Ugh, I know how you feel. My fiancée loves me very much, but during our dating stage of our relationship, we broke up for a while and she went out with this other guy because we didn't think we'd ever get back together. She told me she never liked him she just wanted to get over me, but she's always mentioning him when something "reminds" her of him. It really drives me INSANE. I've promised her I'd stop this because I know how much she loves me and I know it bothers her when I'm always so jealous, but it's very hard. Sometimes you just have to remind yourself that she's with you, and if she really wanted to be with her ex - she would be there or at least trying to be. If she's with you, I'm sure she only wants you and you just need to be patient when she's talking about him. Maybe try to change the subject, it usually works for me :)
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Two things:
You need to be able to tell the difference between her talking about a story or situation where the ex happened to be there, or just a story about the ex. The first you should not sweat at all and the second you should ask that she only talks about it if she needs to, ie, she is still getting over something hurtful said etc.
She needs to understand that if she just goes on and on about her ex boyfriends, she might need some time to decide what she wants to actually do.
she needs to drop it, if she likes you she needs to know not to talk about her ex if she's already been in relationships before being with you she should know not to being talking about her other previous boyfriends. I'm srry, usually it means that she hasn't moved on, maybe you should just ignore what she says about her exes and pretend nothings going on.
You should talk to her and explain how much it's affecting you. If she cares about your relationship she will stop. If you don't think that helps then next time she brings him up you bring your exes up too. Shell notice and shell get bother as much as you do if she loves you.
I talk about my ex all the time, but my last 5 years were with him. So if I talk about anything in the past he was probably there with me.
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she knows she's not really supposed to talk about exes with me since I'm the current boyfriend
sorry that's only a rule for the insecure
She's with you not him.tell her to stop talking about her ex boyfriend and that you want her to focus on you two. if she doesn't then she obviously doesn't care about you as much as she should.
My girlfriend talks about her ex boyfriends all the time but u can learn from it because she is telling you what her ex did so u can not do the same as her ex just listen and I am sure she will tell u what happened with her and her ex and don't do the things she said what happened with her and her ex girls love to talk let them and learn
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