My current boyfriend has an ex that he dated 3 years ago. They dated for 5 years on and off, and they ended because she lied about being pregnant..
He talks about how much that hurt him, when I asked him about it.
I said "Do you still love her?" His response was "I will always love her" I said "why?" he says "because she was my first love"
I said "Okay, so if you saw her now, and she wanted to get back together, would you?" and he said "No, I wouldn't" and I asked why and he said "Because I don't know her anymore"
Then I asked him "did you want kids?" he said "we never talked about it, but when she told me, I was ready. But I'm not ready for kids right now" and I asked "why?" he said "because we are barely making it now, money wise, I don't want to raise a kid where I can't give it everything it wants"
What does all this mean?
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well the first love is very important its the first person you truly care about and while a lot of times it doesn't work out its the experience for future relationships and it gives you a tast of what's to come in future, more serious relationships. I'd say its natural he doesn't want kids they are a huge respoonsibility and you want the best for them a lot of people feel that if they can't give their kids everything they want they're failures. now I could be wrong but that's what I think0