I love my boyfriend and we are best friends, however I feel like he is not proud to have me as his girlfriend. The problem is that he hangs out in the 'cool exclusive' group, and I know this group of people don't like me.
It took my boyfriend a long time to ask me to be his girlfriend, and I suspect it was partially because he was embarrassed by me. He even told his brother that he was indeed embarrassed by my personality, and was worried that his friend's won't accept him anymore if he dates me... however decided in the end that he doesn't care and asked me to be his girlfriend. My friends tell me it is nice of him and it shows that he really loves me, but it really makes me feel very rejected... as if I'm a reject and that he's done a noble thing to date me.
I know that my boyfriend has told everyone we are going out, however he still prefers to go to parties without me. I feel that he isn't proud of me at all, but only tells people we are going out because he feels like it is the right thing to do. I hate feeling like a burden to his reputation... I would prefer it if a guy was actually proud of me. Am I overthinking this and not giving him enough credit?
Most Helpful Guy
Consider the following:
He brings you along.
He knows his friends are not big fans of you.
He therefore knows you and they will not have a good time.
You feel bad about it.
He feels bad about it.
His friends feel bad about it.
Going himself might very well be a more appealing option.
Obviously this is not an ideal situation. Perhaps you should make an effort to get to know his friends?0
Most Helpful Girl
Yea, not normal. When a guy loves his girl, he's so proud to show her off. No matter who she is. This isn't a normal relationship. It'll either end when he finds somebody he wants to show off to people and isn't ashamed of, or when he decides he doesn't want an embarrassing girl anymore. Trust me, go find a boy who's so proud to show you off and beams with pride when he can introduce you as his girl. This relationship will do nothing for you apart from damage your self esteem.0