So here's the story. There was a guy who lives in the town I go to for the summer- a beach town. He was there last year, and at the time I thought he was so attractive, but he never approached me so I went on with my life.
This year I went back, and saw him the first day because he works in front of the hotel I stay at. He started talking to me and my friend. Now he said he was interested in my friend, and kissed her that night. We kept seeing him and his friend for 3 nights, until my friend left.
Once she left, I thought that would be it because he was interested in her. However, I ran into him with a group of his friends, and he invited me out with them. I felt bad for ruining his plans with his friends, but he insisted that he wanted to make my time left pleasant. (I had 1 month left).
We went on a walk and long story short, he told me he actually liked me blahblahblah. And he kissed me and we continued to see each other, and eventually he told me he was falling in love with me. I ended up losing my virginity to him, and he knew it was my first time and all. Last night I left the seaside.
I am heartbroken. I can't stop thinking about him, can't stop crying. Everything reminds me of him, music, sounds, words, facial expressions, everything. Clothes that I wear..
Is it affecting him like it's affecting me?! We don't have any form of communication- he has my email and skype but hasn't said anything yet.
HELP ME! / How do I get over him?
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Well it is as you described, just a fling. But giving yourself totally to a man you are not sure of ever seeing again is bad. I mean for a guy to move from your friend to you, shows warning bell signs to me. I would not let a man near me that kissed my friend and was interested in her out of respect for my friend and myself of course. You got carried away by the moment, by him by the sights and sounds of that place. But having said that, you may not likely to hear from him at all. He has these opportunities meeting new people all the time, coming and going and that is what he just does.
As to getting over it, you will. You just need to be patient with yourself. Go out with friends, join groups/clubs and meet new people. Don't contact him. Just get on with your life, I am sure he is getting on with his.0