No. I didn't read your question.
You should apologize.
You're the girl.
You're all spoiled brats, princesses throwing Ken dolls in their nonexistent dens in the Barbie houses in the little rooms in your minds.
Okay, I'll read it now and see if I'm wrong.
Nope. Still right.
You did your own thing and assumed his world didn't fit in with your expectations. He is already trapped in the early 21st century slacker melodrama that is young(er) manhood in the Unspoken Depression era United States.
Poor boy is stuck with his parents, girl has a job, probably a more advanced education, and doesn't care that he waited around for her all night with his dipsh*t parents.
No, wait, he wasn't with his parents. He was at school. But you went out of the way to mention he lives with his parents. So. I get it.
Yep. You're spoiled.
And you're a woman. And you're in the new era. The one after the generation that was semi- fed up with their own mothers' feminism. Grateful, but not inclined to pick up any ERA signs and scream for ratification for fear of the baggage they might have to pick up as well.
You were born in time to watch Mad Men and consider the relevance of Peggy congratulating Megan for coming up with an idea that the men appreciate, and he was born in time to consider the moment Don goes to the opening elevator door, only to eye the the empty chasm of the elevator shaft.
And there he is, probably an admitted slacker, the same as most of the rest of us, still just trying to keep our sorry selves contemporary, relevant, or at least f***able. Knows the wars are bullsh*t. Knows the jobs are bullsh*t - some a**hole with no soul is going to take most of the credit for anything he does, some corporation owns the degree he'd get anyway, we're all just bought and sold commodities and this entire consumer caravan is breaking its own axles.
But the kids are in the back seats, on their iPads/pods/phones/puds, and Dad is either trying to drive while Siri/Garmin/Miss Perfect in the passenger (or driver's) seat is telling him what to do, or he's in the passenger seat, wondering if he'll get to go out and eat tonight.
I should apologize, actually.
It's too heavy. Browbeating.
A wannabe silverback, glowering in the bushes.
For you, in your individual relationship, I'd say you're probably just coming off an odd night with your beau. He's frustrated for his own reasons, which I can't guess.
You'll both apologize if you care. And then talk about...
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I don't think you were a spoiled brat. I think in hindsight, you could call the next time before you pick up food and ask him if he wanted something.
So, dating some guy who still lives at home in a bad neighborhood and makes you feel 'guilty' for the stuff you have and the things you do sounds like a good idea to you?
it sounds to me that's he the spoiled brat not you! you didn't do anything wrong. I mean how much more out of your way could you go to accommodate his neediness? he lives at home with his mommy and daddy and can't even be bothered to eat the food there? and then makes winy comments about how your parents help you out? geez I don't know sweetie. I'd wait for him to come around and even then I think I'd seriosly re-evaluate the relationship. you sound like a good girl and you work hard. and it sounds you're working harder than he is. sorry if I sound mean but there's a lot of really nice guys out there who are willing to work just as hard as you are. take care ok?
I think you probably should have called and asked him if he wanted anything while you were grabbing food, but I don't think you're a spoiled brat. He shoulda kind of just understood that you'd been in the car working for 5 hours and really just wanted to kick back and relax. There just needs to be a little bit of understanding between you both. I think you should tell him how you feel, and there's no reason for him to carry out drama or be THAT upset about anything. You were tired, and you didn't do anything wrong.
Sounds like he's the spoiled brat. His parents cook for him, he lives at home and he didn't like what they were having. You are not beign spoiled. It's called being tired after work!
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You should apologize to us first for torturing us with this essay that we're certainly NOT going to read and then go apologize to him for writing your personal conflicts with him to the world. You are being a spoiled brat by coming here and crying about it, hoping we'll tell you he's a bad bad boyfriend, and poor you... waa waa waa.
He should apologize. Any true man would never say that to the woman he loves, no matter the circumstance.
it seems like you are at no more fault than he is.
so he is wrong to criticize you when his situation is the sameHe thinks you're a spoiled brat because he's a spoiled brat. He's projecting his insecurities on you.
whoever spoiled you should apologize and whoever taught that boy to say those things should apologize too.
You should both apologize.
he should apologize
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