Is it bad my boyfriend wouldn't fight my ex for me when he's a really good fighter?

[Anonymous]

So, my boyfriend competes in mma fights and has won all but one of his fights and has a few titles, and also works security at a high end club so he knows how to fight in and out of the ring, we've been together for about 9 months now and it's been great but recently we were out and ran into my ex (it didn't end well between us for reasons I shall not disclose) and I ended up in an argument with my ex, and my boyfriend dragged me away and we went and got in a cab, my ex following us all the way challening my boyfriend to a 1-on-1 fight, and my boyfriend just ignored him, I can't help but feel let down like I wasn't worth fighting over, and when I know my boyfriend can fight and my ex can't, it makes me wonder if he values me?

[HollyK21]

Actually I believe your current boyfriend made the right choice, because if he knows his strength then he knows he could do some serious damage and wind up in hot water, be it losing his job, getting dragged to court, or winding up in jail. And for what? Because his girlfriend decided to engage her ex and get into a full blown argument? If I were you I wouldn’t have even spoken to my ex let alone argue in front of my new partner, I’m sure that was uncomfortable for him. You are thinking selfishly and need to stop it.

[DJB72]

I never met a "good" man who could be baited into a fight.

If your ex was physically hitting you that's one thing, but your boyfriend did exactly the right thing. If he's a trained MMA fighter there's no way he's getting into a street fight. Your ex didn't want to fight over you, he just wanted to split your new relationship up to hurt you.

My guess is if your ex actually attacked you physically then your boyfriend would be able to stop him without breaking a sweat. He's the bigger man for walking away and you need to respect and understand that in over 99% of cases walking away is the right thing to do. Violence doesn't solve anything.

[Sixgunsound]

Thanks for MHO

[Sixgunsound]

Real life isn’t like Hollywood, if your boyfriend were to fight someone, he could be charged with assault with a deadly weapon for his bare hands because he’s a championship prizefighter. He knows this, knows he was not physically assaulted, and intends to keep his job and his freedom. You should respect and honor him more for having the restraint not to employ his physical capabilities. Hopefully it won’t happen, but one day you may provoke a situation that he needs to show restraint in and he just demonstrated that he can. There are relatively few people who beat people up for a living who have that ability; recognize the value of that.

[Vesuvius87]

Being in martial arts isn't about beating up people in a fight nor a guy proving he's a man by fighting (macho man culture bs) a woman's ex boyfriend. It's about learning discipline and getting aware from arguments and unwanted situations.

You can only use self-defense when it's really needed and you can't get away. You can't assault others just because they're being verbally antagonistic or they're challenging you for a fight. As long as you can get away, then you're a lot smarter than the other person. So yes your boyfriend is very smart.

[Vesuvius87]

**and getting away from arguments and unwanted situation.**

[Truthatanycost]

You've been watching too many movies. Your boyfriend can easily lose his life if your ex has backup, a weapon, a brick, a rock or a knife. It is very difficult, if not near impossible to avoid being stabbed even for a trained fighter. And even though your boyfriend has fought in the ring, if there are more than one of them he can still be overwhelmed, one of them can hold him down and there are no rules or ref. You are not worth fighting for because you are not worth dying for. Ego is what gets people killed and your boyfriend did the right thing. You need to look beyond your own desire to watch two men beat each other to a pulp to feel some sense of validation.

[IMuser]

Fighting in the ring is an entirely different thing than fighting outside it.

When you fight inside the ring, it's a sport.

When you fight outside the ring, it's to protect. What your ex did was intimidation. You were not in any danger.
You fight to protect, not to show off.

If you can't understand this, you are not mature enough to be in a relationship. If you love him, you wouldn't probably love to see your boyfriend's face smashed into a wall while his arms or legs fractured because he got into an unnecessary fight. But you would probably love it if he fought to protect you.

[IJhonnyI]

See that is a man right there someone who knows how to turn the other cheek he will fight if needed, don't give him a reason to get in trouble that's not what a good girlfriend does a good girlfriend tries to keep him out of trouble so concentrate on doing that and stop thinking that life is a Disney movie

[RealMarek]

Your boyfriend did the right thing. As a trained fighter, if he unnecessarily gets into a fight he could be criminally liable for the untrained opponents injuries. In many jurisdictions the law allows him to only fight as a last resort, not to settle scores for his girlfriend.

[OldWorldOrder]

Maybe your boyfriend is a lot smarter than you give him credit for, and you should just shut the fuck up and stop inflaming drama?

[NamerOfStars]

No, that's actually a really GOOD sign- it shovs your boyfriend understands the importance and consequences of violence, and can't easily be baited into; it.

[JustinTheGreat]

Maybe he just wasn’t trying to stoop down to his level. Fighting people is high school shit.
I used to fight people all the time even as a young adult and it didn’t fix anything.

[Twalli]

It's not good for a person who knows how to fight to fight a novice. The number one rule of deescalating a situation is removing yourself. The smart decision was to leave. Combat isxa last resort option.

[admles]

Your boyfriend is actually showing he's a real man, he has nothing to prove, and in all honesty, what is there to be gained by beating the crap out of your ex? NOTHING.

You, on the other hand, need to grow up and realise this is not a movie.

[exitseven]

He has nothing to prove and fighting isn't like you see on TV. One guy goes to the hospital and the other guy goes to jail

[jahaims]

No, that is immature of you to expect that. First of all you aren't property. You have free will. If you still have anything to do with your ex that is on you.

[fireforeffect]

There4 is something very wrong with you if you think that your boyfriend should fight your ex- boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

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[Opinion Owner]

Also If I was your boyfriend I would dump you for what you just said--maybe you need to see all the fights that start out normal and end with people shot, stabbed maimed and dead so you know why its something to avoid. If they want to 1vs1 they can do it in a ring not in the streets

[spartan55]

You aren't very bright are you?

[KrakenAttackin]

Poor trolling.