Well, I'm fat, as in very obese. Most people don't think I weigh as much as I do, but I wouldn't lie about it so you can trust me lol I'm 5'3/5'4 and 230 lbs.
So two things happened recently that spark my curiosity about the attitudes toward fat women on gag. My friend (who is also fat lol) showed me this forum and they were bashing fat women specifically. I thought it was pretty interesting. I already know society judges women more when it comes to looks, so I shouldn't be surprised. However, I was still kind of like "but you're fat too?" at this guy who admitted to being fat but continued bashing fat women with everyone else. The gist of it was this - fat men are "disgusting" as well but they usually have redeeming qualities in personality that fat women don't often have, like intelligence, they're funny, nice to be around, and they aren't as insecure and miserable about their weight. I already have my opinions about this but I'm curious to see what you guys have to say about that here. Be honest, do you agree or disagree with this?
And then my mom just called concerned after she saw some special on TV about how society is cruel to fat women and she kept asking me if people were mean to me, blah blah. She's just concerned and I guess doesn't want me to be treated poorly. Plus, this is a perfect way for her to transition into " and here's why you should lose weight" rans lol
What are your views on fat people? Do you see them as anyone else? Do you find them especially disgusting or inspiring some other negative emotion within yourself? DO you see a difference between fat women and fat men? Be honest.
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Hey, you're the exact same size as my girlfriend.
To be honest, I believed some dumb stereotypes about fat people before I met her. I didn't think they were gross or anything, but I did assume things about their health that isn't necessarily true. I'm skinny but my girlfriend is healthier than I am, she takes really good care of herself but doesn't lose weight. I also used to think fat people were inherently insecure, but she proved to me that once you move past all of society's fat-shaming bullsh*t, you get your autonomous confidence back. She loves herself more than any other girl I know, haha.
I do agree that there's a double standard when it comes to fat women vs fat men. Fat men get to be called a "teddy bear" at least, but fat women seem to be viewed in more disgust because they already have really narrow standards of attractiveness to fit into. When/if you get treated like crap because you're fat, that doesn't mean you need to lose weight, it means other people need to grow up and mind their own business.2