I'll admit my style isn't something you'd find in the average store. I like dark, vampy/ Victorian gothic/Lolita style clothing and shoes he tried to explain what he thinks would look good on me - and its tumblr girly clothing I texted him, the way I put myself together makes me feel confident but all he does is bring me down He makes nasty comments to me to try and make me "change myself" its really upsetting me i really love my boyfriend we have had the best memories together :( I don't know what to do :(
You sound one very exciting lady!! I feel that you have a lot in common with another lady that used to be here. She has the most incredible style I've ever seen! You sound like you could be wearing Dark Star or Raven clothes.
You must stick with how you feel most comfortable. It is your life to do as you please and to dress as you please. If he can't handle that, then that's his problem.
Maybe you could ask the opinion of friends, both guys and girls. They could give you better opinions as they could see exactly how you look.
If it's any consolation, my mum is in her 40's now, but being skinny, she still looks terrific in goth clothing!!
Why did he even begin to be your boyfriend if the way you dress affects him so much? The level of his intelligence and your willingness to be trampled on is affecting your relationship, not your dressing style.
Be yourself, respect yourself and dump his loser ass, or stay with him and change everything about yourself to suite his perception of who you should be.
Thats his problem. Dont change what you love about yourself. Especially if he is making nasty comments. Your SO is supposed to support you. Were you always in this style, because if he didn't like it to a point where he is making nasty comments and bringing you down , why did he get with you?
GET RID OF HIM!!! what a fuckin dick!! If he makes nasty comments at you for how you dress its only a matter of time before he's out behind your back lookin for some barbie or hipster girl who dresses like he wants so get rid of him now and save yourself some heart ache!!!
Your style sounds really cute, and you should tell him that if he wants to change you and what you like, he doesn't care about you. It doesn't mean you should break up but he should know that it's a sign that he is selfish and doesn't value your interests. Maybe he can change :)
if he's letting his family's opinion change HIS opinion of YOU then he does NOT deserve you and doesn't TRULY love you! no one who truly loves you would ever try to change you or your behavior unless your behavior was self-destructive or harmful to other people - and fashion does none of these things!
He fell in love with you for who you are, it's not fair of him to try and change you. If he can't take you for who you are he doesn't deserve you. Don't change if you like the way you are now! It's your life and your style.