We have been fighting (and have not seen each other) since Tuesday. It’s now Friday. We talked on the phone yesterday (Thursday) and fought over the phone. I was saying that I feel like I’m giving more than I’m receiving and that I don’t feel validated, special, etc. i feel like I’m just another girl he’s dating. He said he didn’t feel like he had done anything to make me feel this way, to which I said ok… you think that, but that doesn’t mean you didn’t because I DO feel this way.
Anyway, the point is — I’ve told him that I feel like there’s still tension and things aren’t fully resolved, and that I’d like to find a time to discuss this in person. He’s being evasive and saying we can do that “if you want” “sometime this weekend”. I feel like I’m still being put aside, so I told him that, and he said he couldn’t give me attention and that he has a lot going on at work. So, my response to that was that I didn’t want attention, but I wanted him to better balance his work/life relationship, especially when it is something serious like this fight.
We are not talking now. But we have a vague commitment to address this in person to discuss. Does his evasiveness to committing to a time and day, let alone not initiating by saying that he wants to discuss this (it’s always been “if you want” because he “doesn’t have anything else to say”), mean he does not care to fix it? I understand he may not have anything else to say about the fight, but I would expect him to want to talk about how to move forward and improve so this doesn’t happen again? I feel like I’m STILL putting in more effort than I’m receiving. What do I do?
Anyway, the point is — I’ve told him that I feel like there’s still tension and things aren’t fully resolved, and that I’d like to find a time to discuss this in person. He’s being evasive and saying we can do that “if you want” “sometime this weekend”. I feel like I’m still being put aside, so I told him that, and he said he couldn’t give me attention and that he has a lot going on at work. So, my response to that was that I didn’t want attention, but I wanted him to better balance his work/life relationship, especially when it is something serious like this fight.
We are not talking now. But we have a vague commitment to address this in person to discuss. Does his evasiveness to committing to a time and day, let alone not initiating by saying that he wants to discuss this (it’s always been “if you want” because he “doesn’t have anything else to say”), mean he does not care to fix it? I understand he may not have anything else to say about the fight, but I would expect him to want to talk about how to move forward and improve so this doesn’t happen again? I feel like I’m STILL putting in more effort than I’m receiving. What do I do?
