MIXED SIGNALS...FWB...OR MORE OR WTF....??

[Anonymous]

OK so I met this this guy on craigslist and we hung out and hit it off. we hooked up on the first night and we have been friends with benefits for about 2 months now. we would hook up about once or twice a week. half way through the ordeal I started to get attached. when we were together at time I felt like he cared about me he was sweet and caring. and others I was just his f*ck buddy.

last week my friend and I paid him a visit. he wanted to have a 3some...we did. but my friend saw through his charade and got him good. we both finished and left him hanging...if you get what I mean. this totally hurt his ego because he's a bit cocky about his "general". my friend and him were writing to each other using the notepad app on the iphone...i totally trust this girl. she told me that he said that if she didn't join us we needed to leave because if she wasn't gonna do him I wasn't gonna get any either... I'm already starting to crush on this guy and what my friend said he said hurt my feelings...

after we finished and left him hanging we got dressed and left. but like a dumb ass I forgot my purse...so I had to call him back and get it. when I came to get it we had a nice little talk. I confronted him and said that the things he said last night were messed up. he told me not to take anything of what he said to heart because he didn't mean it. I said I didn't care because you were just a booty call just like I was to you. I tried to cut things off with him but he won't let me. he keeps saying he would rather keep my as a friend and not a f*ck buddy because a friend is more important. he made me cry last night and I know he felt bad. I was never able to look at me straight in the eye while I was crying. I told him how I felt and all he said was that he doesn't have time for a girl right now but he never denied having feelings for me. I keep trying to cut him off but he will just not let go. he keeps saying we can be friends and nothing more, but he also said that the temptation will always be there...idk what to make of this. HELP...? I don't understand what he wants. he says we don't have to hook up but he wants to be friends and do things normal friends do but he also says we will tempt each other. and the way he acts around me is confusing too...he will be sweet and then he'll be an ass...ugh my head is going to explode...help!

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LET ME CLEAR SOMETHING UP...last night when he made me cry it was 3 am...he spent over an hour with me making sure I was OK before I left home. he told me he didn't want to see me cry and that he felt bad for what had happened and that he wants me around.

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as a friend rather than a f*ck buddy because he cares about me. HELP!

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we talked again...no he says were not f***ing at all he said this with a smirk on his face. he also said he wants to prove that I'm more than ass.

[NewYorkCity]

woaw that is a big riddle. Let me help you out to slow this riddle. First things first, if he said those things to your friend about you that means he don't care about you sorry. Because guys who like girls will never say sh*t about her to her friend on the contrary he should of said good things to make you even more attractive to him you know what I'm talking about. And all this friend sh*t ye maybe he want's to talk a.k.a. f*** body you again when ever he has time. He will probably say ohh I missed you would you like to come to my place and talk bang bang bang you felt for him AGAIN and at the end he will say well thank you very much but now you have to live. Watch I guaranty you he will do it he will take advantage of you. Basically I'm so sorry but he doesn't like you he likes only having sex with you and your friend period sorry.

[NewYorkCity]

My point is when I showed them I really don't give a F about them ONLY THEN they showed me that they are interested in me and really liked me and loved me and gave me full control of them. But before me being a bad ass or an asshole nobody even looked up me, everybody were saying you too sweet for me or too nice I don't want to hang out with you BUT someone will because girls like sweet and nice guys Bullsh*t they don't, they like bad-ass guys who treat them like sh*t because in their mind

[NewYorkCity]

they think they can change them into good guys. That's what's going on in their head and that's why all asshole a.k.a. cool guys get girls. I'm the first generation of nice sweet innocent guys who turned bad like real bad and it work 160% even better then I thought. I said all those things to you to make you a point. He is an asshole who don't care about you you need to move on you won't be able to fix him or get him that is IMPOSSIBLE trust me on this one. This is life and sh*t happens but don't get depressed because of it learn adopt and improve things for your own good. Good Luck

[Asker]

Theres more to it...last night when he made me cry he spent an hour with me making sure I was ok. he told me he would rather have me as a friend than a f*** buddy because I meant a lot to him. I could tell it hurt him to see me cry. on top of that he said whenever I need anything to call him because he's there for me.

[NewYorkCity]

Well you can be his friend why not. But it is obviously you want some one more then a friend or Fuck boddy you are not alone lol.

[NewYorkCity]

if you met one guy you can meet another one ;)

[Asker]

Yes I know but there's something about this dumbass I can't put my finger on it.

[NewYorkCity]

You know I really did noticed something really bad about girls that axially made me to change. For me it is a good change but for girls I don't know. Girls like asshole guys they really do. I was the sweetiest guy in the world I wouldn't hurt a fly and I was single and never got a G.F. until 19. When I said to my self world is a sh*tty place and I have to treat it as a sh*t. And you know what happened I had one G.F. that I didn't even care about but she loved me so much and I had another one.