I knew someone for many years and we hung out a lot. When we first met he was very hurt from a previous relationship he was trying to get over. He was definitely using me but some things he did seemed liked he was also trying to get to know me too. I was hurt bc I knew his intentions at the time (or so I thought ) weren’t good. So i chose to shut down , I was very quiet and reserved and I actually confronted him and told him I was a good person and I didn’t deserved to be used. He basically exposed the truth (what I already knew. ) He said he didn’t mean to hurt me he just needed someone at the time to talk to and hangout with. I didn’t mean to lead you on …. there was a point where we reconnected but he would always tell us what we were before we hung out. He would say “you’re a great girl, beautiful , faithful , you have a lot to offer.” I knew he was definitely attracted to me bc he would always compliment my body and he would recognize good quality traits about me , along with my looks. He knew I was a good girl. I am genuine , and he knew that I cared about him very much.
There came a time when I decided to end things for good, and his reasoning for not wanting to pursue anything was bc I never showed my personality to him. He said I know you have one but you never showed it to me. You’re a beautiful faithful girl, our times just never clicked. My question to all of this is , was there ever a moment back when we first met when he was actually interested in me or wanted to genuinely get to know me? Bc I feel like what I mentioned above, about not showing my personality to him maybe he took that as that’s who I actually was. But it’s not. I just shut down bc I knew he was hurt over a past relationship.
My other question is , even if he thought I never showed my personality which turned him off , did he still like me as a person when we did hangout? Or did he think nothing of me ever?
There came a time when I decided to end things for good, and his reasoning for not wanting to pursue anything was bc I never showed my personality to him. He said I know you have one but you never showed it to me. You’re a beautiful faithful girl, our times just never clicked. My question to all of this is , was there ever a moment back when we first met when he was actually interested in me or wanted to genuinely get to know me? Bc I feel like what I mentioned above, about not showing my personality to him maybe he took that as that’s who I actually was. But it’s not. I just shut down bc I knew he was hurt over a past relationship.
My other question is , even if he thought I never showed my personality which turned him off , did he still like me as a person when we did hangout? Or did he think nothing of me ever?
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