I am just wondering why guys don't approach me in general? I'm in college right now, so I'm currently surrounded with a ton of potential suitors. I'm a girl with a whole lot of heart, depth, and passion. I'm smart, down to earth, and very caring as well. I know how much I have to offer the world, but more often than not I feel misunderstood and rejected. I have gotten attention from guys before, but it's always been the wrong kind of attention. So I'm wondering if it's because guys think I'm unattractive or maybe standoffish. I am shy at times, mostly in new experiences and environments. I've been told that I don't always come across as looking like I'm super happy and friendly due to the occasional blank facial expression, but as a person that embraces growth and self-improvement, I always try to put off more friendly vibes. I try to subtly smile in hallways and look confident, but I'm not perfect... I do have my bad days as college is full of stress, lost sleep, and work overloads. So I'm just looking for a second opinion here?:)
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When I was much younger, college age, I was extremely shy to approach really attractive girls. Honestly I used to think most were out of my league, we're taken or hit on all the time by guys who I felt appealed to them more then myself. SO yes, you have tons of potential suiters and thats possibly part of the problem. Can be pretty intimidating. So many girls find themselves in relationships with
guys who give the wrong kind of attention as you say due to how assertive they can be. They can't hold themselves back and feel the need to be macho to impress you.
Most others hold back, find you SO attractive they clam up. In addition guys themselves are probably just as stressed and caught up in their activities, homework etc. Guys don't pursue girls like they used to I've found and don't make the first moves much anymore due to the reasons I've listed above.1