I'm going crazy.
Weve gone on 2 dates and 3rd one is soon. I asked what he's looking for. He said to find someone to invest in and a keeper. He talks and texts me everyday. Snaps me a lot as well. So he shows he likes talking to me. He said he wants to date me. I asked him are you multi dating? He said no, he used to but not anymore. I checked tinder and it says he was online 1 day ago. -__-
im going crazy because now I feel like he's going to find someone better and because I invested so much already I'm going to be kicked to the curb. I keep overthinking and analyzing. It's killing me and I'm not myself anymore. I am highly insecure though and I'm trying really hard to trust him. I want to wait until the 3rd date to see if I should stay or if I should go. Right now I'm thinking I should tell him we should stop but I'm trying to wait it out and give him benefit of the doubt. What should I do?
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Most Helpful Guy
Tinder is not typically synonymous with long term relationships.
That being said, many guys nowadays date many women at once. It was something I was doing back in the day.
The reason is not because we are "players" or "fuckboys", at least not all of us. It is simply a means of protection. Most of the time, at least in the initial stages of dating, it is the girl who wants out.
Now imagine being a guy who dumped all his eggs in one basket only to find out that some new guy hit on the girl he went on a few dates with, and now the girl likes the new guy more.
In my case at least I talked to many girls at once to "spread out my feelings". If one girl had stopped talking to me for whatever reason, I would forget about it pretty quickly as I would have others around.
Does this seem that I was having sex with all of them? Nope.
Does this mean that I will be a cheater? Nope.
Does this make me a fuckboy? I wouldn't think so.
Anyhow, I hope this helps you out a bit :)
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Most Helpful Girl
oh god lol dont be so insecure. You guys just started dating- he's allowed to date whoever he wants. just dont get too invested too fast. you can keep seeing other people too. I tend to get attached fast too so i make sure im talking to other people when i first start seeing someone- this helps me realize there are other guys out there and stops me from thinking too much0