I used to be romantically involved with a guy from 2018 to 2021 on & off but we still have each other on social media. I currently have a new boyfriend.
A few days ago the girl who he was with after I broke up with him the last time came up on my viewers list on tiktok through her business page. I knew what she looked like because she posted on the business page and he has posted her before on his story. From what I know they have broken up. I did think it was weird that she viewed my page as I haven’t spoken to him since the beginning of the year which he asked about how my new relationship was going. But since then we haven’t spoken.
Then yesterday my ex messages me asking me for what my thoughts are on this scenario and said I have a boyfriend so he wants to see my perspective: what would I think if my boyfriend had a friend that he met while we were together and she tried to get with him but he declined saying he’s seeing someone then the girl randomly starts posting him and then goes to her birthday party. So I said I would find that suspicious and would confront him. Then he replied saying ‘Ohhh thank you anyway’.
I’m just confused as to why he asked me because he could’ve asked his own friends, he has a friend that’s married. Also he has never asked me for advice. I also find it suspicious that all of a sudden her page comes up then he messages me the next day. I’m not sure what to think of this. Any thoughts on this?
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I won’t say it isn’t an odd coincidence, but I guess I wouldn’t care to take it upon myself and understand the motive.
Like if we were to put our heads together here and come up with some explanation, what value would that answer really have? At the end of the day, you’ve moved on to a new relationship and left all that in the past, so to me, it’s just not worth additional thought.
I’d prefer to keep it simple as possible, and assume he values my opinion more than I thought he did. It’s not my job to give him my insight though. In fact I’d feel less inclined, seeing as his ex has checked your page and now he’s popping up, who knows what drama has unfolded over there (if any), I’d want absolutely no parts, or for me simply offering advice to somehow backfire.
Suspicious of what? Ugh...
suspicious of why she was on her page then the next day he messages me when it’s been months since we last spoke