Can a guy be into someone but not find them attractive?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy who treats me really well. He says how he is shocked that he has met someone who he can be so comfortable and himself around, but has never once complimented me on my appearance. He always mentions how much fun he has with me and how he loves that im so down to earth and can be as he says "one of the guys" but again never ever mentions my looks. Even if i show him photos I want to post he will ignore them and not mention anything. I dont know if im just insecure because of the circumstances of how we met. Which i'll explain. So my friend and I were out at a club, we met this guy, he was flirting with both of us but eventually hit on my friend first. She said no, as he wasn't her type but knew he was mine. She was also shocked thinking me and him had been flirting all night because we had been laughing non stop, cracking jokes and talking about all the things we had in common, such as our favourite bands etc. My friend is the complete opposite to me, she's a bit more high maintenance and dresses more classy, where as i'm into metal and pop punk. Which was the same as the guy. My friend is prettier then me in a standard beauty kind of way. So I can understand why he may have been attracted to her more, but was sort of confused because we were vibing but then he still chose her at first. Don't get me wrong im not punching or anything I do get hit on but as I said more so from men who have the same metalhead vibe. I still dress feminine but love my all black clothing, ripped jeans, fishnets, band shirts etc. Sorry im going off topic but anyway I ended up going on a date with him and we have been seeing each other ever since. Its been great, i've moved past the him hitting on my friend first but still can't shake the feeling his not attracted to me. What do you guys think? am I overthinking or are there signs I can look out for? and lastly is there a way a relationship can work if one person isn't attracted to the other?

[jillybeanns]

Sounds like he might think you’re cute enough to hang out with, but ultimately I don’t get a sense that he is attracted to you. There’s plenty of guys I I think are cute but I’m not attracted to them. If I were you, I wouldn’t hold my breath with this one.

[SoIcyGang]

I've had a crush on an ugly girl if that helps. She was butt ugly.

But I just loved her for some reason. It turned out that at the time she was engaged and is married now.

Even though she was ugly I was still attracted to her though. I could look at her face and not feel like ew.

[coachTanthony]

Yes if the girl is complimentary towards him. Many guys do this to feed their egos.

[Anemone978]

He see's you as a friend only he isn't into you... he obviously likes girls like your friend, you are not his type...

[Anonymous]

His comment “one of the guys” kind of threw me off a little. It seems to me he views you as a friend. Could be wrong of course but just be careful and keep your guard up. Don’t get attached in case he ends up being a dick.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Yes, it happened to me with a woman I really fancied.

She was a bit ugly, bluntly said, but it was that little "ugliness" that made her more attractive in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

I could be really into a girl at work for example, but if a new comes in that's a lot cuter, I'll be about 50% less into the first girl.

I know that's terrible, but I can't help it. I'm a terrible person

[Opinion Owner]

Joke's on me though, because neither one would be into me

[boggboss]

Would u want to be with someone who was not attracted to you

[Asker]

I'm not sure, but thats why i'm trying to figure out of he is or not or if im overthinking

[boggboss]

No im just asking as a question would u want ro be with someone who didn't find u attractive is that a relationship u would be happy in

[Zayed_]

I’m attracted to any girl who helps me get my life together.