I wrote an article of past experiences of my own and observing past experiences of my friends. Don't put up with any of this behavior, for you’re only wasting your time.
This is 10 signs your "man" is no good.
1.He talks about his "crazy ex(es)"
Maybe she did lose control of her temper one... or two times. But what set off her temper is more important. Calling the ex "crazy" is code for "I messed up but I'm going to blame her." Was it because he was talking to some other chick while he was still with her? Perhaps. Or maybe he did ignore her? I could go down the entire asshole list of things guys do after they "wow" her but my point is if he is talking about a crazy ex you best believe that one day you will be the "crazy ex." USE WITH CAUTION.
2.He texts you after 8 PM to "see what you're doing"
Guess what ladies? Plan A fell thru and you’re the second plan or third. It's not lady like to go with last minute plans. You don't want to follow with plan B because then you make it clear to him that you have no life and you would drop all your plans to see him because you're a door mat! It’s understandable if he texts after a plan fell thru every once and awhile, for example: "bros night out was canceled." But never drop your plans anyway! You have great plans that you do not want to miss! Even if it’s just a movie night with Ashley. Use your common sense on this one... A gentleman who wants to spend time with you will make plans with you prior to that night to make sure you are available to spend time with him. Get it?
A gentleman will make plans with you prior to that night to make sure that you are available.
3.He texts you after 10 PM
He got drunk with the guys and or the other girls... didn't meet or score with anybody. Now he is planning on a lonely night at the crib by himself. No, wait! There's you, the "booty call." It's not like you're a sleep, early because of all the awesome things you have planned for the following day. My advice on this one is to not respond to him ever again... unless you need yours too. Easier said then done. But never be a 2 o’clock girl!
4.Speaking of texting... he never calls you
He is clearly insecure and or is lazy. He’s not about impressing you either. Calling you would use energy to act like he’s interested in anything you have to say and let’s face it.... that would just be exhausting. Is my statement clear?
5.Friends? What friends? You've never met his friends
Okay, some guys aren’t comfortable bringing a girl around their friends at first. They may be afraid you might get too close to them too soon before he knows your a good catch and sometimes they might be afraid you might start liking one of their buddies. These are all understandable excuses. But after 6 weeks and you haven’t met any of his friends its probably because he’s hiding something whether it be another girl or his true colors because let's face it, our true colors come out when we are with the people we are most comfortable around (our friends.) Even worst, you may embarrass him. A gentleman who is interested in you will want to show you off and wants to introduce his friends to you. And trust me, they will ask their friends what they "thought of you."
He is clearly insecure and or is lazy. He’s not about impressing you either.
6.He brags about being a "ladies man" and or he claims that he’s "trouble."
There are A LOT of men who are dumb enough to bluntly tell you, loudly that they're an asshole. And there are A LOT of stupid women who ignore it. Listen to these words. There is a little truth to all our jokes.
7.You don't feel good enough for him or your gut instinct is telling you otherwise
Whether it’s because of his huge ego or that you have some serious insecurity problems... who wants to feel like that? Trust me; you'd be happier with out that/him. Listen to your gut. It's like when you have that friend who finds out her boyfriend was cheating on her and she tells you she knew it all along because something inside was telling her. Well, there’s your answer.
8.He is always texting someone or stepping out of the room to talk
Firstly, it’s rude. When you're on a date with someone and even if it’s a non-formal date, PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY. Who wants to be with someone who has bad manners and is even rude enough to text while you're trying to have a conversation? Give him a piece of your mind and then get the hell out of there. Oh but don't worry what he thinks of you, you're soooo over him.
"When you're on a date with someone, even if it's a non-formal date, PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY."
9.He disrespects his mother
A man's mother SHOULD be important, if not THE MOST important woman in his life, whether you want to call him a mommas boy or not. Doesn't matter. If he can't even respect his own mother, his own flesh and blood; then how the hell could you even consider him to treat you right? Answer: He won’t.
10.He often talks about his ex, the one who got away, 3 weeks ago (The great white buffalo)
Don't be fooled to think he’s over her and hasn't texted her 3 times in a 30 min interval everyday prior to meeting you. Maybe I'm exaggerating a little but any man who isn't or hasn't had a near past girlfriend isn’t going to want to talk about it that much because it’s not important to him anymore. It sucks being a rebound, which is why you need to look out for this. You don't want to run the risk of him leaving you because the Misses decided to give him another shot.
I wonder if you couldn't balance this with an article on some good things.
And remember some guys are wired in a way that they will always contact you late in the evening..it doesn't mean they've been talking to other women or anything like that. There's an 'innocent' explanation for most of these 'bad' signs. For example, he might have business calls and wants to keep the other person's privacy, so her steps out....
You have a future, a good one at that, writing those "15 reasons why men are slugs" articles for womens magazines. Let me brush the surface in 350 characters, LMAO. #1? Some women are actually clinically insane and on medication! Your new guy got divorced because he got tired of getting hit with frying pans, and you claim its MORE important "what he must have done" to MAKE her do it? Ha! I hate to say it... YOU are going to be the "crazy ex" the guy and his new girl make fun of, LMAO.
#1 is true but it goes both ways. Maybe she WAS crazy? Are you on good terms with any of your ex's? Probably not, by the sounds of #8. Agree that talking about them is never a good idea. But I just read one of the girls say in another question, that guys have to put up with hearing about ex's. LOL
The good thing about these lists is that they go both ways. Women are as guilty as some of these as men are.
I would just like to tell you that 2, 3, 4, and 9 are false, I text girls after 8 or 10 and its not because I had previous plans or was drunk, and I text them because in the past I always seem to call at a bad time and they are never able to talk so I text them and if they want to talk they can, and everyone disrespects their parents wether or not they know it, I also notice that you just said his mother, not his father, and I know why, because you are a girl that is sexist against guys.
Awful article. I hate articles like these. They are all full of bull. This is really just a typical "Opposite sex is weird/bad when it comes to dating/relationships". This article is pretty much about the bad guys you've been with, and you're generalizing those guys with every guy.
Being the fact you are a woman saying what makes a man no good you clearly juts went off your past experiences. Some of these might have a slim amount of truth to them. But most don't. I was going to type my own opinion on this. But saw a comment that fits my opinion perfectly.
By MySpacemybroke read is comment and you will have my opinion.
The interesting thing about this article is that the titles are completely wrong but the points at the end explaining hold some truth. 1 is an exception; if you're saying girls aren't capable of being crazy, you're crazy yourself.
2, 3 and 4? The first two are abit close minded, maybe he actually wants to know how you are, and maybe he does just miss you... Just because he doesn't say it earlier in the day doesn't change a thing. Men don't just turn sexual after 8. As for the fourth one, I rarely text my girlfriend, I'd prefer to meet up with her, even phoning is too cliched and impersonal for me. I don't see why I should be labelled. The rest are spot on, tho' 5 is in the air, some people are embarassed by their friends.
"I'm smart. The end" Code for "I'm a sexist little snot whose gone for the asshole 1 too many times."
For a small amount of your article I see your point, but for the most part it's basically telling girls to assume the absolute worst about a guy. Honestly we're not perfect (and neither are you), but you make it out like we're out to use the entire female gender. Pretty damn lame in my eyes.
I think the reason most guys are hating on this article is because they haven't had to deal with these types of men like we have. you may think "oh I'm not like that, so the article is wrong!" but there are plenty of men who ARE like that, and unfortunately they're the majority. in retrospect, I can see that all of these points are true. right now I'm dealing with #10 and it was a slap in the face to read it but it makes so much sense.
I just wanted to say... I agree. My "ex" called all his exes crazy. We moved in together and he would call mr crazy all the time. He'd smash my head against the cupboard ... Fridge... Floor.. And hr would choke me out if I got upset that he was cheating. I don't raise my voice I'm a quiet person. But he would always smash talk me.
So saying a chick is crazy. Take into consideration the guy who says this to cover up his abusive tendencies
I would not be too hasty to judge a guy with these points exclusively... maybe he just wants to talk to you... and it happens to be after 8 pm... or 10 pm. There could be several reasons why he is contacting you at this time... none of which may be a booty call. Every situation is different... every guy is different.
I like the mommas boy part. and the texting part. my man is always signing me up for plans with him and his boys without telling me, and then he's irritated when I'm like "what?!", he's always texting somebody when were out or hanging out alone, and he treats his mom like sh*t. granted she's a pain in the ass but still no one should treat their mom like that
Man where was this 4 weeks ago...did not see this back then or I could have avoided a "no good" guy that just broke my heart. He is about 6 of the things on list. Geez...well this helps me to not be sad anymore and just chalk it up to he did me a favor by flaking off on me. Good Riddens!!
If my article doesn?t make sense and doesn?t have great advice in it, then how come the people that run ?girlsaskguys? featured my article? I mean, because apparently I don?t know what I?m talking about ., right?
Martyfellow, I know you are ?secretly? obsessed over me since you always have some spiteful comment to make in anything I write on this site. But please get a job, screw your wife and stalk someone else because you sound dumb and you sound like you?re hurt by this article.