Unfortunately, physical attraction DOES play a role in genuine attraction. So black hair (short) and pale skin combined with a non-mainstream lifestyle and a shy-ish personality will make me weak in the knees, and will make my heart race, and will make my body tremble. Unfortunately, people like this are terribly hard to run into. You-----LMFAO wooow I actually just saw one (well, sort of...) from where I'm sitting, but you get the point. People like the kind I just described are hard to come by. And because mainstream actually turns me OFF, and because I will only date someone that I have a GENUINE attraction to that is void of lust, I have payed the price of never been in a relationship or kissed, or any of that. Perhaps that is why most relationships fail at some point. Because people will take what they can get in a partner, then fail to have the proper amount of communication to get around any negative differences. For me, I'm just waiting for the point that I meet someone with the above description and go from there. That would be someone with whom I would feel euphoric just to be sitting next to. And that kind of feeling inside me can only be generated by a girl with pale skin and short-ish dark hair (basically anything that is NOT the mainstream common long hairstyle). It would also take personality, but this particular look is a must in my case. My point is that this black hair is not too harsh, it is beautiful. Don't let society not having this be the standard get in the way. (Society has bad taste too >_<) Besides, I see a consistency among people with these looks to be more serious about love. Perhaps there is a culture that has arisen as a result of the way society treats them? Who knows... But as the saying goes, "Black is beautiful", in this case being hair. . . I know I sound crazy, but I spend a lot of time thinking about this stuff since I'm picky, yet really would like having a gf.