My girlfriend won't kiss me in public?

I'm 16 and a junior in high school. She's my first girlfriend as I've been rejected twice prior to asking her out. I thought I had absolutely no chance, but I had the shot, so I took it and amazingly she smiled and said yes. I couldn't believe it, I couldn't have been dreamed of her saying yes to me and she did. We've been together for 4 months. She won't kiss me, lean on me, hold my hand, or anything with me in public. But she'll do all that when we're in private. Yesterday I asked her if she was embarrassed and she told me no. Why won't she give me affection in public?


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Most Helpful Girl

  • Some girls don't want a lot of attention being called to it. I am also the same age as you but as a girl, i personally am very affectionate in public. I don't know I just am even with friends. Sometimes I don't even think about it. It's something like a "Hey yo, this is mine and there is love n shit going on ok." kinda thing. But a lot of girls are different. It also depends on if she is shy or not. I had two friends that were dating and the guy always wouldn't want to kiss or anything in public but she did and blah blah you know. She was just shy. But if she has had other boyfriends before and has been affectionate with them.. then i would probably question some things.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Some people (including me) hate to be intimate in public. I absolutely HATED doing it with my ex and she would complain and be selfish about it until I did it. I don't fully blame her because she is a nice person and I allowed her to step all over me. But anywas she probably just doesn't like it.

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What Girls Said 5

  • I have never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy before.

    I think relationships should be personal and private. You should really only kiss/ hug etc... on your wedding day in front of family/ friends and also in your house or your crushes house.

    I am insecure about who I am and feel I would be judged. I get nervous and embarrassed easily.

    So in conclusion, I don't think I would ever kiss or hold hands in public with any guy.

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  • She doesn't like PDA.

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  • going to be honest, i was the same way with my boyfriend at one point. I was just incredibly shy! She'll warm up :)

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  • I've always been a real tomboy and lets just say I didn't even start thinking about boys till I was 15. So, if I was ever out with my boyfriend (I don't actually have one :( ) then I would feel embarrassed to show affection because everyone I know sees me as this unaffectionate person who's never shown any interest in boys. I wouldn't want any attention of showing affection. IT WOULD BE EMBARRASING

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  • She could be the type of girl who doesn't like showing affection in front of a bunch of people. Honestly she could just be shy about doing all that in public. Or the worst thing could be that she's embarrassed or ashame that your her boyfriend... Not to be mean or anything.

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What Guys Said 7

  • Two possibilities:
    -she shuns PDA
    -she's afraid you're considered a moped (www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Moped )

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  • Ouch, From what you're telling me, it's obvious she's embarrassed to be with you in public, aside from showing affection too. Or maybe she's just very timid. It could be one or the other.

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  • I wouldn't say it is so much of an embarrassment thing. In my experience, I am like that too. I don't like doing more than holding hands in public because it attracts unwanted attention

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  • She's probably just shy.

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  • Haha, I totally understand you. Well, everything except one thing... 4 months, dude?
    Anyway, I had a girlfriend at that time too, and it was weird at first. I was her first and of course she was anxious... Then one day I was bitching to my friend and he confronted her the next day, after that we were more "free".
    I wan't to ask you - when did you have that conversation with her? Did anything change after that? I'm asking because you probably had that conversation and immediately after that went to GAG. com
    If not - she probably has social anxiety, not in the sense of fearing people, but the sense of people judging her because she's kissing you. Maybe she doesn't like that? You can't really know if you don't talk with each other honestly. What do you have if you don't have honesty? I'd suggest, but don't go overboard when you do this, try, at least, holding her hand the next time (sooo you're walking down the street) try to take har hand - don't do it in a really crowded place - take it slow. If she rejects you, okay, when you two love birds are alone that same day, ask her, just don't act like a little bi*ch and tell her that she's hurting your feelings and what not. Literally ask her: [Name], why didn't you hold my hand when I tried to take it?
    And the conversation will start... But watch out... I had a problem of letting my ex get away with anything. If she starts manipulating (f. e. *starts to kiss you* , 'You know I love you' etc.) don't give in. Hold your ground. If you see that she's avoiding the question in any way, and you see that she is getting offensive (as in starting an argument) try to cool down the situation. That applies to you too. Don't be to offensive.
    And remember - 1) Honesty 2) Talking are the 2 most important things.
    Good Luck!

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  • I hate PDA from a personal perspective, others have also said respectable answers.

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  • She's a manipulative bitch...

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