Would you approach a girl who sits alone at lunch?

[feelsbadmang]

Are female loners too hard to approach? Would you approach a social outcast?

[Abhijit3101]

It is very important to know why she is lonely? Is there some emotional shock or disturbance in her recent life or something wrong in her family - leading her to depression? A word of comfort may open up her and help her becoming normal. There should be no intention of getting any advantage of her loneliness - particularly anything about sex. I definitely approach her and get her back in normal social life. Depression is most common and most serious thing in youngsters and elderly persons. Talking with them sympathetically is the only way to bring them back in life.

[feelsbadmang]

I'm a loner because I'm ugly and have been excluded all my life

[Abhijit3101]

I am an Indian. We believe that beauty is not skin deep. Real beauty is your inner qualities and skills for everyday life. About one third of Indians from South are black, but we do not consider them ugly. If you are selfish and cunning to your family and friends - you are ugly, otherwise not. Trust me.

[journeyman1126]

Don't feel alone (no pun intended) - when I'm sitting alone people rarely approach me.

The only way to entice others to reach out is by being friendly...

Try to smile at others, and if you are in the same (insert group here - class, club, fight club...) then say "hey, saw you get your butt kicked last night under the liquor store - oops, forgot the first rule of fight club!"

You know what I mean...

[feelsbadmang]

Thanks. This makes me feel better. Last year I approached a fellow loner but he couldn't hear me so I left =/

[journeyman1126]

That sucks...

I miss social cues from girls sometimes, wrapped up in my own little world. I wish I could talk to women in person like I am able to on here.

Well, maybe better than I do on here.

I think the basis of loner-dom is a little insecurity with a lot of introversion. The trick is learning to be more extroverted by choosing some public activities. I was never more outgoing than I was when I waited tables and bar tended.

Now I just look for work and sit by myself...

[1diamond]

If it were a guy and I wanted to then yes I would. I don't care what society thinks. There could be tonnes of reasons why.

[jmowen]

Not trying to brag but I was the guy I and high school that would sit with those who sat alone. It sucks sitting alone and I was a 'loner' in elementary and middle school so I knew how it felt. One of them even became a girlfriend of mine at one point. Making friends and making them happy always makes me happy.

[feelsbadmang]

Would you even sit with ugly girls?

[jmowen]

Because they have feelings too. I'm a speaker for anti-bullying and I don't judge people by their looks. I wasn't the best looking kid when I was younger. I wore big circular glasses, had acne, and messed up teeth. I was an outcast and didn't have any friends. I learned from that.

[loda1994]

friends don't care (alot) about looks you just have to be clean and neat

[anonymust]

Simple... "Do you mind if I sit here // Do you mind if I sit with you"

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And then make small talk like... "What are you having for lunch" "What do you like for lunch" and simple stuff.

If the person doesn't really reply, then just shut up and enjoy your own lunch.

[FiveFingerBroFist]

If she didn't give off a doom-and-gloom vibe then yeah I'd approach her. The first question I'd probably ask her is, "Hey, why are you sitting out here by yourself?" And just go from there. I've done it before, so I don't see why I wouldn't do it again.

[ImSoSozzled]

Well girls that don't give any signs (like eye contact, smiling, etc) are less likely to have guys approach them, but it's definitely easier to appraoch a girl who is by herself as opposed to with a group of friends. Personally, the fact that she's a loner would encourage me.

[Anonymous]

It's very unlikely.

1) Social outcasts tend to be social death within your own social circle. Hanging out with one just damages your rep. It doesn't elevate hers.

2) People who are loners tend to make lousy friends, because they lack social skills or hang on like grim death to anyone who gives them the time of day.

Maybe if she was super hot, that'd make a difference. But I doubt super hot girls are ever on their own. It was the most unbelievable thing about the TV show Veronica Mars,

[feelsbadmang]

God damn it, I knew it! I'm socially inept and I don't have the looks to compensate for it! GOD DAMN IT!

[Opinion Owner]

Look it's not the end of the world - it just means that you will have to take steps to compensate. You can't just sit around hoping that someone will find that cutely interesting.

You can either improve your social circle (make some new friends) or improve your prospects by approaching people yourself.

No one is suggesting you just have to sit there and be miserable with the status quo.

[dublhelix]

"Hey there Lonely Girl"

Eddie Holman

Of course a loner is approachable, but she may need to not look disappointed when she is in public. Think of something that makes you happy and go with it girl.

[MikeK]

Ha! Figures you're 30+: nobody under that age has ever heard that song :P

[Anonymous]

I find any girl hard to approach. I can never tell whether a girl is open to being approached. Girls sometimes look at me but their faces are emotionless so you don't even know if they actually want you to approach them. But if the girl looks open and non-threatening then sure, I would approach a loner or social outcast.

[loda1994]

well yeah. she would be easier to talk to than most other girls. but then again looks comes into count if she isn't at least normal looking (not too fat or too ugly ) then definitely yes

[feelsbadmang]

Well damn I'm too ugly :(

[loda1994]

no body is too ugly. you just have to find the right style for you. I can help with that if you'd like

[Prof_Don]

TOTAL OPPOSITE FOR ME!

The girl that is alone is the easiest to approach imo. They're just sitting or standing there, and I feel that type of girl is more receptive to company than a girl that has a large social circle already around her. :)

[shadowscapes]

actually, it's easier to approach a girl who is alone and not busy talking with anyone.

i would approach a girl who was a "social outcast" if I liked her.

[Malcom_Reynolds]

Being a guy who has major confidence problems, I can say that it'd be hard for me to do so. But I will add that her sitting alone at lunch or being a social outcast would not discourage me or make me not want to.

[beastman88]

lately I've been fancying myself approaching a woman sitting by herself to just see if I could lighten up her day. also would be nice if a girl did this for me :)

[serp777]

I've tried approaching the loner type, but they always seem disinterested, or like you're trying to get something out of them.

[palek]

People who sit alone do so for a reason. They're most usually subject to gastric proliferation. I say, let em be.

[Gawesome]

they're not call loners or outcasts kk? that's high school hierarchy nonsense...

More like...social rebels! so yes...I'll talk to you. :)

[Jack00700]

Will be much easier to approach, I have tried to approach with her friends and turned out to be quite embarrassing

[MikeGaultier]

Sure, as long as she seems like your everyday normal girl. She would be easier to approach than one who is in a group.

[AnomFriend]

Depends if I'm with a good friend I might say to him "let's go meet that girl over there" if I'm with a bunch of people I probably wouldn't because she would also feel very uncomfortable.

[stubbsy]

Absolutely, if I was into her, I wouldn't allow anything to ruin a chance, only she could ruin a chance with a girl I was into, out cast or not,x

[biggysohail2300]

I wll definitely give it a go if I am with bunch of my frnds.