Like the question states I am 29 years old, I have a bachelors degree and work in a great job, I spend my time outdoors or doing other activities etc and also like the question states I have never had a girlfriend, being 29 years old and having no experience with women isn't a great situation to be in, many women my age already have had children and gone through divorces etc and here I have never even held a girls hand, I won't lie it is frustrating, I do not know what to do, I have enjoyed my life and was always told the right one will come along or i am a nice guy by girls and girls have told me that I'm the type of guy that is perfect for girls and would make a great father and a great boyfriend but no girl has ever shown interest in me in a romantic way. People are starting to think I am gay and it's really hurting my self esteem, family members are also starting to think that maybe I am weird or a creep compared to when I was younger I was always told I would find someone and to focus on myself, it's kind of hard to have a relationship when I have no experience and I don't know what I am doing when like I said women already have children or have been through numerous relationships or marriages, I have friends who can smile and say hi to women and hit it off right away, they have sex with numerous women and they are viewed as this charming person, on the other hand I do the same thing and there is no attraction and nothing there, I will admit I am nervous but how can I not be when I have never had a relationship, I have tried to change myself from advice from female family members and tried to become a different person in the past 6 months but I just don't know what do anymore, I feel women are repelled from me but yet I am always told that I am such a nice and great guy but nothing where friends of mine have women left and right and can talk to any woman, does anyone have any advise besides focus on yourself because that hasn't gotten me anywhere all my life?
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I'm older than you and prefer to be single. Maybe people think something is wrong with me, some ask why I'm not married, some ask why I don't have a girlfriend. Guess what? I don't give a flying crap what anyone thinks or asks and neither should you.
Let people think what ever they want. Unless they are paying your bills, walking in your boots and living your life, their opinion does not mean jack.
Taking and / or following dating advice from females is one of the worst things you could ever do, they will just repeat the usual bs about being yourself, or being a nice guy when most of them will go out and find exactly the opposite type to be with.
Women will rarely admit this and you may have heard this before, but being a nice guy is not what women find attractive really.
Fact is, when ever I ignore women (after showing some initial interest) , am aloof or not very nice, they follow me around and show me attention. If you are nice, they won't bother for the most part.
Most women will deny this for ever. I was asked out by a woman I showed interest in but beyond that, did not pursue. She ignored all of the guys that were following her around.
Don't be nervous, they are just human beings and have problems just like everyone else. Stop putting them on a pedestal and talk to them like they are anyone else. Do this to a hot girl and see her wonder what's wrong..