I'm sure this question has been asked before in one way shape or form, but that's OK. I would like to revive it and make it my own.
Anyway, I'm a very short guy. 5'4, and I feel that it has really killed me in the dating world. I've really struggled to get GF's or even a date for that matter, even though girls constantly tell me I'm attractive, dress well, am smart, a good guy, would make a good dad, have a good career, etc. I'm also fully aware of how to interact with girls. I'm not some inept loser who practically throws up out of nervousness when talking to a girl.
It just seems that by process of elimination it must be height that is causing me to get rejected over and over again (even by girls shorter than me), even though on every other front people always tell me how I have so much going for me. I just don't understand how I can feel like I'm doing everything right and have limited success in relation to my peers who do almost everything wrong and have dates and GF's coming out of their ears.
So again, am I pretty much screwed in dating since I'm so short, will 90% of women simply not give me the time of day because they just cannot be attracted to someone of my height?
- You're totally screwedVote A
- You still have a chance but its GREATLY hindered by your height.Vote B
- You still have a chance but its only SLIGHTLY hindered by your height.Vote C
- Won't effect your ability to get dates at all. Your height is a non issue.Vote D
I can hold my own and have no problems pursing a girl when the opportunity presents itself. I actually coach most of my guy friends on how to handle getting a girl.
Most Helpful Girl
I know lots of short guys who do fine in the dating world. Can they usually land the hottest girls on the planet? No, but neither can average dudes who are tall, either. Average folks usually end up with average folks. Also, TONS of girls are 5'4 and under. I've known many short girls who've told me they prefer to date short guys, because its easier to kiss and hold them.
One thing I wonder is how much you invest before asking a girl out? The fact that you mention dudes who do a bunch of sh*t wrong and still get dates makes me thing you hang out with guys who just keep swinging away. A conscientious, self-aware guy may be more selective -- and that is a GOOD thing. But you don't want to put a lot of emotional investment into girls you barely know in the early stages of dating. You want to get out there and meet as many girls as possible and try to get a feel for all of them at first. You don't have to be a creep or manwhore ... just make as many contacts as possible and put those feelers out.0