My boyfriend stood me up

[sara2]

My boyfriend was to come over and see me and never showed up. I text him and he said I would not understand. What does that mean? I don't know what to do should I leave him alone?

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Something probably came up that prevented him from coming over, that was a good enough reason to him but he is probably afraid that it's not a good enough reason for you.

So, maybe a friend came over and they chatted and lost track of time, or he wasn't feeling well and didn't feel like coming over and napped instead, things like that... who knows? It could be a number of things.

Just ask him to be honest with you.

[Valerie87]

Even so, he should have the decency to call her before the date to cancel or explain what happened and maybe even schedule something for the evening/next day..

[samhradh_leannan]

Sometimes things come up- that's life. But if he cares about you and values your relationship, he shluld be more than willing to offer an honest explanation for why he didn't show up. The fact that he isn't is a red flag. Have a serious talk with him about it, and if he won't be open, consider whether or not the relationship is healthy and worth staying in.

[Lett0385]

I don't think you should dump him because he stood you up, If you keep thinking like that start breaking up with boyfriends for little things like that your going to have a long list of EXs, Just wait for him to meet up again, if the cycle continues then yeah you can dump him

[ruby_red]

The problem is not the fact that he failed to show up- its the way he acted about it. When you stand someone up, you apologize and explain as soon as you can. You willingly offer legitimate, honest reasons for what happened. That's what being considerate and polite means. You don't wait for the other person to bring the subject up, and you don't make cryptic, unapologetic excuses for your absence. She shouldn't dump him just for not showing, but she should if he keeps up his attitude about it.

[Lett0385]

when unexpected things happen, sometimes your mind is not in the mood of giving a detail explanation of why I missed the date. I'm sure once his relaxed and over comes his situation he will explain himself . But you can just dump your Boyfriend because you were not satisfy of his answer over a text

[ruby_red]

"You wouldn't understand" and no other apology or acknowledgment whatsoever? To me, that's just plain inconsiderate and shows a real lack of regard for my feelings and our relationship. "I'll explain later" might be passable if there's a good reason why he couldn't explain right away. But you're very tolerant if you wouldn't be bothered by a response like "You wouldn't understand". It's not just the lack of an immediate explanation, there's a defiant attitude about it that I find very rude.

[Lett0385]

yes, it might be rude, and all but we say rude things all the time, and not because one time you said and did something wrong you to need break, up, if its not happening constantly give him a second chance, suck your price and be unsustainable, don;t let your emotions control you relax .

[DeepBlue]

If by leave him alone you mean dump him, yes. A man is only is good as his word. If you say you are going to be somewhere you should be there, and if you can't make it there needs to be a much better explanation that some cryptic bullsh*t like "you wouldn't understand".

[xHarveyDx]

Amen