Going to my boyfriends house for the first time tomorrow and?

He said he wants to do something to me that he knows I'll love. I got nervous and excited and asked for a hint. He said "Well it involves you pinned up against my bed, me holding you down and just exploring a bit with my hands ;) I really want him to do that. But I'm not comfortable with my body at all and I know he loves me and wouldn't leave me just because I'm not the most in shape person but I'm still so nervous. Any tips to calm me down?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Well, it HAS to happen eventually...
    I know and understand why you are nervous. But what is the worse thing that ca happen? You KNOW eventually this is going to happen. So either
    1- You push it back to later and you will be even more nervous each time you push it back because you are only putting more pressure on yourself.
    2- You decide to cancel and maybe even break up cause you can't stand the pressure. You know like me that it's not a solution.
    3- You go with it. You do the leap of faith. You will be nervous at first, but when you'll see that he is still into you and just doing his stuff like nothing happened, you will realize that it's quite enjoyable. Eventually, you won't be nervous anymore and will start participating. The fact that he wants to pin you down means that there will be no responsibility for you. You won't have to do anything else than to enjoy. This should make you feel better. Less pressure on you as you have nothing to do.

    If you really feel nervous, share it with him and if you don't feel good while doing it, don't be afraid to ask him to stop. Also, you could maybe think about not eating too much before. I know when I am nervous, eating makes it worse.

    You are still a little young though. If you feel like you are not ready, you should not feel pressured. I wrote this while keeping in mind that you felt ready for it. That's up to you to decide.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I believe, @Mariek_335, that he cares enough about you Unconditionally and Whatever he may see with thee, is Something special that he will Adore, even Love handles and all, because he is A... Boyfriend.
    He has been with you this long and Knows what he Likes and what he Sees it's quite clear here, dear, that he wants to love a little more.
    However, don't do Anything you do not Feel 'Comfortable' in doing because you want to please him and not just Tease him. When you are Ready for everything you are Feeling, and even if is Feeling good about your own body, then go ahead and make the move.
    I would even say, 'First time tomorrow,' should be 'First time' for nursing and nurturing with Some... Just exploring.
    Good luck. xx

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What Guys Said 7

  • It's perfectly normal to want to touch and explore, but you have to remember to protect yourself and almost be ready for the worst, because that's what boys are after. Are you prepared to have sex with him? Because when you put yourself in this situation, that's exactly what you're gearing towards. The type of surprise that he's got planned for you is not something you're going to be ready for at fifteen. And even if you're not ready, doesn't mean they aren't and your 'suggestions' that you don't want to have sex completely get thrown out the window. I'm not saying he's a sex fiend and only wants to have sex, and he might be a good guy, but that doesn't excuse you from putting him in that situation as well. It's best to define quite clearly what is appropriate sexually and stick to it. What he's talking about is stuff married people do because they've reach that point in the relationship where it's appropriate to express each other sexually.

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  • so wot? has he ever seen yer body? if yes then no worries... and i believe he'd not care about yer body... otherwise if he dump u just coz of it... he's an ass in my opinion :|

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  • Why would you risk such a dangerous gamble?

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  • just calm down, if he didn't like your body he wouldn't be doing that kind of stuff

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  • Uh wow he sounds like a rapist report him immediately?

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  • just enjoy it or pin him down and explore him 👍

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  • γ-Hydroxybutyric acid. They use it at all the rave nightclubs, especially in the mid 90s.

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    • A narcotic sedative that is also called GHB. also used as rape drug

What Girls Said 2

  • I don't know if you want a girls point opinion or not. But it's common for girls to be uncomfortable with there body but that shouldn't stop you from living your life and if he loves you he won't care and when he start "exploring" trust me you won't even notice you'll be to busy to care. So justifying about how much fun your gonna have and wear sexy panties and a bra and you'll be set!

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  • Honey, that's not a good idea. I don't think you should let him do that. Boys his age (assuming it's around yours) have EXTREMELY high sex drives, and he almost definitely will try to do more than just explore if he likes what he sees. It's just a bad idea. Plus, you're fifteen! You don't need to be subjecting yourself to that, and it's REALLY risky!

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