When a guy doesn't call when he says he will?

I have this problem it seems like with every guy I'm ever with or even just friends with. The guys say ill call you later or call me whenever.So what does that mean?


Most Helpful Guy

  • It usually means he's not very dependable and any relationship you might have with him will be the same. It also means he's not very interested in you because to them that's an easy way for them to not get too involved or have to explain. That's about like, I'll talk with you later. That means nothing and no commitment. Some guys mean that when they say. I'll call you later. Or I'll see you later. Don't take that personally. However, if you want to conquer that, the next time a guy tells you that, kinda confirm that. If he says, I'll call you around 6, then say back, okay at 6 then I'll be looking for your call. If he still doesn't call, let him know asap, and if he doen't have a good excuse, check his name off your list and never answer his calls should he call until he makes an apology to you.


What Guys Said 5

  • Yeah its a case of the man is trying to play it cool, a lot guys believe in the old philosophy of 'treat em mean keep em keen'. Personally I don't like it. I know women that hate it when men don't text or call back in time, or till the next day. However at the same time, a lot of women want the man more when this happens. So good guys like me, who text and ring often, often find ourselves being shunned and often blanked by the women. So its often no pleasing women either way!

    • Well I can't stand it when people don't call or text back. It drives me up the wall.

  • Call me whenever means he wants you to call him, so he knows your interested and that your not just being polite by responding to him. It also means that you can call him at anytime and he doesn't mind.

  • it means he's acting hard to get. some Guys think that when they treat girls like crap,or when they do not show interest in a girl that they are actually interested in.they will make this girl fall in love with them. now I don't know if this technique works or not,but I think it's stupid.

    • Haha I was gonna give you a down arrow thinking that you agreed with guys acting this way but then I saw that you wrote you think it's stupid so I gave you an up arrow.

    • :-)

    • Hmmmm.... interesting.

  • It means there incosiderate. Women do this to me all the time also. These people have no consideration for someone else.


What Girls Said 3

  • its always the guys responsibility to make the calls.some guys would not agree with this but its true during the initial stages of any relationship

    They will also return your calls to them, if they want to talk to you. , if he is into you, he WILL call. If he doesn't, then be over it. You will only annoy him, and there is no turning back from being annoying. This has never failed, and it never will. I know it's hard to fight the urge.but its gonna be worth it at the end.and wats better than you dumpin him 1st.his loss :)

  • Maybe he forgot? I used to think that if he really likes me then he'll call me, but then I he told me that he had a bad memory and was really busy on top of it. So if he said, "I'll call you," I know in a few hours it will have slipped his mind. I quit taking it personal a long time ago! And every once in awhile, I get surprised and he'll call me.at the most random time too!

  • I would say it means his just not that interested in you, if he was he would say when he is going to call and then would call when he says his going to because he wants to show you he does like you.

    Best thing back off, let your actions do the talking. Don't chase him down.