Have you ever lost attraction to the opposite gender?

[Elarra]

My last relationship just ended for good a few days ago with him blocked on all contact methods. He did a lot of things to me that I won't go into. But he wasn't the only guy who has treated me bad. I've dated guys who were just flat out jerks. I don't really feel like going into detail but let's just say I haven't had success in dating. At all. Like not even one decent relationship that I can look back on and think 'hey, well, he wasn't so bad'.

Anyway, I was talking to my friend today on the phone and I told her I noticed that I have no attraction to men anymore. Like I'm not a lesbian. I do not find women attractive at all nor do I have the desire to date one. But the idea of being with a man or even letting one touch me almost makes me nauseous. I've felt this way for a few months as towards the end of my on again, off again relationship I lost all attraction, physical, mental, and emotional, to my now ex. And guys that some people I work with or are friends with find hot just do nothing for me.

I don't necessarily feel resentful. I don't hate men. And I don't think all men are bad. But the idea of giving a man any of my time sounds like a headache and waste of time. Has anyone else felt this way? I know it's not because I just got out of a relationship because this feeling has been around since at least Thanksgiving 2016. Is this temporary? Guys feel free to answer, too.

[Marinite]

About a year ago I came out as a lesbian. I'd been lying to myself for most of my life about what I really wanted in a relationship. Why close myself off to men? They might be good people! The fact is, good people make good friends. Only people you're strictly attracted to make good dates.

Don't force yourself to ignore your feelings. With this new generation of insufferable dudes with women shaped chips on their shoulder making themselves well known all over the internet I could see how a person might want some space. Ask yourself what you really want and pursue that. If you don't want sex with either gender, pursue that! If you'd rather cuddle with one gender without sex, do that! If you just want a chill roommate, pursue that!

[CHARismatic110]

After I moved off campus and back home when I was in college I felt this way. I had gone through so much guy drama while lived on campus we huch resulted in me losing my virginity. After that I became so distant and uninterested in guys. I didn't date them, talk to them romantically, nothing. Didn't care to. That lasted for almost 6 years.

[archiz]

you re just tired of it all, it s normal. take time to recover
and what s up with you and jerks... that s the 2nd time I read it on gag. before it was a take

[TripleAce]

Mmm interesting... I know a few women in the same type of situation kinda... and I think when you just have shitty after shitty relationships.. this type of feeling is a byproduct of that..
But there is no reason to have 'tooo' many shitty relationships... I mean a few ok but every single one? like how, why don't you just cut it off as soon as betrayal #1 surfaces that way you don't condition yourself to feel such emotions...

I think even with those girls, you just lose hope and don't even bother with attraction.. like your mind blocks it out because it's become conditioned to signal you whats to come after...
--> You need to override this with a loving relationship once you heal

[rzvcam]

It was temporary for me... Well, sort of. I still get a shaky feeling when i think about dating but i've accepted the fact that i AM ready to date again. I'm just 100 times more selective than i used to be so i guess it'll take a lot till someone actually grabs my attention for more than a couple of nights.

[stellarvore]

maybe you need a good long break, and some personal development time. figure out what you want, and then figure out why you're not getting it. build yourself up and try again when you feel ready... but don't rush.

[InquisitiveMan]

I never lost attraction but I did lose the feeling of wanting to be around girls after my 4 year relationship ended for a while. My trust was all messed up. I just stay alone most of the time but now I'm things are getting better

[cth96190]

I understand, from the male side of that situation.
I am straight, but I have not touched a woman for 16 years, despite plenty of female interest and occasional offers.
I simply cannot be bothered, as a result of experiences with women.

[Prof_Don]

That's never happened to me. But in my lowest emotional points in the dating games, I will admit I was numb to women showing interest in me cauz I was still emotionally healing.

[Litza]

Not completely... I've lost attraction to men that belong to my own race, but that's probably not the same...

[legalboxers]

No. I just dont care about dating anymore. I been burned so many times. I haven't been with a woman in 2-3 years. So its just empty space I guess. I focus on me and what I gotta do. Sucky as it seems but hey what can I do

[Luci92]

Not really, although how much attention I pay to the opposite sex tends to fluctuate a lot.

[jacquesvol]

FRom the moment my adolescence started I preferred girls' bodies. But not all girls. That didn't change.

[DanReynolds]

Yeah I actually have lost attraction to women before.
For me it only lasted 3 or so weeks.
Basically i hurt by my ex and something her friends said.

[chris_987]

If that's true then you could become a super hero, like wonder women, because you won't be distracted by you mr desires anymore

[NicolaJ35]

After my last relationship, i've completely lost any attraction to the opposite sex too!

[Salmankhan]

look being inna relationship is not necessary... stay single stay happy like me

[genericname85]

in general? no. in specific cases, yes xD

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Never lost attraction. I love women too much.

[logesh-kumar]

It doesn't happened to me...

[Xfitchick]

I never had

[Zorax]

Nope, never.

[Waffles731]

I can't say I have,