Do you believe it is true that if a guy never mentions other women?

[Nevertoknow]

Then he likes you, I read somewhere, that if a guy likes you, then he will never mention other women to you. I've been friends with him for 18 months now and he's never mentioned any other women to me, apart from at the beginning when he told me about his ex. I have mentioned a few guys to him, but he never takes an interest, he'll just say 'oh right' where as other guy friends take an interest and want to know all about it.

I know this alone is nothing to go on, I am just curious for others

Opinions/experiences...

[planetearth]

Yes I think that is a really good indicator. He sounds smart and cultured in the dating game. Talking about exes is really stupid and brings a new relationship nowhere. Every guy must learn this sometime (although some never do). When I was new to dating I would talk about other girls in the hope of showing my current interest that others were interested in me. Although it was a dumb move. No one really cares and it actually makes a person look desperate and clinging to the past- girl or guy.

He sounds like me. Once a girl I like mentions exes on a frequent basis I tune her out and have even told some of my dates that I simply didn't care about their past. I didn't want to know. I don't generally go there. I find it disrespectful, especially since there are a million other more interesting things to talk about. Hope this helps!

[Nevertoknow]

Thanks for your answer. I don't talk about exes, I meant guys in general at the present time, for example sometimes he will ask me something and my answer brings another guy into it, he doesn't acknowledge it, apart from 'oh right' and then goes quiet. Where as I would, if it was the other way round, I'd want to know about the 'other' girl. Like I said I don't read too much into it anyway.

[planetearth]

That's understandable. Sometimes it's inevitable that you and he will mention other people. I just try to keep those conversations to a bare minimum. Talking about others has never really helped me at all. This refers to people I've dated, although generally speaking it seems okay. Like for example relaying some type of experience but not going into the details of their name and other unnecessary personality traits of that particular person. Only when asked do I go there though.

[Levin]

I don't think you should get life advice from cosmo. Women annoy me when they make such categorical statements. Fair enough, as a general rule, a man who mentions other women a lot is probably into them rather than you; beyond that, I wouldn't read too much into it. To me what seems more pressing is that you have been friends with him for 18 months and yet still nothing. Just when are you expecting something to happen? Isn't there a risk you begin to see each other more as friends rather than anything romantic as time progresses? You need to seriously ask yourself how this is going to come to be, rather than just fantasising about it.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

True Cosmo doesn't understand squat all when it comes to relationships, or how men think. They may come up with the occasional fun tidbit about sex, or some tips on how to "drive men crazy", but other than that it's a rag that could have been better used to make toilet paper. It's a joke.

Anyway I gotta tell ya Levin. Pretty much everything you said was right on the money, though I for one don't believe in friend zones. I think you can break out of any friendship and become something more, anytime.

[BellaAtTheBall]

I think there is something to that. If a guy talks about other girls with you and says things like "your friend is really cute" or if he points out pretty girls who walk by. I would say- he sees you as a bud. Most guys are smart enough to know that constantly talking about how pretty another girl is- really isn't a way of attracting the girl you do like.

However, bringing up an ex girlfriend in gest or mentioning another girl in passing doesn't tell you too much. However, most guys who have liked me have NEVER mentioned other girls in my presence. I think there is a grain of truth to your hypothosis but of course their is room for error.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend occasionally brings up his last big ex, sometimes if we're doing something he'll mention something about her. Sometimes it's weird, sometimes I just go with it or sometimes he'll mention a girl he use to date, but now they're friends. And for the record he and I are pretty serious, so maybe it's just him, maybe he doesn't want to deal with possible jealous responses as some girls do get vocally jealous and guys don't want to deal with that. But, there is also the chance he likes you, watch other movements he makes with you, how he acts.

[sunwolf94]

No. Human beings are sexual creatures. Just because he talks about other women (non sexually) doesn't mean he's cheating on you or something. Let men talk to other women, be friends with other women, talk about other women, as long as he's faithful to you it's okay.

And demand the same freedom.

[Nevertoknow]

I think you mis-read my question, he doesn't talk about any women to me.

[RandomGuy007]

That's not really true. There are many reasons why a guy might mention other girls even if he likes you. For example:

1. He talks about your female friends as a way to make conversation

2. He talks about other girls as a way of showing that other girls are interested in him

3. He talks about other girls because he is socially inept and doesn't know that it might be rude

These are just some examples!

[lericah]

I think it's an inaccurate indicator. When guys avoid mentioning other women to a girl they are trying to impress that girl by making her feel special and the only women in his life.

Thats just one way to go about things though. Others may want to be honest and mention all the women in their life so they are giving you unfettered access to who they are which is a pretty big deal.

There are many strategies we try ultimately this is a sign that he likes you but not a universal sign

[Blobb]

Utter bullsh*t as a general rule. But yeah, he couldl ike you...

[DavidSunder]

Actually it depends on the girl.

Guys talk about other women only if she is not shy to provoke that "Im not intimidated by beauty,you gotta qualify yourself"

When she is shy,they don't about other women so as not to intimidate her.

[-StillWater-]

Nope...not really...it may mean he's simply gay...

[Nevertoknow]

Ha-ha, I've always wondered, we flirt and make jokes about having sex, again that means nothing, but I like to think he'd trust me enough to tell me if he was gay.

[-StillWater-]

Yep...I have a friend who's gay but she hasn't yet told me...

I think she thinks it's implied and that it's a public secret.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think it means anything

[Anonymous]

No