I've always wondered if I am attractive or not. I came across tmy now best friend who is my fun bright spot and she has brought out my confidence and I feel more of a go getter/outgoing person, but it's still hard to know. I've only been asked out a couple times and I'm 20 for pete's sake. Never been in a serious relationship because the guys just want one thing ( I find out) and usually we aren't together in the first place we just date once maybe twice. Most times when the guy had asked me out I ended up saying no because he didn't get paid (why would you not save up knowing we're going on a date a week or 2 in advance) and they wanted me to pay and I just don't think that's right for a first date with someone.
I have straight bright natural blond hair shoulder length, blue green eyes. I am nicely curvacious and overall good looking. I love to have fun, laugh and goof around. I'm intelligent, caring, easy going and my friends tell me I'm an awesome person to be around. I play video games, go to college for architecture, and hang out with my friends with most of my time. So why does no body want to go out with me? I've wondered this a long time. One of my friends said jokingly when she was talking about ourselves, "maybe we are just too attractive to approach". So is that why? Is it just because guys my age are like this? Is it me? or something else? ugh I just don't know...it's something I've needed to figure out. And asking friends doesn't help since I can't get a good perspective on the subject. so help? Please?
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I'm in your same situation, and honestly, I think its either the way our generation is or just guys our age in general. As my brother and father put it, guys in their twenties are generally after "one thing" and don't really become available for a serious relationship or dating until they are ready to settle down in later years. So like others have said, just use this time and be true to yourself and not settle for less or become a "slut". You know what you want, so until you find someone with similar values, use this time to better yourself. Maybe go to places where guys with similar interests and morals would be, perhaps dinner parties instead of bars, volunteer for various things like the humane society :)
PS- this is weird, but I'm also studying Architecture! :D I'm about to transfer to Boston Architectural College! :D1