Is it possible to get together after rejection?

[Anonymous]

Is it possible that after he rejects you and you become good friends after enough time has passed he will change his mind and be interested in you? So like friends to lovers except you have been on 3 dates before (but didn't even kiss)

Yes, it's possible

No, it's not likely it will happen

A total of 6 votes were cast: 1 girls and 5 guys. See detailed results

[SallyTho87]

There's always possibility for feelings to change in the future. However if he rejected you, and the idea of dating / having a relationship with you, he clearly has his own reasons as to why he knows / believes you two wouldn't work as a couple. Or maybe he's just not into dating right now. you NEED to respect that. Especially as his friend.

Did he also consider them "Dates" ? if he informed he did not want to date you? If they are dates to you, and simply time together with his friend, to HIM, there's a HUGE issue here.
You are seeing through rose coloured glasses, as the saying goes.

So, you see time with him = dates.
His friendship = building your bond closer so he will / may fancy you in the future

While HE is seeing you as a literal friend, and made it clear you are not more than a friend.
If a relationship is what YOU are seeking, find someone who is also seeking and interested in dating. Do not wait around for this guy, when you have no signs, confirmation, or anything to imply he will be interested in you in the near future. That is such a waste of your time, when you can be out actively seeking and spending time connecting with people who ARE looking to date as well.

Respect him, respect his friendship, but if you are holding onto this hope his feelings will change and he will realize one day he actually loves you in a romantic sense, that may never happen. Please be aware it's possible, but not something that is certain. So please, focus on YOUR own wants / needs and your life.

[Asker]

Yes it was considered a date he asked me out, took me out 3 times paid for everything. So yes we were dating. I won't wait around for him but rn i feel like i may never like someone as much as him again

[Asker]

Also he is still flirting but he is talking to another girl on a dating app rn. He is probably just playing

[SallyTho87]

Good, do NOT wait around for him.

Unfortunately, he learned in those 3 dates that you aren't what he is looking for, otherwise he would have taken the opportunity to seal the deal and become exclusive, or at least discuss stepping into a relationship with you.
That is prob why he is still flirty, as he is keeping you around while he looks at his other options, so in case things don't work out to his hopes, he knows YOU are here, and he sees you as someone to keep on the back burner in a sense.

I've been there before myself. Let him flirt all he wants, but if he cannot respect having your time, attention and your commitment right now, he will learn the hard way that when you do find someone for yourself, and choose to no longer engage in this silly situation he has formed, he will realize what he lost, and what chance he blew.

Let him chat with the others, clearly he doesn't want to provide his time to you so don't entertain him or be there for him, or supply the ego boost. I would send a last message informing after the 3 dates, he has made it clear he does not want to proceed with anything, and you are no longer interested in putting effort into the situation.

It'll really fk him up lol, but focus on you! PLEASE focus on you and find someone who offers you the same efforts you're giving this guy!

[DishLady]

Yeah, but don't count on that friendship/association too much.

[genericname85]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XEhixvM0wKw

that's pretty much the answer to your question. it's not "impossible" but the chances are very low. the chances of you making yourself very unhappy and even psychologically sick by staying in such a "relationship" (you wanting romance, him wanting only friends) are much more high.

so in the poll i picked A just because technically it "is" possible. but banking on that possibility is insanity.

[Billlewis]

I'd say it's more likely when the woman previously rejected the guy, because we're so accustomed to that. Of course it's possible to overcome this hurdle from the opposite end of the spectrum, but it probably won't be as easily accomplished, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

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