come and ask for money (like 1 or 2 bucks ) and then talk about other guys they find hot... it sucks but have to accept it ;)
I hate it when people generalise. If girls are bitches then men are assholes. I'm dating a shy/quiet guy. I never did any of those, though. Maybe they're teasing you because they always get an amusing reaction. Maybe it's a challenge. It's different for every girl so there is no sure-fire way of knowing what's up unless they tell you.
I don't do anything amusing. Well it's good you are not like those girl and I appreciate it :) But most girls nowadays think they are so good and tease and mock such guys. That's how one of my good friend suicided. Because of such bitches. I would blow their brains out.
I have heard girls get pleasure by being forced into sex by bad boys... Don't know if it's true?
I don't know... I can't find girls like you... It is so frustrating... I want to die soon too, I guess :(
I thank-you for your kind words. You are a very good person :) Most good girls fall for the bad boy's tricks. We don't end up with girls of substance. I had enough. I will remember you. I don't know any other way at this point... Thanks again :)
Go to a better place :)
I can't... I am sorry. Bye and good luck with everything :))))))
Good luck, you say... You seem to need it more than me
trust me I've been depressed and thought about it too. But I kept on fighting and crawled out of it, and I feel stronger than ever, happier than ever, unstoppable
But there has been a time that I doubted myself and had nowhere to go... I just didn't want to lose to the other people, and kept on hoping and working on myself... And got out of it, NO regrets
I have no-one to turn to... No one likes me... Everyone is hitting me and insulting me... What have I done wrong? I never harmed innocent people. I better leave instead of being a burden. I have nothing to lose.
Thanks for your advice :) But I am better off this way.
Thanks :))))))))) You are cool. But the truth is no-one likes me. I thought first that maybe those girls liked me when they teased, but they hurt me by kissing other guys and avoiding me. The guys try to bring me down, by saying how they get a lot of girls , but I don't get. My family values my cousins more than me and I am an only child.
Everything is so fake. I hate everyone with a passion :(
Josy is right.
It's not the truth, you just seem to be lost right now :(
Bollocks!
Those girls, are NOT the girls you are looking for. You shouldn't care about them. Guys telling they get a lot of girls? Players, perhaps scared to commit and stay with one girl? I don't see it as a good thing.
My mom places my brother on the first place, but that doesn't mean that I'm useless, and if she's stupid enough to think that I'll prove her wrong and shove it in her face
Thanks Josyso and Groovesick for your advice. I will think twice about what you have said and make a decision to live or not. Maybe toss a coin and see what the outcome is.
I survived the coin toss !!
Looks like I have to be strong :) I will face it, young lady ;)
I love quiet and shy guys. I hate it when a guy acts over confident with himself. I myself am a rather quiet and shy person, so shy guys are easier for me to talk to.
Nice of u :) Why do you think those random girls treat me that way?
Why would they do to me, when they don't even know me at all?
cool ;)
This isn't true for everyone. Id this is all you notice from girls, you are focusing on the wrong ones. Girls like that are commonly know as bitches.
Have a better look around, you may be over looking the girl who is openly staring at you wishing you would say hi!
Thanks... I do catch those girls staring at me and then they kiss other guys or flirt with them in front of me :(
I like how guys bitch they never get attention from girls and when they do get the attention, they bitch again about it! No wonder you're single...
Thanks :) But this is NOT good attention at all !!
How is kissing other guys in front of me , good?
i have a hard time believing that girls are blatantly making eye contact with you and within the same moment kissing another guy in front of you all of the time, constantly. you make this sound like girls are doing these things in droves. are you talking about just one girl?
i'm having a hard time believing you're between the ages of 25-29. and you keep asking more and more questions like you aren't satisfied.
I am serious. I will be sitting and they will make eye contact right into me and smile. The next minute they kiss the other guy and flirt in front of me. I don't mean most girls , but many girls I have randomly caught looking.
I have a hard time with girls. I guess un-lucky, so the age factor is weird over here :)
I don't hate them, why would I. They have not done anything to warrant hate. Nor would I try to make them jealous, thats childish immature bull shit.
Nice to hear that :)
Those girls you see are just ass holes. I am a shy or quite girl and of course i get picked on by all of the guys called weird and a freak. There is nothing wrong with any personality trait like that. Don't let stupid people influence your mind.
We are cool :) Love you sister !!
Aw thank you haha :D
Shy guys are usually awesome! I've met some that turn out to be very disrespectful, but the majority are quite nice to date.
umm, I suppose some can. At times I do, but there are a few situations where I took them being shy as being mysterious, and I really was intrigued to get to know them.
why would you consider a shy/quiet guy gay when you don't even know him?
Well, it's kind of funny that you would ask. Most shy guys have a moment where something someone does really agitates them, and they randomly burst about it, realize that they spoke, and hush up again really quick, or (most common for me to find) shy guys usually find other things to focus on to help keep away from conversation. As they are keeping busy, you get to know a little bit about the things they do that peak their interest. Also, on one random occasion, to a guy I'm actually pursuing right now... My sister dared me to kiss him, I did, he kissed me back, which was nice, but he REALLY impressed me when he stayed with me all that night to make sure I was okay without trying anything (because a really really important person to me had died and instead of a funeral, we threw a party)
I thought when you see a Random guy Quiet/shy you consider him as Gay because you see him as a girl?
not at all
They might know him a little bit more than you do.
These are guys they met for the first time.
Couldn't say
Do you have coffee or tea?
I have water and mead
ummm.. are you happy or aggressive drunk?
I'm always happy, but... in terms of being aggressive, apparently if my sister gives me a dare, than I make sure I fullfill it well... so I guess I aggressively spread the happiness around... But I never throw punches.
You don't throw punches but do you beat-box?
I sing, I dance, I swim, I do a lot, but beat boxing is not one of those things that I do.
you should learn it for me.. please :)
I don't think I'd be any good at it honestly
why do girls grab the attention of a particular guy and then kiss other guys or flirt with other guys in front of him? Do they hate him for no reason?
No, quiet and shy guys are really cute, my ideal type.😊
Thanks :) Nice to hear that !!
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