Would you date a colleague?

A pretty straightforward question. Personally I'm ambivalent about the idea. Dating is one thing but a relationship is another. On the hand if there was a mutual attraction and we had a good rapport I wouldn't dismiss the idea off-hand, but then if it goes horribly wrong further down the line, you face having to work with each other and it could lead to workplace gossip.

  • I would date somebody I worked with, but I wouldn't get serious with them.
    10% (5)9% (4)9% (9)Vote
  • I would have a serious relationship with somebody I worked with.
    20% (10)43% (19)31% (29)Vote
  • I would not date or have a serious relationship with anyone I worked with.
    33% (17)20% (9)27% (26)Vote
  • Undecided.
    22% (11)9% (4)16% (15)Vote
  • I am currently dating/in a serious relationship with somebody I work with or have done before.
    10% (5)5% (2)7% (7)Vote
  • Other (please explain).
    4% (2)5% (2)4% (4)Vote
  • See poll results.
    1% (1)9% (4)6% (5)Vote
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Most Helpful Girl

  • I had a dilemma with two guys liking me at my first job, which was a small family diner. I did kinda go on a date with one of them but it was short and unfortunately ended with him making inappropriate comments and just wanting to sleep with me. Once I got into a relationship he distanced himself from me, but since we were in the same circle of friends it was a bit awkward. Since then I've decided dating and working don't mix.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • It is always funny, and this poll proves it, that men generally don't care about this but women generally avoid dating colleagues.

    I think it depends on the job. If it is career, dating internally is much messier, and likely someone would have to move in the long run if it works out. In a part time/hourly job I think dating is not nearly as a big of a deal and should be fine, I have done it in retail and broke up and it was fine.

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What Girls Said 12

  • Yep sure. Even if we broke up, I still think I could professionally work alongside him, because as a doctor, you're more fixed on helping a patient which is a pretty dang important common goal. Now, I will admit, I've never dated a co-worker, so maybe I am speaking prematurely.

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  • thats how i met myhusband. we used to work together.
    it was NOT an ideal situation at all, but it turned out pretty well :)
    i wouldn't reccomend it tho. lots of drama.

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  • Not even work place gossip, it's just plain unprofessional. If you and someone else are up for the promotion, the person who's fucking one of their colleague's isn't going to look like one of the best options. Not even including the drama, it just looks desperate. Keep your love/personal life and work completely separate if you hope to get ahead...

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  • I would, well not in my college because I'm attracted to no one, but if I have the chance to work with a nice smart handsome guy one day, why not?

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  • No, I wouldn't want my personal life mixing with my business life. Some partners bring their home and relationship probs to the work front and I am not up for that. I think most businesses dont allow it as well

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  • A or B, I wouldn't care. They say don't shit where you eat but I don't see the big deal.

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  • With the field I'm going into, I'll probably meet someone pretty nice. It depends on the guy. I may or might not.

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  • Yup I'd be okay with it, as long as it doesn't affect my work... I'll just hope (if it ends) it ends on good terms

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  • Vote F = Been there, done that sooooo many times = NEVER again.

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  • "Don't shit where you eat"- that's just asking for trouble, I wouldn't do it if I were you.

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  • I'm not sure. I think I would though

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  • Relationships in the workplace can go either way, that's just a chance you have to take & really consider is this person/relationship going to be worth it.

    My horrible experience:
    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1692329-how-would-you-feel-about-someone-who-begged-pressured-you-into-sex

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What Guys Said 22

  • Dang, I meant to click on 'Other'
    But I would, if we can both stay professional on the work floor and keep our emotions out of it

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  • I would, I personally don't care about 'gossip' or others opinions... going through a breakup wouldn't bother me either, that kind of thing just doesn't phase me.

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  • After college, the workplace is one of the few places people have frequent unplanned interaction, which is important for building comfort between people.

    If someone is completely closed to the idea of dating a work colleague, that eliminates a very good opportunity to meet someone.

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  • I would certainly consider it. If we fall in love with each other, then we both can't help it. Dating a supervisor/manager or subordinate is out of the question, though. The reason that's different is due to office "favoritism". Not that I would favor my working significant other, but some people may think I am. I would be fair across the board, even with my significant other. In other words, I'm someone that would keep his professional and personal lives separate, especially if one of us is the leader over the other. Same should go if she is my supervisor/manager. Very, very rarely do these relationships (manager/subordinate) ever work out.

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  • I did. Then I married her.

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  • This is one hard rule I've made for myself in dating, no dating co-workers. It can just be ugly I think if things go south.

    I've been very, very tempted to break the rule a couple times.

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  • hell no. the women smart enough to work where im employed are not lookers lol. every now and then you come across one but well they are in short supply.

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  • Don't dip your pen in company ink!

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  • I would but I would have to know them really well and be pretty sure that if it didn't work out we could still work together.

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  • I work in a small company. There is no privacy. If I date a co worker it would literally be everyone's business. I love my privacy so I prefer not to bring my personal life into work. Besides, I hear what these women say about each other behind their backs. I personally find they are all immature and insecure which is a major turnoff. I would not date any of my current co workers.

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  • Not someone I worked closely with. In a large company, I'd date someone from a different department that I wasn't working with on a regular basis.

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  • I did it once, it was awkward when she broke it off and we still saw each other all of the time. Probably wouldn't do it again. The workplace is more comfortable when things remain professional.

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  • Why not it's clear like him. Don't regret not doing it, what if one day you went your whole life and find out all along this person liked you back the whole time?

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  • I'd never do that.

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  • There is an old saying, don't crap where you eat. I have found this to be true over and over and over again.

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  • @joahz10nt yeee if she was worken near meh, i would join her and have sum fun 😘

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  • i'd sex her that's it.

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  • I try to avoid workplace romances as much as possible

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  • I don't know.

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  • don't shit wher you eat... unhygenic and dangerous for one.

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  • Generally, dating someone with whom you work is a bad idea, for precisely the reason that you mentioned. I once dated a girl with whom I worked and it was uncomfortable after we broke up.

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