I dated a guy for almost half a year. We stopped seeing each other after having an argument two months ago and had not spoken since then. Long story short, we were not in a relationship because he was not ready to be committed. After our last date, I communicated to him that I felt mistreated, while he felt very insulted by the words I used. He missed our dates twice because he fell asleep. Sometimes he would act very cold as if we were distant friends or just disappear for a few days before getting back in touch again. Also, he used to text and call me to meet up at night and never really did anything he promised.
However, I tried to make up and asked him if we could meet up for a talk, but it seemed that he tried to avoid seeing me. So, I decided to stop bothering him. He did not make any effort to initiate contact with me either. Last week was my birthday so he sent me a private message on Facebook, saying "It's been awhile. Happy birthday. I hope that everything is going well. All the best." I only replied that it was good to hear from him and I hoped that he was doing well too.
Could it indirectly mean that he wants to see each other again? There was one time that we did not go out for a month and he said something like "We haven't done anything in awhile. We should do something soon again". On the other hand, he might just want to be friendly and did not want me to misinterpret his intention? Because if he really wanted to talk to me, he could have just sent me that message via whatsapp instead of Facebook. We never communicated through Facebook before so I find this quite weird.
Could anyone please share their thoughts with me? Thank you.
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Woah woah woah. Why are you trying to make up to him, if you didn't do anything wrong?
First of all, it was he who missed your dates because he fell asleep (not very responsible, so does he even care about you?). He acts cold, and when told of you feeling mistreated, he feels insulted, as if he's perfect, as if he can't make mistakes. Is he a good listener? Do you really want to get with someone who doesn't do what he promises?
"It's been awhile" doesn't mean anything bad. It just means that it's been a long time since you've communicated, and it means he may or may not want to get together again. Or, it could mean he's just seeking a friendship. It's a neutral phrase to start with.
It doesn't mean anything yet. You'll find out more after a few more times of communication.
Guys will sometimes say that to guys too, so it's not just for a relationship.2
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