I think most guys will agree that your hair color is not the issue. That said, I'm sure there are exceptions out there.
Here is the point you are missing. Just as there are guys who are good at approaching a woman in a way that comes off as sincere and flattering; there are things women do to both encourage and support men to do so. It doesn't sound like you get that. It is a dance and there is a follower and a leader and anyone who's done partner dancing will tell you that although a strong lead can make most partners look good, a good follower can turn an awkward lead into a confident looking one.
Here is what you need to think about:
1) Do you know how to be genuinely gracious with other people, especially strangers? It isn't a man or woman thing. It's everyone. Learn how to do it.
2) Do you smile and make eye contact with people in general. Some women are so freaked out about being hit on they walk through life with their eyes diverted and a constipated look on their face. That isn't going to get people to ask you out.
3) Do you assume that every conversation you might have with a man you don't know is just a ploy to ask you out? Get over it. Half the planet are men and not all of them are hitting on you.
4) Have you taken to making up boyfriends or working things into the conversation to try and avoid getting asked out by the "wrong" guy? Stop. It's obvious and dumb. (leads to number 5)
5) You should assume that the guy you want to ask you out is friends with the guy you don't want to ask you out. Be nice, friendly, and above all gracious to everyone you meet.
Finally, I'd pick up a copy of 'how to win friends and influence people.' It is full of lots of good gems like "ask people about themselves" that work with getting asked out and just being a nice person. If that doesn't work, reask the question on make it about how to flirt with guys.
Good luck.
Are you self conscious about your hair color? If you are it will come through in your body language and that will turn a guy off. If not then OWN IT! Be proud and wear it like a badge of honor. "I'm red on the head and you can love me for it or suck my stiletto boys." They will come in droves.
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Naw I am not intimated by nothing. Let me take that back because if I am broke I have a hard time coming up to a girl but other than that I am not intimated by no one and I have never heard of any guy being intimated by a girl's hair color but I can't speak for everyone.
Well, I once approached and asked out a very attractive red head. I was able to pull her number, but didn't get any further past that. She was a very strong, independent woman. I don't know if that is charactertistic of all red heads though...
Ok well no they not but I have blond hair and I love blondes. It's all about your attitude. If you are nice and show your caring then they won't be intimidated.if your mean and cold seeming then you won't get approached.
It's not the hair color. I think very beautiful women in general intimidate men.
Flirting is different than being asked out. They probably just don't find you romantically attractive.
hair color is not in any way intimidating to me...
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