Do girls react to you differently if you're sexy, hot, or good looking?

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Im curious to know whether girls really are bias towards guys who are sexy or good looking. I'm intrigued to know how much of an impact it would make in advancing with the ladies overall. I know for us guys it does matter but what about the girls? Girls, how much value does a man's appearance hold if any? Is it significant and does it have the ability to him threw "your" door to a date or perhaps even as far as towards the bedroom. Its very common to hear the phrase "looks don't matter but your personality does" im just curious to know how much truth there is in that. Furthermore if two men were weighed up against each other in various attributes that are desiring to girls such as confidence, funny, charming, but one of the two men had a personality flaw such as being mean or arrogant were as the other guy wasn't nearly as physically attractive but was more friendly and loving would his appearance over shadow guy number two or would the more loving/friendly type be more attractive. One thing i can say for sure however is that, no two women are the same and i understand that but id like a general perspective on this matter what are your notions/thoughts? Flirtatious behaviour is often directed towards the handsome/hot guys why is this more prevalent among them guys as opposed to men who lack in physical beauty if "looks dont matter"? Whats your take on the matter do girls act/behave differently towards a physically attractive guy in a way that is quite oblivious and bias and does it have a big impact or outcome when pursuing girls or do looks not affect how the outcome of getting girls? And would this change if you were out at a party, or at the bar or even at a nightclub?

dlocnarniac · Accepted Answer

If I'm going to be interested in a guy, he has to not be unattractive. That means he could be anywhere from average to drop-dead gorgeous. Obviously, a hot guy initially catches a girl's eye more than an average guy, but I honestly am more interested in personality. Often I go for average guys who have personalities that I really like... and then for some reason I perceive them as physically more attractive, the more I know their personality. So looks are, at least to some extent, subjective and influenced by overall personality.

In your example, I would definitely pick the guy who is not as hot, but has a better personality.

In terms of flirting, I am more likely to flirt with a hot guy than an "average" guy. But that's not as bad as it sounds. Usually, the guys I really like and am serious about are the ones with a great personality... and that's something that you only find out after you know the person for a while. So usually what happens is that I start falling for a guy friend... but by that time he's my friend and I don't want to lose him, so I don't flirt with him because I don't want to make life awkward... but I'm usually more attracted to them (at least on a deeper level) than I am to the guys I flirt with... if that makes any sense.

TayIzMe · Accepted Answer

Although a good looking guy would cause me to turn my head, if he was a totall ass, I wouldn't want anything to do with him. There is nothing I can't stand more than a conceited arogant man. Before I got with my current boyfriend, who isn't blessed with looks, I was stuck between him and another guy who was much more attractive physically. The reason that I picked my boyfriend was because he was smart, cared for his education, quiet, loyal to past girlfriends, funny, and laid back. The other guy, although attractive, was arrogant, loud, overly flirtatious, and not so loyal to past girlfriends. And besides, when you grow to like someone, they always end up being much more attractive to you than the first time that you laid eyes on them. :) I hope this helped.

heavenonearth · Accepted Answer

Of course. My brother's a pretty good-looking guy, and I'm sometimes shocked by how bold girls get with him. Bold for girls, I mean.

Speaking for myself, I do act differently with a guy I'm attracted to vs a guy I'm not. I'm nice and respectful to everyone, but I wouldn't flirt with a guy I'm not at least a little attracted to. I think that's only natural.

Looks do matter, they're just not the only thing that matters. I've also been in situations where a guy was definitely objectively attractive, but I felt zero chemistry with him. Or he has a personality really incompatible with mine, etc.

watermelon123 · Accepted Answer

well for me, appearance does have importance but I care much much more if the person is nice. I would much rather date someone that is not as good looking but is loving and friendly because really what is the benefit of being with someone that is extremely hot/hansome but is rude and disrespectful? its not like I would want a "trophy" to just be showing off to people.. I want someone who I can rely on and share amazing moments with. and its actually easier for me to talk and approach someone who is not crazily good-looking yet they are a super nice person and still fine looking.

DANNYBASSMAN93 · Accepted Answer

Well bro here's another dudes opinion:

When i was in high school i only dated 2 girls and that was because i was a musician it was during the dating that they opened up to like my personality. Now in college its another story after i gained some pounds and was 210lb, I hardly ever got a girl to like me. Now that im in the US AirForce and i went down to a 155lb abs and muscles guy the scales tiped around and its quite annoying really because the girls i meet only like me for my body and not my adventuruous half italian half brazilian bassist personality.

It really depends on the girls that you meet in or around your area as well as the ones that you will meet along the way.

Hope this helps fellow dude

thetundrawolf · Accepted Answer

Of course it does. Women are drawn to attractive men much the same way we are more drawn to attractive women.

However I have seen some pretty homely guys get some fairly good looking women. Because deep down a woman knows it's what in a man's character that matters more than his face. His character protects her, loves her, keeps her safe. Not his face or body.

If only more men would realize that about women. Except instead of character, he should be looking at her heart (And yeah, also character).

bombamboum · Answer

I will obviously react differently. Chances are that at first I'll be physically more attracted to the handsome man.
Though, in the end charms is what matters to me.

I remember a time when I had more SwB with men, I was not exclusive the men new it and it was easy to compare. For exemple, there were two men. One was really good looking and turned out to be awful in bed because he was extremely selfish, his personality turned out to be a disaster, it's just my worse memory when it comes to men.
Whereas the other man was less good looking, he was really average but he was extremely nice, fun, I saw him many times and the sex was amazing which made him hot in my eyes

So, yes, I need to be attracted to a man, it's obvious but charms is definitely the key to me.

Mickey712 · Answer

Obviously i gotta be honest here, i do feel more intimidated to a guy who is super duper hot and has a chizzled modle look. But that is also more based on attitude too. If a guy comes off as super confident and looks hot too, i'de be like woah look at him but if a guy is more relaxed and friendly or even on the funny side, i would feel more comfortable and he would be easy to talk to. This is weather he is really physically attractive to me or not. So i guess i just go off of the vibe he is giving me. I personally would not be attracted to a guy just by lookin at him. I would deffinantly pick a nice guy over a hot guy.

Anon7985 · Answer

Once a bunch of my bfs friends were coming out to meet us at a sports bar. Some I had met... others I hadn't. We held a table for about two hours for all of them. The place was packed and people came up to us every 5 minutes to see if anyone was sitting there. I was feeling really bad about turning all those people away. Well, the friends showed up. Everyone introduced themself, except one girl. I introduced myself to her, but I could tell she was completely reluctant. Well, she started yelling at all the friends that sat down with us to move over to this other table that just opened up. There wasn't enough room for everyone there. She kept pointing at people at the table (singling them out) to "get over there." She was persistent for a while and gave up on a few that didn't move. I wasn't one she told to move over there and she became increasingly frustrated at those who didn't. That was my most recent episode.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes appearances matter. Girls are just like guys, we noticed the hot dude with tats and muscles and concoct fantasies about him deeply falling in love with us.
Does that mean we want to pursue a relationship with him?

The difference i think is that women are raised to restrain their impulses unlike men who are taught to embrace them. Boys will be boys is such a common saying and so many people believe it, cause you know all that testosterone is a bitch to control so why even bother?
Women on the other hand are pretty much raised to keep it in their pants or else you be a slut. So girls have a different outlook on relationships, which means that although the dude is hot we can resist if he seems like trouble. Everyone's definition of trouble will vary obviously, and with age and experience i feel like men start to be more selective... But just in general you know.

Chickenfriedrice1 · Answer

Of corse a girl might like you more for the way you look, it's exactly the same as a boy would like a girl for the way she looks. It has a huge impact. Yet, for me looks aren't everything, I've dated some really sweet guys that aren't that good looking, and I don't regret it one bit. If a girl just judges you on your looks, she's shallow and a bitch.

Ebony2015 · Answer

I would say personality wins every time. Looks and sexiness are subjective. However, there has to be some sort of chemistry for things to last. Wealth and power can play a part in making a person appear 'sexy and attractive'. Ever wonder why you see young, attractive women with older, not so attractive men? Not saying that I would be as shallow, but do you those same women would be with that guy if he was penniless?

Myah_15 · Answer

Oh most definitely. Looks mean EVERYTHING plus a great personality that's a huge bonus. If you're a sexy guy lets say age 15-24 I'm going to flirt with you. It doesn't matter to me if you have a girlfriend or not I'm gonna have to scoop you up for a few minutes. Now if you are ugly but you're a nice guy then you will be forever in the friendzone but if you're sexy and nice... oh hell yes that ass is mine.

SakuraChii · Answer

UGH well yor definition of sexy could be different from mines, some girls may think guys from one direction are hot while I like korean guy bands etc. So you can't really put labels on anyone but in a way yes but it depends on the girl, I personally wouldn't approach a sexy/hot guy I probably would never talk to him. But a guy that I see as good looking/ average I'll be warm to because their not as intimidating.

destroshyness · Answer

I ask my gf why she likes me at first she said your personality. Then later on I ask so looks don't matter to you and she responded of course you are attractive that's what caught my eye at first. Yes looks do matter for example, I ask her to show me one of her ex she said no he's ugly and I'm ashamed...

LittleFinch · Answer

Oh, this is easy for me. I won't say looks don't matter- they do a little bit, though not much. I've been told that guys I find attractive aren't what other people consider hot cute or attractive. Personally, personality is what attracts me to people. If you have a mean or an arrogant streak like you said, i will go for the less attractive, friendly guy in a heartbeat. If you don't have the personality, you aren't worth my time.

ingrid012 · Answer

If you're my friend then I can be comfortable to you. I mean, I can put my arms around your shoulder or fool with you, but if you are my friend and someone that I like, I can be aloof coz I dont want you to know that I have feelings for you. But in another case, if there is someone I like, ike cute guy, and we're not friends, I can be flirtatious to him.

tstar897 · Answer

Put it this way; a girl is getting robbed in the streets. And a (not so handsome dude) kicks their asses and saves you, and the girl is like super hot. She will adore you and will probably want to be with you. Where as if your just a average guy who wants to take a chance with the Same girl then nothing will probably happen. You see where I'm going through this...

TheEdgyBarbie · Answer

Looks are important yeah, but I can't tell you the number of times I've talked to a really attractive guy, and that once he started talking I was instantly put off by his awful personality (being mean to others, etc..) Basically I would pick an attractive guy with a good personality over an abercrombie model with a bad personality...

muzzfin · Answer

Well for me looks do matter because there's that initial attraction which will then act as a catalyst to a developing relationship be it romantic or not. But then again, there are other aspects of a person which do matter greatly although the looks can not be over shadowed

sexysportsbabe666 · Answer

Yeah, it definitely has an impact, but only for flirting, making out, and hooking up. It has much less of an impact for a real relationship. I definitely think girls act differently towards hot guys because they're, well, hot. But also hot guys sometimes aren't trusted as much, and girls can easily get too nervous around them.

boriblanca2010 · Answer

If a guy is average-ugly but he's confident & his personality is awesome, & he knows how to build stuff/ houses id like him especially if he's funny and has a nice smile... And he has to be fit but I don't mind if his face is not that attractive as long as he has the attributes i listed hot guys aren't all that... Vin diesel and Adam Sandler fit the UGLY (because they're very old now) BUT SEXY CATEGORY... The guy I like is a bald PuertoRican ginger

miserybusiness · Answer

Duh. Girls typically treat good looking guys better. Just like how guys treat good looking girls better.

Anonymous · Answer

I have dated some very hot guys. None of those relationships lasted very long because they were conceited and inconsiderate. I flirt with lots of guys throughout the day, most of them average looking, and it's their personality and sense of humor that sets some of them apart for me. I think I am equal opportunity flirter to begin with, regardless of looks. Their responses are what determine I'd I take it one step farther. Chemistry is next on the list...

Anonymous · Answer

Yea, but sometimes they get treated worse because of it. Like girls think they expect special treatment so make a point of treating them lower. Or They get turned down for dates sometimes, because people won't trust a guy who's too hot sometimes.
Sometimes though (more often than not) they're treated like kings.

TrueZava · Answer

I think everyone acts differently with someone who is visually appealing, I mean looks are the first thing you notice about a person and is what's going to draw you in most of the time, but personality is what keeps you drawn in.

I've never been in a relationship so i don't have that much insight on this subject.

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