Ok. This is not easy for me but for those who find this stupid and utterly pathetic I agree and even hate myself for this but no matter how hard I try I cannot do it on my own. So I have decided to ask people who I can be completely honest with and tell everything to but I have to tell those reading this please be gentle with me and thank you for taking the time to reply!
Well here it goes... When I started dating my boyfriend I did not feel jealous at all towards his mother, however, a strange negative feeling started to develop towards her. When I spent time alone with her I felt no jealousy whatsoever but when I got to see the relationship they have together I feel the slight needle of jealousy piercing into my stomach. The reason for this being that every time she spoke she only acknowledged him and never looked at me. It has always been a pet peeve of mine and it only bothered me a little. On top of this I am an extreme over-analyser.
Then I started getting jealous with him calling his mother cute and tiny. I thought that I was his cute tiny girl and that I am not the only one botheres me a little.
I also developed a sense of anger towards her because she is and was extremely overprotective of her son. She calls at least once a day, leaves messages with "xxx" and hearts at the back of them and it just makes me bit uncomfortable... I understand her worrying but I feel there is a limit. When I meant that she WAS overprotective, as he was a child she never let him experience his childhood so she could ensure his security. I am grateful to such that extent that he is alive now but I feel that he was deprived of his childhood. Nowadays he has a curfew at specific times, which I also understand as my parents are strict too, unless it is for work.
There are many more factors that contribute to my childish jealousy but then things took a turn for the worst. My boyfriend's father passed away yesterday. I didn't know the man very well but
I cried and mourned for his father. I was the shoulder to cry on for both of them and helped wherever I possibly could. Although when I hug her it feels like it is unwanted and that she wants only him. They slept in the same bed she caresses his leg and he does hers like he does mine and he called her sweety once... they have gotten even closer and my jealousy has become more extreme.
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Honey you need to worry more about you. Jealousy eats away at your soul. Lighten up. You need to realise that they have welcomed you into their special world and bond. You won't fit in perfectly but in time you might. Such a sad time for them now. If you try compete you will lose. But you could learn how to compromise. Yes he thinks she's cute and tiny but when I say I like dogs and I like men. I don't use the term in the same way. Relax and enjoy what you have. Now more than ever they need each other so maybe call over to her on your own sometimes. Be there for her too and she might be over protective that is infuriating but time has a funny way of dealing with things1