If a guy told you you're not wife material, would you be offended?

[Anonymous]

If a guy you cared about said you're not wife material is that an insult?

[BuchitaBuchys]

No. Cuz everyone has different standards/values when it comes to "wife/husband" material or even "gf/bf" material. What one guy considers wife material, another guy wouldn't. You can't win them all. It'd be narcissistic to think you'll please everyone, or that everyone will wanna be with you/marry you. So I wouldn't be insulted by it.
If our values aren't compatible, and I was dating him, it's best to not continue. If it was a guy I cared for, like a friend, then I would just be like ok?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Every guy tells me I am not "wife material", even though I am not a slut, but because I have blonde highlights, and I model sometimes, guys automatically assume I am just some slut that you don't take home to momma. Hahaha. In all reality though I only slept with two guys, I am very stubborn with men, yet I am always not "wife material", lol. I am always judged for my looks lol.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

To answer your question though... yes! I get very offended! Lol.

[Asker]

There's more to it than how many guys you slept with. There is litterally a checklist we have in our minds lol.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Really? It's so weird though because I don't act like a slut. I am a very down to earth person, so I wonder then why guys think that? Lol. I wonder what that checklist is? Haha.

[Asker]

For every guy it's different.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hmmm... then it will always be a mystery to me :( lol.

[anshin]

No. I ain't wife material cause I ain't wanna be a wife! LOL whats a wife material anyway? Cooking? doing the laundry? No ways. I dont cook and i dont even know how to use a washing machine. I would agree to a guy that says im not wife material. Until I learn how to cook and use washing machine or learn the vegetable table I won't be a wife to someone.

[Asker]

There's way more to it than that. Girls don't know what wife material is most the time.

[GoldCobra]

it would depend on who the guy is that is saying that

[lumos]

Nope. Obviously not every guy wants to marry me, or thinks we would be compatible as a couple. If he thinks that I'm not wife material, I most likely don't consider him to be husband material either. No hard feelings.

[Asker]

You're hard nosed, I respect that.

[lumos]

I don't really see why anyone would have to take it as an insult, considering that it's highly unlikely that you would fit every man's mental mold of what a "perfect wife" is like. It's only logical to accept it as a reality without get your panties in a twist.

[Asker]

Agreed

[ThunderHeart]

There is a difference between being marriage material and being some guy's idea of the perfect wife. The idea of being marriage material is general and the idea of being someone's perfect wife is very specific. I would not be offended if a guy told me I was not his ideal mate. That is one man's opinion. But to say you are not marriage material is to say that you are not worthy of being a wife to anyone. That is offensive.

[lumos]

@ThunderHeart he said wife material. And even if he did say "marriage material", it's very vague. I still think it's pretty obvious that if a guy says that you're not wife/marriage material, he's most likely speaking for himself and himself only. And even if he is talking about "in general", then so what? He can't possibly know for sure that there literally isn't anyone out there who will think you're wife material. It's about as stupid and fruitless as calling a virgin a whore. And why should it matter what ONE guy thinks about your ability to be marriage/wife material? Being offended over such a petty thing that some random guy decided to say is simply a waste of time.

[ThunderHeart]

That is the same as saying "She's not the kind of girl I would introduce to my mother". This girl is a booty call babe. Someone you visit in the middle of the night and rarely... if ever... take out on a date. She is not a woman worthy of respect and doesn't really have an honor to respect. She's the chick on the side. None of this is complimentary. I'd be offended.

[Asker]

Honestly your assessment is spot on.

[proudtexasgirl]

Depending on who it is, most likely nah, it wouldn't bother me too much.
I'm not looking to be a wifey, and you're probably not my cup of tea anyways.

[Asker]

Let's say your boyfriend said it.

[proudtexasgirl]

Why would I have a boyfriend that didn't think I was a good partner? Better yet, why would my boyfriend want to be with me if he felt that way?
Those are more important concerns.

[Asker]

That's sort of the point of the question

[proudtexasgirl]

It would hurt my feelings less than my concern as to why he has with me.
If it was just a friend or a random guy, I wouldn't care.

[Asker]

Fair enough, thank you for answering

[Stacyzee]

He probably means he only sees me sexually.
(the type to fuck but not bring home to mama)
If I really cared for him and could envision him as husband material, I'd be more hurt if anything.

[Jerusha]

While I don't like marriage, I would be offended and I would break his face. :3

[Asker]

Poor broken faced man.

[Vesuvius87]

Not really. I won't even want to get marriage anyways nor live the conventional life of a housewife. Lastly, I have no interest in having kids.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Assuming I was interested in dating him then yes of course I'd be offended.

[lauren2609]

Definitly! However, say that if you want to get dumped ;)

[Anonymous]

One guy once told me I would be wife material if I weren't so ugly. I found that more offensive than to be told I'm not wife material.

[ShaeNielson]

No, because I am not wife material. I would never want to be anyones wife, and I sure as fuck, don't want to be "wife material" either.

[Anonymous]

If we're dating/in a relationship, or that's what I wanted, then it would matter. Otherwise, no.

[bombamboum]

Yes, I would take it as an insult.

[pyramid_princess]

No, because to someone else I know I will be

[Kountry_King]

Well why would he say this?

[xCutesyLolitax]

Yes :'( I would feel te-rri-ble! o:

[Anonymous]

I already no I'm not wife material... so no.

[Opinion Owner]

*know

[Anonymous]

Good luck with that relationship.

[lovestruck12]

yes i would feel bad

[Kiwifun]

Haha... not at all