Why do girls cancel the first date/hang out?

[ItalianBro]

Just wondering why girls cancel the first date, they wait until the day that the plans were set and cancel it last minute. I found that the most common excuse is related to hanging out with her friends instead.

"My friends just came to town, sorry but I can't go tonight :("

"I just made plans to have dinner with my friend, sorry :("

"My girlfriends are in town and we are all going to go out tonight :/ I'm sorry.

I made plans to hang out with two different girls on Friday and Saturday. Just like always the girls both cancel and apologize to me with a poor excuse. This has happened on numerous occasions and I have never met a girl that didn't cancel.

I feel like most girls play games, I am starting to wonder if there is a handbook that all girls read that tells them how to play games and be annoying. For example, Rule 1: Always cancel the first date and make up an excuse. Rule 2: Apologize...

I feel like girls always apologize. if I earned a dollar for every girl that said "sorry" in a sentence I would be f***ing RICH! If I received a dollar for every guy that said "sorry" in a sentence I would need to be on welfare. Girls abuse that word way too much.

[Guiltz]

There is indeed date counselors (male and female) that tell girls to flake the first date as part of a play hard to get strategy. I really doubt it work. i get pissed off when someone does it to me, specially when the excuse is frivolouss. It appears some guys do it to girls too. Some people don't go because they are not really interested, want to appear less interested than they truly are or get nervous and sabotage themselves. I believe the majority of this people really have the problems they clain to have, but if they were more interested and more comfortable with the person they set the date with they would bypass these problems.

[Gregs]

just keep this statement in mind to avoid frustration "I never know where I stand with a woman until I f*** her" don't ask me why, but I found that until you have sex with a woman she can do a complete 180 on you at any moment, that's why you never know and you go for as many girls as you want until one commits to you rather than putting your eggs in one very indecisive basket

[Shaun]

And then you still don't know.

[Gregs]

well for me, after sex about 99% of the time I can do what I want, either relationship or more sex, I read most girls try to justify sex and not being seen as a "slut" by pushing for a relationship, maybe that's why after sex you are set, at least from my experience

[Shaun]

I get in a relationship first. But yeah, once we're f***ing, they're wrapped. : D

[Anonymous]

I don't know, but it bothers me so much when guys do that. even worse is when they reschedule and cancel that too. no idea what that's about

but just move on, she/he is flakey. you don't want that kind of person in your life anyways

[slipslender]

i've never cancelled the first date/hangout- I think it makes a bad first impression. maybe you should broaden your dating pool. I also don't apologize for anything if I don't mean it.

reassess your rulebook.

[emmabee11]

Hmm... well... being a girl id never do that but others might do that to keep you more eager to see them and to chase them.

[Killfest400]

Sometimes sh*t happens. As far as I'm concerned, if she can't make a first date for whatever reason, I'd most likely be willing to give her a second chance (unless I have a good reason not to). If she cancels the second date, then I'll leave it up to her to set up a third attempt and move on if she doesn't.

[Godfatherman]

that is rule number one for women when it comes to dating. make him sweat.

[red324]

A girl cancelled on me today and I'm not even going to reply back. Fuck it she screwed up my whole day. I'm not going to be dumb enough to waste anymore time on her.

[Anonymous]

why would they cancel? I never have and never will even if the person isn't cute...If I plan something with someone then I won't backout of it unless I got sick or something...then I would hope they understand:)

[red324]

I'm always true to my word and if for some reason I don't come through I make up for it and then some. Unfortunately we are a rare breed.

[Shaun]

You can either play the games back or give up. I wouldn't ask someone who cancelled on the day of out again.

[red324]

The one time I had this happen it took about 30 minutes of texting back and forth to convince her to go out so I wonder if girls test a guy to see if he really wants her. idk.

[Anonymous]

I've had guys do this too -- it usually means the person has crappy organizational skills and is kind of flakey.