I don't do the asking out because I'm shy. I've had some luck with match.com. There you can be upfront about being shy or having AS. I do find relationships difficult once I'm in them too, but try to be upfront about the communication issues I have. It's been suggested I might have AS, but I haven't been formally diagnosed. Good luck. To answer your question, yes, I would date someone with AS.
Yes of course. I don't descriminate against age, race, gender, disorders, nothing. I look at the person on the inside. Hey, I have social phobia and I wouldn't want a guy to not date me because of it. I have a guy with AS in my gym class, I asked him why he seemed so awkward and he said he had asbergers.
Come girls just grow some boobs. Some people have learning problem its hard for us to date. I would in heart beat. I connected with a guy that has a learning problem. Its not a turn off just give them a try. Its would be hard for us take care ourselves. Just judge the person with problems just live with it. Just ask your parents if they dated someone like this. Think twice before you dump that person. Just be a sweet person as your are. Don't judge a book by the cover.
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Well... My guy has aspergers and you know what I love him very much, he is the most amazing person I know. and I wouldn't change him for anything. Yeah he may be a little awkward and have intimacy issues but there is a lot more to a relationship then getting intimate all the time. I can not see myself being with anyone else. I am glad I found him.
Honestly, I'll date a guy with AS. To me, personality is what matters the most over anything else. And if a girl likes a guy but finds out he has AS and leaves then she wasn't the one. Every women is different. Just saying I would, regardless of what he has.
I would, considering I am engaged to a man who has it! I like someone for the individual they are so it really depends on the person. good luck with your lady friend!
AS wouldn't determine whether or not I'd date the person,but it would depend on how severe it is.I think it's brave if someone with AS asks a person out:)
To be honet I WILL! I think that it would be awesome! off course it depends on the person itself not on the syndrime they have! So if it is a nice guy , why not date him? :D
I have dated two guys with AS and it only ended because either they moved or I did and during the time we dated I became a better person because they made me realize the small things in life and how you have to find happiness in everything. I would have to say that if I had never dated them I honestly wouldn't be the person I am today.
My brother has AS and its pretty bad, he has to take pills for it. But you should tell the person you have it, and if she likes you enough she will be willing to sir pass that. But you will have to work hard to communicate. That takes time but its doable.
I have a friend who has this...I wasn't even aware he had it until someone told me, and I'd already known him for close to a year...I don't treat him any different because of it
im saying I wouldn't mind at all, because if I liked the guy for who he was, and not because of his inability to talk to people. I would definitely initate contact :)
I hope you are right, I just can't picture myself getting a girlfriend because of Asperger Syndrome, having Asperger Syndrome makes it harder to initiate
Eh... I know :) But trust me, It is worth the wait. It takes a very patient, understanding, non-judgemental girl to be with a guy with aspergers, Which unfortunatly are hard to find.
I feel that the older I get without having my first ever girlfriend, the harder it will be to get one, and I just don't know how, people say that practice makes perfect, but I don't know if I can get better since I have Asperger Syndrome, that my social skills are going to stay the same forever
I WOULD date someone with AS, I think guys who are a little awkward are sweet.
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Personally, no. Because I did for six years, and my partner used his AS as an excuse for increasingly emotionally abusive behaviour. Being "quirky" was his excuse for every cruelty he inflicted. Not that all AS people are the same, but my experience would put me off ever gettign involved with an AS person again.
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I don't do the asking out because I'm shy. I've had some luck with match.com. There you can be upfront about being shy or having AS. I do find relationships difficult once I'm in them too, but try to be upfront about the communication issues I have. It's been suggested I might have AS, but I haven't been formally diagnosed. Good luck. To answer your question, yes, I would date someone with AS.
Yes of course. I don't descriminate against age, race, gender, disorders, nothing. I look at the person on the inside. Hey, I have social phobia and I wouldn't want a guy to not date me because of it. I have a guy with AS in my gym class, I asked him why he seemed so awkward and he said he had asbergers.
I saw your comment and here. Others user that doesn't understand austim /AS. I prefer quite guys. My current boyfriend PDA.
Come girls just grow some boobs. Some people have learning problem its hard for us to date. I would in heart beat. I connected with a guy that has a learning problem. Its not a turn off just give them a try. Its would be hard for us take care ourselves. Just judge the person with problems just live with it. Just ask your parents if they dated someone like this. Think twice before you dump that person. Just be a sweet person as your are. Don't judge a book by the cover.
Well... My guy has aspergers and you know what I love him very much, he is the most amazing person I know. and I wouldn't change him for anything. Yeah he may be a little awkward and have intimacy issues but there is a lot more to a relationship then getting intimate all the time. I can not see myself being with anyone else. I am glad I found him.
Thank you. You're the best thing that's ever happened to me. =)
:) I mean it. Don't feel like you are not as good as other guys because you're a million times better
Honestly, I'll date a guy with AS. To me, personality is what matters the most over anything else. And if a girl likes a guy but finds out he has AS and leaves then she wasn't the one. Every women is different. Just saying I would, regardless of what he has.
I would, considering I am engaged to a man who has it! I like someone for the individual they are so it really depends on the person. good luck with your lady friend!
Gratz to you :] glad to see someone who doesn't judge someone on the fact they have AS
NP :D
I'll be monitoring this question as I have AS as well. I'm curious.
Oh hi I didn't know you had it to.
AS wouldn't determine whether or not I'd date the person,but it would depend on how severe it is.I think it's brave if someone with AS asks a person out:)
To be honet I WILL! I think that it would be awesome! off course it depends on the person itself not on the syndrime they have! So if it is a nice guy , why not date him? :D
I have dated two guys with AS and it only ended because either they moved or I did and during the time we dated I became a better person because they made me realize the small things in life and how you have to find happiness in everything. I would have to say that if I had never dated them I honestly wouldn't be the person I am today.
My brother has AS and its pretty bad, he has to take pills for it. But you should tell the person you have it, and if she likes you enough she will be willing to sir pass that. But you will have to work hard to communicate. That takes time but its doable.
I have a friend who has this...I wasn't even aware he had it until someone told me, and I'd already known him for close to a year...I don't treat him any different because of it
im saying I wouldn't mind at all, because if I liked the guy for who he was, and not because of his inability to talk to people. I would definitely initate contact :)
I think I would the honesty would be refreshing. lol
Thanks for the answer. People with AS don't really play those dumb dating games due to their inability to read body language and certain social cues.
You're welcome :)
that comment made no sense
Thank you for posting this question. it is a facinating one.
I learned a lot from what people had to say.
I personally wouldn't know if I wanted to or not because I have never met anyone in my life with AS. :)
Yes, I would. For me it's not a turn-off. Individuals with AS are extremely smart. That's a plus in my book.
I hope so, because I have Asperger Syndrome too, just turned 23 and haven't officially dated yet, sad but oh well
You will :)
I hope you are right, I just can't picture myself getting a girlfriend because of Asperger Syndrome, having Asperger Syndrome makes it harder to initiate
Trust me dude, it can happen. I have it and I found mine. =) Took forever though!
Eh... I know :) But trust me, It is worth the wait. It takes a very patient, understanding, non-judgemental girl to be with a guy with aspergers, Which unfortunatly are hard to find.
I feel that the older I get without having my first ever girlfriend, the harder it will be to get one, and I just don't know how, people say that practice makes perfect, but I don't know if I can get better since I have Asperger Syndrome, that my social skills are going to stay the same forever
I WOULD date someone with AS, I think guys who are a little awkward are sweet.
Personally, no. Because I did for six years, and my partner used his AS as an excuse for increasingly emotionally abusive behaviour. Being "quirky" was his excuse for every cruelty he inflicted. Not that all AS people are the same, but my experience would put me off ever gettign involved with an AS person again.
some people use AS as a shield
trust me, he was a one-off, some do that, but most of us try and make ourselves "better".. but I admit, its hard
anyway, that one you dated was just a jerk, everyone comes across them, most AS sufferers are good people... if a little hard to deal with...