A guy I went out with last night admitted his last relationship was with a married woman who is one of his best friends wife. They seperated after the affair started but the husband still doesn't know anything. He said he felt really bad at first. Would you trust someone like this?
I don't know. It would take a lot of thught. I certainly wouldn't date someone who made excuses about it (unless their reasoning was... it wasn't cheating, I didn't know he was married). I had a small crush on a girl... she finally started admitting some horrible things... one of them being that she cheated on a close friend with the friend's boyfriend, and that if she had the chance, she'd do it again, because he was hot, and the girl friend was "ugly and stupid," To do that to a friend is horrible. Then to call a friend those kinds of names... that's just not cool. My interest went from about 30% to 0% after that.
Nope. Cheaters are selfish, and so are people who knowingly get with cheaters, especially their own friend's wife. Anyone who thinks it's okay to do that to someone else (especially a "friend") is not going to think twice to hurt you when it's convenient for him or her.
This guy did you a favor by letting you know he's a selfish, self-centered asshole. Now, use that knowledge to your advantage and kick him to the curb.
I had once, the reason for them as I understood can be two ways: either she/he is looking for a hidden relationship with no strings attached, or searching for a person who is mature and experienced and understanding. you can' t judge people hearts while you can judge their minds, so if he "thinks" it was not wrong and admit he didn't had "feelings" involved then I don't recommend you go further with him, but if he thinks it was wrong and he did it cause he followed his "feelings" and he regrets it then nothing to worry about, we are humans we all make mistakes and learn from it !
People "cheat" only when their primary partner is not providing them everything they want and need. That does not mean the primary relationship is bad or undesired, just that it is missing something. If you were thirsty, you might find a glass of water.
I would be more concerned about him feeling regret than of what he did.
it is cheating to date a married person. if you are not cheating on someone else. maybe not the greatest choice but in my opinion say i had a girlfriend how could i be mad at a person for wanting samethign as me. i should be mad at her not them. so i see no problem with it.
No. You will mean little to him. There may always be another woman. Especially his friend's wife? He doesn't respect friends or relationships. He may never respect you... or you may think he does wbut when he is not with you he is sleeping with others, or your friends, etc. My grandfather had an affair and lived a double life. My mom did the same, and it destroyed my family.
It depends on if they knew the person was married or not, and if they broke up with them right away after finding out. If they knew about it and still did it, then I wouldn't date them. If they were tricked and broke up with the person afterwards, then I'd date them.
No and if you're smart you won't either. The biggest thing to me is that it was his friend's wife. If he will do something like that to his best friend, he's not going to think twice about fucking you over.