I like honesty above everything, but I notice guys still lie even when I tell them they never need to. Why? And how do I confront a guy about his intentions/feelings about me without seeming like I'm desperate or crazy? I know guys get scared when a girl is straight up, but I'm one of those people that need a black and white "yes or no" answer so I can decide what I'm gonna do. There have been so many relationships where I wanted to be friends with the guy but he would always fuck it up because they would lie about problems, making it harder to find a solution. So how can I approach the situation more gently so their "big balls" won't shrink when I ask?
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Firstly, you have to address it calmly, to the point, and delicately. You also have to make sure your in a position where saying this doesn't come across as awkward or where you don't know them enough for it to be valid. If you want to be friends with them, gently tell them, that thats what you want. If you want a relationship, tell them how you feel, but judge their emotions and reactions carefully, to assure they aren't just going along with it to fuck.
I don't think guys get "scared" I think its more of sometimes girls rush the process along. Not necessarily a bad thing, because you want to know what your getting yourself into, but if you go on one date with a guy, and he asks you to marry him wouldn't you be a little put off? Wait for the right time, the right moment, and knowing the person enough, THEN ask where they stand, and just be straight to the point, but nicely and calm as you can.1
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