I met a guy who treats me really well. He says how he is shocked that he has met someone who he can be so comfortable and himself around, but has never once complimented me on my appearance. He always mentions how much fun he has with me and how he loves that im so down to earth and can be as he says "one of the guys" but again never ever mentions my looks. Even if i show him photos I want to post he will ignore them and not mention anything. I dont know if im just insecure because of the circumstances of how we met. Which i'll explain. So my friend and I were out at a club, we met this guy, he was flirting with both of us but eventually hit on my friend first. She said no, as he wasn't her type but knew he was mine. She was also shocked thinking me and him had been flirting all night because we had been laughing non stop, cracking jokes and talking about all the things we had in common, such as our favourite bands etc. My friend is the complete opposite to me, she's a bit more high maintenance and dresses more classy, where as i'm into metal and pop punk. Which was the same as the guy. My friend is prettier then me in a standard beauty kind of way. So I can understand why he may have been attracted to her more, but was sort of confused because we were vibing but then he still chose her at first. Don't get me wrong im not punching or anything I do get hit on but as I said more so from men who have the same metalhead vibe. I still dress feminine but love my all black clothing, ripped jeans, fishnets, band shirts etc. Sorry im going off topic but anyway I ended up going on a date with him and we have been seeing each other ever since. Its been great, i've moved past the him hitting on my friend first but still can't shake the feeling his not attracted to me. What do you guys think? am I overthinking or are there signs I can look out for? and lastly is there a way a relationship can work if one person isn't attracted to the other?
Can a guy be into someone but not find them attractive?
