If a guy just wants to be friends why does he say and do these things?!?!
So I have this guy friend who talks "dirty/perverted" to me and says he doesn't want a relationship with anyone and doesn't wanna date anyone. He knows I'm not going to have sex with anymore guys until I'm in a relationship too, but why does he ask me sexual questions and try to get to know me when it comes to that? Another HUGE questions is, why does he ask what I'm doing on the weekends sometimes, and why did he say "oh sorry you must be with your boy" when I didn't reply to any texts from him for about 2 days after he saw that I had went on a date with a guy? Or, why does he say something about hanging out with other girls even though he hasn't been on a date in over 8 months and hasn't had sex in a long time, but he'll say there's one chick he's thought about dating but that's about it and he only likes her because she's mean as hell?!?!? WTF he'll be 25 in September..CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS PLEASE! I told him no more bs talk with me if he just wants to be friends because that's BS and just wrong...so he wants to be friends and said he'd stop he promises. He also wanted to know why I get quiet and uptight when he talks about other girls (isn't that a given)?!?
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Firstly, take a step back, breathe in, breathe out. You're way too over worked about this, you have to just calm down a little bit about the whole situation. I know it can be frustraiting, annoying, confusing, upseting, or a combination of any of those, but it's important to keep your self at a controled rate to think and perform what you feel is the best thing to do.
Secondly, as soon as a I read that he doesn't want to get in a relationship, but talks dirty, I immediatly thought "okay, he just wants a fling/one night stand." Well, let me put it this way, no guy is really going to talk to a girl like that unless he wants to do that, ever. He might not want a relationship with you for whatever reasons he might have, but he would certainly like to... well yea. And adding in that he hasn't had sex in a while makes it just that much more obvious. Honestly it's hard to say whether he likes you in any other way aside from that way, but he should be mature enough at 25 to realize that if you want an actual relationship with a girl, talking dirty isn't a good place to start.
That girl he is talking about that he likes might be you. Can't say I really know if you are "mean" to him as you didn't get into any description there. I would say if you really like him (even though talks dirty, which I personaly find very disrepectful and just... wrong to a friend) then ask him out. Just take it slow, make sure you don't hop into bed on the first date, unless all you are after is a one night stand as well, but for any sort of meaning relationship, it's a bad start.
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Okay, I'm in a situation almost exactly like yours.
It seems like he thinks that because you two have been friends for so long that you will put up with his childish behavior. BUT YOU SHOULDN'T. Chances are, he does want to have sex with you, but it's obvious that he doesn't want a relationship, which is unfair to you as a person.
He also sounds like a jealous person because of his fascination with what you may [or may not] be doing with other guys when he's not around