Why is this introvert guy hot and cold?

[googlenexus]

Soem days we will talk and sit together during the lecture and some days he doesn't even sit beside me or acknowledge my existence. Im so confused

[filthwheesel]

I am classified as an introvert. if you read about introverts on 16personalities. com it will explain just what he thinks. it is just how they run. If you are with him for several hours out of the day or he has been in a social situation that requires interaction between people, there is something I call a social battery, and when his social battery gets low he needs to be alone, and doing his own thing to recharge it. Which can explain the hot and cold thing. This is why I have no friends, because after a social event, although I enjoyed it I feel mentally drained and empty at the end of it. It can sometimes take days to recharge.

[googlenexus]

wow, awkwardly well explained haha. But could be it. I could sit beside him almost all classes if i wanted but i also want to give him his space because he usually has headphones on and it feels like to me that thats a sign that says "i want to be alone".

[serious]

Well there is very little detail in your question, there are some important details missing here:

1. Does he even know you? if so then how well does he know you? like acquaintances, classmates or as friends?

2. Do you know him? how much do you know about him? and how long has this been going on?

3. Does this bother you?


From your details in the question and if he is just a random introverted guy then I don't think it even means anything, you could be just overthinking about things.

If it's just another classmate or a random guy then you have no reason to be concerned?

[googlenexus]

Yeah sorry I later realized that there wasn't enough detail. Id say were starting to become. something between acquiantances to friends. We would talk and walk to class and out of class at times, talk about some different things and everything would be great. But sometimes, some classes he acts like were strangera and I dont approach him too much thinking he would be bothered

[serious]

Well, I don't know but maybe he doesn't want others in the class to know that you both are acquaintances or friends or somewhere in between. If it's only something that's happening when you are in class then it could be the reason that I told you above, but otherwise outside class and when you two are together it's fine right!

[googlenexus]

I highly doubt he minds that people would know we're acquaintances because he does sit with me in class and talk to me at times. But then again he never does that sometimes and acts very polar and it confuses me

[serious]

Well then I have no idea what it could be

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[indie_rock_chick]

You can ask him politely? I'm an introvert and there are a lot of times I'm not in a mood to talk with a soul. In university I still sit with my friends but sometimes I don't talk and just listen to them because I'm not in the mood. Could be it

[googlenexus]

yeah i feel like he does that too

[indie_rock_chick]

If he is friendly when you're talking then I don't think he has a problem with you. Most of the days after one point i just endure being and talking with others and I just want to go home. Not because I don't like them, that can happen even if I'm with my best friend but I'm getting tired after some time and I need alone time to recharge

[Barturi]

I'm an introvert too so I think I understand introverts feel. I don't look for company as much as many other people but I do enjoy hanging out with others in moderation. If the guy is anything like me he would probably like if you just came to talk to him. You might be misinterpretinging his actions as rudeness.

[googlenexus]

yeah i sit with him and talk to him at times but some classes he has his headphones n so i interpret it as him wanting to be alone. am i correct?

[orphanedmind]

He's got a laundry list of things to complete in his head that are interfering with his time to participate in the real world. When he completes his chores up there, he can sneak out and enjoy himself for a while.

[Messiah89]

Cause sometimes people feel they dont wanna show you all there cards in one play. lol If i like someone they getting my all. Love doesn't wait😀 yoy should try to if you like him though.

[DaddyRollingStone]

Introverts like being alone and do not like initiating conversation, it just depends on the day. Have you tried talking to him?

[googlenexus]

yeah i already talk to hi occasionally but at different times he acts different, more cold

[DaddyRollingStone]

Don't take it the wrong way

[sp33d]

He might think if he's too eager you will lose interest. Let the games begin..

[googlenexus]

lol fam idek if he's interested in me

[abundantlyrich]

He needs his space.

[googlenexus]

yeah this is what i thought as well