Girls would you like to give us guys some tips on how to approach a girl/ woman? There are 5 queries?

[Anonymous]

I thought that it would be much better if i ask for tips directly to girls.
So i confess that i am kinda shy nature. Find it difficult to take any move to approach girls. And there are lot like me. Had one dating experience with child hood friend but messed up. May be i was comfortable with her because she was my child hood friend. But when it comes to stranger girls, i suck! I just can't even make eye to eye contact!
No it's not that i am hard core shy guy. I am quite open with my colleagues and i can engage in conversations and quite social. But when it comes to women , i am different. Like they are some alien to me?
It's not like that i don't know woman's nature but cannot apply that knowledge to my self. Lol
I feel intimidated by beautiful girls. The girl i like are usually committed and i am quite picky. I didn't even had any one night stand!
So girls, tell me how should we guys approach a woman.
1- best time and place to approach her?
2- how to introduce ourselves to her?
3- What excuse must i use to talk to her with out being doubted or frightening her?
4- What do you notice if a random guys approach you for friendship or chat up?
5- what things can make you uncomfortable on such approach?
Do explain the queries in detail. Mention do's and dont's.

[Prilee1992]

1.　best time and place to approach her?
Don't disturb people like promoter, or agents watching them from behind, that's business ethics u shouldn't talk to them too much. Places-anywhere.

2. how to introduce ourselves to her?
Say Hi, dont be rude and try to use pickup lines.

3 .What excuse must i use to talk to her with out being doubted or frightening her?
Direct-convey sexual tension at the beginning, ''Hi, I like your xxx, that's why i come to say hello to you.''
Indirect- Ask for direction, help etc.

4. What do you notice if a random guys approach you for friendship or chat up?
Yeah, some girls might be freaked out, so stay comfortable at your own skin, its not about 'what' you say, but 'how' you say it, give a positive vibe by thinking less of the outcome, in this way, u would come out as natural because u just simply walk up to a cute girl and start a conversation without the exact need to ask for her numbers, u need to get to know her before you actually do so.

5. what things can make you uncomfortable on such approach?
If the guy come out as nervous and creepy, saying things quietly which would make her guard up, so don't expect too much from each interaction which pressures you so much. Go out and have fun.

[shakesomeaction]

1- best time and place to approach her?
Any time and place.

2- how to introduce ourselves to her?
Just say Hi. If we're interested, we'll find a way to keep conversation going.

3- What excuse must i use to talk to her with out being doubted or frightening her?
Because you think she's cute or you like her. It would only be scary if you started asking where she lived before you asked her name.

4- What do you notice if a random guys approach you for friendship or chat up?
Men usually don't do this randomly, they wait for an opening. Like a friend introducing us or something. But if some random hot dude approached me I wouldn't be averse to it.

5- what things can make you uncomfortable on such approach?
Again, if he asks personal questions too soon. If he touches me too soon. If he says he wants to marry me or something (wtf?). Normal things that also freak guys out.

[Belgie]

Great set of answers here - but I get the impression that most guys who look for this sort of info, won't find it helpful.

They kind of want specific answers that are unique and definite, like ingredients to a magic spell. "What words do I have to use to get a girl to go out with me?"

You can't just answer back "Have you tried 'Will you go out with me?' "

Your answers here, while brilliant and correct, essentially just tell them *any* time, just come up and say hi and see how things go... And that's too vague for the guys who are paralysed by fear.

[Asker]

Very true man...but such situations are always uncertain. Depends on luck factor.

[steveguitar]

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