My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. I've been friends with a guy for a few months and we've become very close. We can discuss relationship matters and sex very openly, which ironically I don't feel comfortable doing with my boyfriend. This guy and I have plenty of things to talk about, we get along great and I'm attracted to him physically. We've spent countless hours together and many of them spent chatting about random stuff. I've never done so with my boyfriend.
A few months ago, this guy broke up with an on-off girlfriend of 5 years. Nowadays, it seems that I feel more and more connected with him and less with my boyfriend. This guy often talks to me about his past experiences (sex and why things didn't work out with his ex). I feel like such exposure to his "boyfriend" self implies that I'm not that far into friend zone. Am I wrong?
Should I let go of my relationship because there lacks passion? Or is it just that "grass is greener on the other side" feeling? I feel like I'm on auto-pilot just waiting to get into a relationship with that other guy if things don't work out. Truth is, I don't feel like I get along with my boyfriend near as much as I do with any of my closest guy friends and this one in particular.
*Note: I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend. It's not the point.
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If I were you I'd leave my boyfriend - this is not in hope of being with the other guy. The way you talk about the other guy and how close you've become to him make me think that you shouldn't be in a relationship with your current bf.
What's the point of having a boyfriend (exclusive) and then going to meet other guys to build up a really close relationship with them to the point where it beats your relationship with your current bf? It's like an ever moving train, changing destinations - changing boyfriend without thinking what you're doing is unfair to your boyfriend. It's like hey I'll go out with you but while I'm with you I'm going to build other relationships up instead of commiting to work on ours ONLY (a relationship with your boyfriend is meant to be different to a male friend) - at least to the point where you figure out if it's beneficial to both.
What I'm trying to say is, your relationship with your boyfriend is meant to be special, it's meant to have things that your relationship with other male friends don't. To the point where you wouldn't even consider dating a friend over your boyfriend. If you weren't satisfied with your current relationship, it would be fair to leave and only then would it be okay to look elsewhere.0
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