So I'm 24 years old now and I have never in my life gone out on any dates with any girls and have little knowledge about dating other than cliche stuff. Is there any particular reason I have never dated before? It makes me sad I never spend time with any girls and the longer I go without it the more sad I seem to get :(. I am nice to women, try to dress nice in public, and work hard at school to be intelligent so why do I never date ever? Oh yeah I'm a virgin too btw.. :((
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Okay, here's what you do.
Step one: RELAX.
Step two: the end.
Seriously, I know it is really hard not to be with someone while you are watching everyone else have a relationship, but TRUST me. It is much better this way for now.
Reasons why you should stay single for now:
-1. you aren't actually majorly crushing on a girl, so what's the point in dating one? For the status? For meaningless sex? consider your motives. The reason for dating should be to get to know someone that you really like a lot better.
-2. relationship built on attraction RARELY last as long as relationships built on a strong friendship that has already been tested by fire. (ever heard the phrase, "I married my best friend?")
-3. You have objectivity. You aren't currently clouded by your own emotions when it comes to relationships. You are able to see all parts of the situation objectively. The second you let yourself be carried away by someone, all logic disappears. You lower your standards without even realizing it, and set up these lofty expectations that just come crashing down. As long as you force yourself to think things through, you will have control over yourself.
-4. The free time... Think about it - In a relationship, what do people have time for? school, work, housework, and dating. It's kind of a time-sucking activity. And what do you do with the free time you currently have? If your answer isn't "actively seeking a career for to support a family someday of course," then I think you need to reevaluate where you're headed in life. What is the point in dating if you haven't even found who you are going to be yet? You can't start a relationship with someone when you don't even know who you are.
-5. No Drama... This one fits right into number 4 as well. If you're busy becoming your future self, how could you possibly have time for the drama of ex-girlfriends? Because, face it- most people get it right the first time, so it's practically inevitable that you will have at LEAST one ex. The longer you postpone that, the better off you'll be.
Here's what you do:
Treat women with respect. Like sisters, only less... related. Be there for them when they need you, and be a friend to them. One day, you will realize that one of these lady friends is your perfect dream girl from fantasy land and you can get married and live happily ever after. (maybe not those EXACT words... but you get the idea.) You will already know how a relationship will work between the two of you, since you will have "perfected" your friendship. You will be well on your way to becoming the kind of man that can make any woman proud. And once this happens, it's unlikely that a best friend will dump you in a way likely to cause drama.1
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