He said he wants to do something to me that he knows I'll love. I got nervous and excited and asked for a hint. He said "Well it involves you pinned up against my bed, me holding you down and just exploring a bit with my hands ;) I really want him to do that. But I'm not comfortable with my body at all and I know he loves me and wouldn't leave me just because I'm not the most in shape person but I'm still so nervous. Any tips to calm me down?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, it HAS to happen eventually...
I know and understand why you are nervous. But what is the worse thing that ca happen? You KNOW eventually this is going to happen. So either
1- You push it back to later and you will be even more nervous each time you push it back because you are only putting more pressure on yourself.
2- You decide to cancel and maybe even break up cause you can't stand the pressure. You know like me that it's not a solution.
3- You go with it. You do the leap of faith. You will be nervous at first, but when you'll see that he is still into you and just doing his stuff like nothing happened, you will realize that it's quite enjoyable. Eventually, you won't be nervous anymore and will start participating. The fact that he wants to pin you down means that there will be no responsibility for you. You won't have to do anything else than to enjoy. This should make you feel better. Less pressure on you as you have nothing to do.
If you really feel nervous, share it with him and if you don't feel good while doing it, don't be afraid to ask him to stop. Also, you could maybe think about not eating too much before. I know when I am nervous, eating makes it worse.
You are still a little young though. If you feel like you are not ready, you should not feel pressured. I wrote this while keeping in mind that you felt ready for it. That's up to you to decide.0
Most Helpful Girl
I believe, @Mariek_335, that he cares enough about you Unconditionally and Whatever he may see with thee, is Something special that he will Adore, even Love handles and all, because he is A... Boyfriend.
He has been with you this long and Knows what he Likes and what he Sees it's quite clear here, dear, that he wants to love a little more.
However, don't do Anything you do not Feel 'Comfortable' in doing because you want to please him and not just Tease him. When you are Ready for everything you are Feeling, and even if is Feeling good about your own body, then go ahead and make the move.
I would even say, 'First time tomorrow,' should be 'First time' for nursing and nurturing with Some... Just exploring.
Good luck. xx0