Do women still appreciate chivalry?

[Anonymous]

Yes I love it

No it doesn't bother me

[zeronothingnada]

The biological stuff is nonsense but sensibly chivalrous acts are still the norm, as long as its nothing patronising. I love it when a man is chivalrous! It shows all his attention is on me and, soppy as it sounds, I feel special :D Feminism is about equality so men don't have to be chivalrous and women can be chivalrous if they and their partners want that - radical feminism is the more extreme version.

[Asker]

What ever happened to common sense? Why do people rely on others to think for them?

[zeronothingnada]

What do you mean?

[Asker]

I'm all for women to be treated equal but I hate feminist. I hate that you have a group of women telling other women what they can or cannot do and if you disagree , you're not a feminist. Eg stay at home moms get hate, if you are pro life you get hate, chivalry is now sexist and some women take offense now if a man opens a door for her. etc I have seen women complain about these right here on gag. Why can't women do what makes them happy and not be judged?

[zeronothingnada]

Different women want different things - the women your talking about seem to have strong opinions and are loud about them. I certainly wouldn't agree with everything some people might say you need in order to be feminist but I'd still consider myself feminist and like I said I love chivalry! For me feminism is all about equality for women and men, not about women taking over the roles of men. I read an article about the phrase "a woman can have it all" and it sounds exhausting. I respect anyone who tries it but I wouldn't want a full-time job on top of taking care of everything at home, having kids and having a social life. There'd be no time left to actually sleep!

[Asker]

You sound pretty cool. But these days it is so hard for guys to know what to say or do because you now have women who are on both sides of the spectrum

[lokilight39]

Yes! There is a difference between being a gentleman and being sexist. Holding a door or giving your jacket is sweet as long as you aren't expecting her to "stay in the kitchen" and be submissive all thr time. I personally am somewhat of a tomboy. I love carpentry and cars and I play baseball and stuff but I still like being treated like a lady

[mystintri]

I've always thought girls who worked on cars was attractive.

[Anonymous]

Yes would love to see chivalrous men, seems so rare today cuz of all these feminists pushing their agenda and suppressing men to be men.

[Asker]

Do you think that confuses guys to think twice because he could be labeled sexist by some women?

[Opinion Owner]

it's not sexist to be a chivalrous man. And what's so sexist about it? You are just being what you a biologically made to be. And who gives let these women bark whine and complain you keep on being a chivalrous man! Don't let them stop you they're not worth your time. The men today are now so scared to speak their minds or trying to be politically correct cuz it may offend these oversensitive women. The worst thing is the men who regurgitate these crazy feminist beliefs it makes me cringe. Unfortunate men have lost the meaning of what it truly means to be a man. So don't worry it's not sexist at all.

[Asker]

Hope I can meet a woman like you one day. Thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

Lol thanks I'm flattered

[Asker]

Haha!!! you give me hope that there are good women out there.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol there are but rare, you need to find a traditional girl. just make sure when u find someone ask them their values, their perspective on gender roles or something related to this topic and that will probably help you weed out girls faster.

[Asker]

That is really good advice , thank you

[UtopianLobotomy]

No, they either think its sexist, cheesy, or that they don't deserve it.

and...

The last of which is true 99% of the time.

so fuck it

[JCT666]

I'm witnessing more women reacting negatively to it, which is why I no longer hold doors open for them to avoid being accused of 'oppressing' them.

[SilenRose]

You encounter women who complain about that? Wow...

[Asker]

Yea that is true

[JCT666]

@SilenRose In my experiences, yes I have. It's the so called "modern thinking" women that see chivalry as sexism against women. It's an indication of how much society is ruined.

[CoolSky01]

@SilenRose he is right some women do that , in my case it was a bit different, being a gentleman actually made girls not really feel attracted as i wanted them to be , when i dropped that and got an attitude things changed

[SilenRose]

Wow. It's hard to believe but I guess some women prefer being treated poorly. I can't be in a relationship where the guy treats me poorly. I always show my gratitude and make my guy feel appreciated.

@CoolSky01 Did they complain later on down the road?

[CoolSky01]

@SilenRose By attitude i didn't mean i was a total ass that kinda defeats the purpose lol, no i meant i stopped caring about girls as much i stopped giving them a second look or thought i stopped doing things for them i stopped agreeing with what they say and now i truly dont care if i wanna say it i wll say it if i want to do it i will do it, basically you could say i got super confident in myself that girl have no effect on me and they seem to like it quite a lot iam not doing something and getting attention , sure i know they find me really good looking i've been told countless times but until i changed to what iam now i didn't get that... attraction from girls , my ex even called me genuine she said i am very genuine and not fake like most guys she knows, so go figure.

[CoolSky01]

Did they tell me? indirectly yes i had a girl tell me kinda that i was "too good" for her cause i treated her nice and good, then she went to the most assholesh person you can imagine in your wildest dreams, so i changed, i changed to a point of becoming a different person and she started crushing on me, something she never did before...

[CoolSky01]

one more thing i've noticed that the nicer i am the more distance girls put inbetween us so iam never too nice i am just nice enough, i make that distance now and if they are interested they can show it cause i like where i stand, a change is nice sometimes.

P. s: i like that you make your boyfriend feel good about being nice sadly most girls are not like that

[SilenRose]

@CoolSky01 Hmm, interesting. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

I don't have a boyfriend now but when I did I treated him good. If I feel appreciated then I'll return the gesture and then some. Like little love notes, home baked goods, and special "just because" days that focus on his interest. I love showing my appreciation to people but if I feel it isn't being reciprocated then I won't or will stop doing it.

[CoolSky01]

@SilenRose the only girls that respond well to being really nice and gentleman are the really quiet ones that dont even dare to say hi cause they are shy about it, if you're nice to them you win their heart as for the rest of girls sadly being nice is not a good strategy, if a girl suspects even once that guys find her attractive she will treat them differently and getting to her will be much harder, i knew a girl like that once, she was sweet, nice and caring but then we dated and more guys started expressing interest in her and within a month or two she became a completley different person, i a bitch (pardon my language) which left no choice but to be an ass to her which worked, i employ the tactic with all girls and iam not exagerating if i say it works 8 out of 10 times , being nice is crucial to making girls comfy around you and about approaching you but that attitude of not caring and having better things to do and being uncontrolable is what gets you the girl.

[SilenRose]

@CoolSky01 Well I can't speak for those girls but that doesn't work on me. :/ I only like the nice gentleman types. Their actions melt my heart. I wish you and everyone else luck in the dating world though.

[ElissaDido]

I love it, it's a +100 in my book.

[SilenRose]

I love it. The girls who don't just don't like being treated right.

[Asker]

So if I showed up at your house for a date with roses, opens the car door and pay for the date you'll like that?

[SilenRose]

Of course. Especially showing up at my door with roses and walking me back to the car. It's a sign of respect and it isn't something most guys do anymore.

[Asker]

But you get called out for being sexist by some women. Wtf to do?

[SilenRose]

Just avoid those women or cut the date short. :/

[Asker]

Those women can be sneeky lol

[SilenRose]

Lol, like how?

[Asker]

They seem to be nice but as soon as you open the door you get "its 2016 women have hands and can open doors now ". That actually happened to my friend.

[SilenRose]

Haha, wtf. I can't deal with some women. If you don't like it then fine but don't speak for all women and especially don't demonize someone for having manners. Good grief.

[Asker]

I feel like its becoming harder to date these days because of things like that.

[SilenRose]

Yes it is.

[Dulcedulcexoxo]

Yes, it's always shocking ! And actually it puts a pep in my step that day. Its appreciated and I also try to practice it as well.

[RBD12]

Yes. its REALLY great when a guy is polite, and old school. cause the men in this generation are crap... at least SOME of them

[OnePunchMan]

Yes, they do.
Seriously the only people who say chivalry is dead cause women don't appreciate it are online.

[MickyMouse1231]

I appreciate it a lot :) I feel like it doesn't happen often enough

[bubbletrouble]

I admire it but I live here in progressive New York so its not seen that often. Its just not required up here. But when it happens I very much appreciate it. Yes.

[Joc4Position]

Yeah, but I'm just me. Chivalry or not. I don't think about it.

[Benk111]

No in today's world it's expected not appreciated. Also many over the top feminists say that it's sexist claiming that women are capable of doing things themselfs.

[astrOnaut01]

That claim is just so radical and over the top.

[Mesonfielde]

Chivalry is benevolent sexism, but some people like being given special treatment.

[AleDeEurope]

Only the loser bitter ones dislike it. I've never met a girl in real life that dislikes chivalry.

[astrOnaut01]

I'm sure they do appreciate it, just like I appreciate a nice pedi/manicure every day after college, with a nice, hot cup of cocoa with marshmallows on top.

[Anonymous]

they appreciate it but if you are not a dick somehow it means shit, dont mix the two my friend, appreciating and actually dating you are very different.

[justbanANNAz]

omg yes please far out.

[KDA20]

I think most women do.

[Selbrook]

Very much appreciated :)

[LittleSally]

I don't know about all women, but I do.

[COCOCHANEL]

i very much appreciate it

[COCOCHANEL]

i'm traditional

[Anonymous]

I love it. Shows he was raised well. :)

[Moose2coolvargas]

I doubt it very seriously