The power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less?

[Pearl85]

Popular movie quote but do you agree?

[JazzLuvnAnt]

Absolutely. The person who cares the least is most likely to have an it's my way or the highway attitude since it is not like they could not live without the other person. The other person is likely to let them have their way since they really don't want to lose them. Of course, the one who cares more is likely to get fed up with that eventually, and break up with them.

[Tdieseler]

Depends on what you define as "power"... if its a power struggle, then obviously the person who cares less wins...
but if its a relationship, the person with the best comprehension of the three C's in relationships, wins.

[sxh967]

control, control, control? :)

[Tdieseler]

@sxh967 lol... hell to the no...

[Elarra]

Yes, it does. The person who cares the most puts in more effort and compromise than the party that cares the least.

[Loveststarveddream]

That is totally true the more you care about her the faster she will frieght train every emotion that your heart could ever produce , and stand there with a smile the whole time, and some flailed story

[AriadneSky]

if yore in a relationship you dot care about you're a fool and wasting your life.. wheres the power.

[AriadneSky]

dont*

i disagree and i think platitudes like this come from people who dont care enough to think through what they are saying.

[Itsmeyay]

It seems you don't really understand her question.

[Pearl85]

@Itsmeyay that's what I was thinking

[AriadneSky]

there are people who actually look for relationships wee they settle just so they can feel like the dont care. bc its scary. which means they remain unfullfilled and cowardly for life. and then when the other person stops caring bc they get bored being the only one instead, the first person has a crisis. bc now not only are they wit someone they dont care too much for but they've wasted time plus the person no longer cares.

me id rather be daring enough to go after what i really want and brave enough to open myself up to caring. people who dont care live in very narrow worlds.

[Pearl85]

Yeh it's true it's happened with me like that before

[Itsmeyay]

You do have a good point, although, her question relates to happy couples, it seems in happy society there is an unspoken rule of less interest shown more power gained by default, yes in my mind it's to do with personalities that match, a more submissive person with a more dominant person. And although, even when I'm a Dom, I still show interest, now that tells me it hasn't got to do with that really, what then? It seems there are people with less so confidence that will just appreciate a person being in their life so much that they are even happy when the more confident one cares mostly about him or herself.

[CancerianMan81]

@Itsmeyay that's not it when you hit home it's when 2 people have been with each other you start to be each other you understand you have to be around each other all the time

[Itsmeyay]

@CancerianMan81

That sounds perfect to me.

[CancerianMan81]

@Itsmeyay that's how it works

[CancerianMan81]

you don't forget those little things especially if you what to be in a relationship

[April10]

Truer words were never said. Completely agree.

[Maik567]

Not true unless he/she is somehow completely dependent on you. But the person who cares more is definitely the one who is going to get more hurt in the relationship.

[AriadneSky]

and they will be stronger for it. getting hurt is not a bad thing. it is a life lesson and character building.

[Maik567]

@AriadneSky That's at least how it should be. Some people unfortunately just let themselves be hurt over and over again without learning from it.

[Pearl85]

Like me :-(

[YelahGrandi]

That's a good quote but I have to say Matthew McConaughey is so hot he always has the power so he shouldn't be talkin.

[peachblossomluck]

I do agree. Further, anyone with any insecurity is pretty much screwed.

[abc3643]

No.

This is because the person who cares less wouldn't exercise such power - because they don't care.

[superdouch]

yes true. Unfortunately it is true. The one who cares less rules the relationship :/ buttt the one who cares more has love and better to have loved and lost than not loved at all because what a feeling!

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Definitely. . . As a general rule, it's a little more complicated then that though

[TheUltimateSucc]

No. Power may come from apathy and a disregard for consequences but love is the most powerful force in this reality.

[HarrisonWells]

relationships should not be about who has power over whom. it should be mutual interest that is based on trust and compassion.

[Itsmeyay]

Seems that way yes. But I don't agree with the method.

[lumberman9]

I do agree, but that doesn't make it right if you don't care enough then stop wasting both their time and your own and leave

[Anonymous]

Only when there's a big mismatch in care level. Otherwise it fluctuates day by day.

[CancerianMan81]

the thing of that is you can't care less you can only care more

[Anonymous]

This is why women often have the power in relationships, men are far more attracted to women.

[jman46241]

Only in the ones that don't last long.

[Scrambledagain]

The truest of truisms.

[Maypai]

I do sort of agree, yes.

[Anonymous]

I do agree.

[vishna]

Agree.

[tynamite]

Yes I agree

[MakingMeHiiiigh]

Power of what?