What's up with some girls saying "muscular guys are a turnoff"?

Question

I have been working out for 5 years and I am now 205 lbs lean about 10% body fat. I have seen on here before that some girls think muscular guys are a turn off? So is being fat a turn on? Or are these girls just pathetic and insecure over their bodies? Then again I don't work out for girls I work out because I enjoy it. So if girls think being in shape is a turn off that's hella pathetic.

Vinvei · Accepted Answer

I can't agree with the MHO this time, sorry.

It's not about boosting ego at all. At least not for me. I don't find overly muscular guys all that attractive physically. I like toned, but if they reach Superman level it's a bit of a turnoff. Not something that would matter the most, but it's not as attractive as guys like to think.

It's a personal taste. When a guy is overly buff he seems a bit intimidating to me.
Taylor Lautner has a nice body:
bestuff.com/.../toned-abs-287953.jpg?1287536546
Bodybuilders, though, are not really my thing.
https://www.mfablog.org/bodybuilder-forum-369.jpg

It's not even about how much chances we have with a guy, because most of the times we can't see their muscles anyway because they're hidden under their clothes.

It's the personality that matters, and the impression that a lot (not all, mind you) muscular guys give is that THEY are the ones with a huge ego. You're showing symptoms of an enlarged ego, for instance. I mean, you're very closed-minded. You're asking a question, so you should expect people to answer you honestly while you dismiss the honest opinions and only listen to people that agree with you. Are you really an adult?

That being said, it can be a turnoff to some. It's pretty normal. For instance, WHY DO MANY GUYS NOT LIKE MUSCULAR GIRLS? Somehow people don't take their time to think about that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you're the insecure one, if you're so upset that some girls on the internet said they don't like muscular guys...

Dude. Everyone has different preferences. And just because some people don't like muscles, it doesn't mean they think being fat is a turn on (although some guys and girls really do think being fat is attractive). But sometimes people prefere someone in between - not super skinny, not super fat, not super buff, not a couch potato, etc.

Do you like muscular girls? A lot of guys had said that muscular girls are a turn off. But does that mean they like fat girls? Certainly not.

Also, it might not be that muscles look bad, but maybe those girls think that body-builder personalities are super unattractive. It's great to stay in shape, and if you have to work out because you play a sport or something, that's totally understandable. But I know some guys who are OBSESSED with going to the gym and it's really ridiculous. I wouldn't want to date a guy who is that obsessed with his body. I want to date a guy who has a lot of different interests. If "working out" is his only activity, then I find that really dull.

SnowHearth · Accepted Answer

This And this Are turn-offs This  This  And this  Are not turn-offs

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Different people are into different things. I'm a gym guy too, and some girls have been very into it. I've also been passed over by girls in favor of scrawnier emo types. You gotta understand, girls aren't as visual as we are. We're way more about appearance than them. And even those that are into appearance, they're not all after the same appearance. Walk around for a day and you'll see all types of girls with all types of guys. We always search for that blanket statement, like "all hot girls are into in shape guys", but those blanket statements really aren't accurate. My gf is a hot chick, and she think Kevin fucking James of King of Queens/Paul Blart: Mall Cop fame is sexy. She thinks Bruce Willis' geriatric ass is sexy. And she at least claims to think the same of me, so you just can't pin it down. Its not as easy as " well, I work out, so I'll have first dibs on the best looking girls." I'll never forget this super hot chick I worked with like ten years ago hooking up with this 140 lb emo looking kid instead of me. Couldn't believe it, but it was a lesson learned. Just keep doing you, but you just can't expect that every girl will fall at your feet because you lift.

Joshua2332 · Accepted Answer

It's not a turnoff. Girls are all about boosting their ego. So when they see a guy who is ripped like yourself, they say they don't find it attractive when they really do. Girls saying "I don't find muscular guys attractive," = "I don't think I'll ever have a chance with him so I'm going to say it isn't attractive to make it seem like I'm better than him thus boosting my ego." Is it a turn off when girls squat and have a nice ass?

They say it on here, but I guarantee if you were to approach them, it would make their day.

Theguyoverthere · Answer

I've looked around on here and from that I've noticed, "lean and toned" is the most preferred look. "Beach body" looks basically are what I see most girls liking.

Also I think when a lot girls refer to not liking too much muscle, they are talking about super ridiculously roided guys who can barely move their arms and such. There are girls who posted their comparison pics on this site even.

A lot of girls also point out that guys who workout are extremely cocky and I have seen that. It doesn't matter what a guy looks like if he's cocky. It's just a turnoff. It's the same for a guy who meets a "10" girl but then listens to her go on all stuck up. Suddenly... that "10" is a "3."

The closest statement I can make supporting yours is that some girls cannot stand the idea of a guy looking better than them. If a guy looks "too good" some girls will not feel comfortable because they want to be the good looking one in a relationship. So they'll settle for a guy who they feel they look better in comparison to. What these girls don't realize is that they're not allowing other qualities they may have to factor into their compatibility.

Overall though in reality, many girls will fall for a good looking guy easily and even get completely blinded by looks.

lumos · Answer

I think guys that are *too* muscular are a turn off. And so is being overweight. It's not because I'm insecure over my own body. It's because I think it looks fucking ridiculous and unnatural as hell.
It's good to be in shape. However, it's unattractive to take it to the extreme. I like guys who look average-ish. Like you can tell that they probably work out every now and then, but they don't have super defined muscles. That's what I like. But if you don't work out for girls, why are you even bothered? Why bother calling us pathetic and insecure, why even bother with this question?

KillerTaco · Answer

WOW. These women are lying through their teeth. Now a muscular man is very sexy. It shows their masculinity and enhances their ability to "protect". Not that I'm old fashioned it's just man... A man with some nice traps and pecs.. HE'LL YES YOU CAN HAVE ME!!! ... Think I said that with too much enthusiasm but you get my point. Lol

pointy4 · Answer

As long as its not tooo much, and as long as you aren't obssessed with yourself i. e. taking selfies of your hot body, then hell yes love muscles like if you have a Chris Hemsworth body then you are def hot!!!
But hot doesn't mean Id go out with u, personality's very important

(I dont really know what 205 and 10% really looks like btw)

Betwyn · Answer

I think it all depends on how you define "muscular"

First.. there are those that are overly muscular, and that, isn't attractive.
Then.. there are those that are really muscular.. nice to look at.. but.. not so nice to be with.

Does this mean we think fat is sexy?

well.. first of all, we tend to be more attracted to minds and personalities, and, more forgiving of the body it comes in.. whether that is a little extra weight.. or baldness... or other things guys stress about. Penis.

Personally, when it comes to body.. I like the slighter builds.. slender.. skinny.. or the athletic build of the athlete who plays, but doesn't live in the weight room.

meggyhertz · Answer

I'm fit and not insecure about my body and I don't like grotesquely muscular guys. So I don't think thats a fair claim on your behalt.

Being in shape is a turn on. A nice physique is appreciable. But a guy with biceps the size of my head is more scary than seductive. So no it's not that fat is a turn on, it's that there should be a balance. Some girls like it and others don't. I wouldn't want to date a guy who looked like a wwe wrestler. Just doesn't do it for me. Also men that size tend to be very into themselves from what I have experienced. So as women, as men sometimes do as well, we may associate physical features with characteristics of personality. A man who can make you feel safe is just what we want, but a man who is too macho might be intimidating.

miserybusiness · Answer

How muscular are we talking here  If it's average / "normal" looking, then it's pretty hot.  But overly muscular guys are indeed a turn off and an SOS in the making.  Looool bro no

Hellagood22 · Answer

Usually muscular guys are cocky (not always). But it's the mentality that's a turn off. I'm attracted to Chris Pratt and he's ripped, but I like how he's funny and goofy most of all. He's soo attractive! So don't worry about what other girls say because not all girls have the same type. Just do what makes you feel good about yourself and you'll find people who like you for you.

Mind helping me out with my question?
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1261393-if-he-doesn-t-text-you-but-he-snapchats-you

lovestruck12 · Answer

i only like beasts i can't date anything else because I'm a gym rat myself… however there is such a thing as too big, i don't like guys who over do it and I'm not in to body builders who compete its too much mucscle for my liking, a happy medium.. him a beast but not over done. does that make sense?

Anonymous · Answer

Are you attracted to guys? If not, how can you presume to know what girls like and how they think?

Personally I think 10% body fat and 205lb is pretty fkn manly, it doesn't tell me about how skilled a guys is at martial arts but I would assume he's a fkn dangerous fellow that can hold his own in a fight. But I'm not attracted to masculine bodies, so my non-sexual appreciation for a muscular guy doesn't say anything about what a girl likes. In my experience girl prefer around 15-20% body fat, not full on washboard abs but still not super flabby. If you're not doing it for the girls then good on you, you're not going to appeal to the majority of women with your body type but there is a decent percentage of girls that would be totally into your body. You won't pull most girls with your body alone so it's good that it's for you and not for them, but I'm sure you can find the right girls that actually like that body type.

The_Eternal_Emperor · Answer

Girls saying muscular guys are a turn-off does not mean that they want an overweight or fat guy. There IS a point where being muscular would be a turn-off for anybody. For example:

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/QrqkLOxhN_A/hqdefault.jpg

^ This is just ridiculous.

You have to realize that everybody has preferences when it comes to body shape. Sooner or later, you have to accept that not every girl you meet will like muscular men.

harakiri · Answer

muscular guys can be a turn off. too much muscle makes people look... not... human. lol. being fat isn't a turn on... i think being "fit" is probably a happy medium. but i think at the end of the day, as long as you're happy with the way you look, that's all that matters.

Sexydncr · Answer

I find muscular guys attractive because it shows they have dedication and care about their health and body. I can understand why other girls don't find really muscular guys hot because everyone has different preferences. Sometimes, the gym life becomes 24/7 (working out, meals every two hours, protein, supplements) and girls can't handle that. I think you should never give up on the things you like just because other people don't appreciate them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Actually there's a lot more to this.

katiebug92 · Answer

Some women just don't like big muscles...
Everybody has different taste and everybody has different taste for different reasons.
Sounds more like your the one who is pathetic with that ego problem. Getting upset because some girls out there in the world don't think your all that, trust me not that hard to believe.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't say it's a turn off, but I don't care if you have muscle or not. It honestly depends on your face. Your muscles won't help you if your face is ugly. I actually find that most men who have muscle do it because their face is ugly. They want to make up for having an ugly face, but I am sorry to tell you it doesn't help. If your ugly there is no hope for you. I'm not just saying that applies to men either. It applies to women too. I know a woman who works out and dresses up just to make up for her face. She has admitted to this. I've told her it won't help help her because her face is disgusting.

The only important thing is face and then personality. No one gives a damn about your body.

bombamboum · Answer

I'm personally not a fan of over muscular guys. It has nothing to do with insecurities, I just don't think it's attractive. My boyfriend isn't fat, he's thin and fit but he doesn't go to the gym or care about what he eats. He is muscular but because he grew up in a farm.

amphet11 · Answer

Women don't sexually desire men, they only want to be sexually desired by men, they know that if they are the less desired one in the relationship, they are pretty much nothing. Before anyone says anything, here is scientific proof,   ,   female sexuilty is warped bro.

HayHay93 · Answer

Is all about a girls preference. Not everyone is going to like how you look. Or how you act. Or your personality. It all comes down to a persons preferences. They're not insecure because they don't like you and they're not pathetic because they don't agree with you or like your looks. Every woman/girl has their own 'things' they look for in a man/guy. Some will like you. Some won't. Get over it is all you can do.

Modernhippy · Answer

I don't know man people find different things attractive. Provide muscle pics to support ur claims though a lot of people think there body fat is a lot lower than it is. I have been lifting since I was 16 aND I'm 20 and about 1 year ago I starTed eating correctly and that's when gains started happening I have a feelING you are not what to claim you are because those who are big don't need to post butthuer commenta lIke this online

What's up with some girls saying "muscular guys are a turnoff"?

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