It would depend on how he approached it. or the reason behind it. My ex broke up with out of the blue and I didn't really see it coming until I asked him if he was breaking up with me. For some it leaves a scar that needs time to heal. For me, getting dumped by my first love was like getting shot right in the stomach. Or getting slapped right in the blue. Its like you try to put pressure on your wound but it keeps bleeding. Its like having a broken leg and not being able to walk for days. My ex didn't really give me any kind of explanation. He just left me confused so I had to make up my closure and so I did but I kind of realized after a while what drove him away. It hurts a lot especially if its your first break up like it was for me it hurts so much. I was broken for a couple of months but as time went by it got a lot easier for me. I guess for us that spark wasn't there anymore and I just suddenly fell out of love with him. People change life goes on, you can't change a person you either except them as they are or you walk away. My ex changed a lot I didn't like what he turned out to be but something I learned is you can't change a person. For me he was my first love and I didn't really have any standards at the time and plus I was very young. It was like a learning experience for me, it wasn't serious at all. A serious relationship is what I want in the future, but not right now.
We all take things differently. I've liked a lot of guys, but have only been in one serious relationship... well, it was with the same guy, but we've broken up twice now. The first time we were together, we dated for about five months. He was interested in taking things "further", but I made it clear that I wasn't interested in that. Eventually my dad ended up developing pancreatic cancer, and I had to stay out of town while he was in the hospital for surgery and treatment. This place was practically in the middle of nowhere, and my boyfriend at the time was the only one I had to talk to, so we would call each other and text a little here and there. As time went on, I noticed him responding less and less, until he called me to tell me that he wanted to break up. It hurt a lot, I'll admit, but I didn't cry or anything because I knew that it wasn't his sole purpose to keep me happy, and he was obviously unhappy, so I accepted it and I tried to move on.
Until I saw him smacking lips with one of my best friends two weeks later at a fair. And found out they were hooking up while I was out of town and my dad was in the hospital.
Moral of the story is: break ups? Hard, but inevitable.
Betrayal and cowardice as a result? Pisses me off and hurts like hell.
The first week or two are the most difficult to overcome. The first week you don't even have motivation to get out of bed (which I didn't besides for the bathroom.) It is one of the worst feelings in the world for males and females. I would compare being dumped to grieving a death. You feel like your world just felt apart, and you have no idea why and cannot stop it from occurring. What makes a breakup a tad worse than death, is the fact the person is alive and is CHOOSING to avoid you. You are filled with doubt, frantically picking apart memories for any red flags you might have missed during the time you were together. Denial mixed with insecurity occur, and is amplified if the person that dumped you is already dating someone new. You literally feel like you are going to die, because you can't deal with the all consuming pain and devastation. But after the first week, the intensity of the pain subsides and you get on, kind of robotic being able to get up, shower, go to school/work etc. Eventually the month marker hits and before you know it you're not even thinking of it as much.
I got through 4 stages!
Stage 1: Depression. I usually cry, depending on how close we were, and think about why we broke up. Watch some romance movies and eat ice cream and wonder why I can't have a "perfect" soul mate.
2. Cleanse: I take all of our memories (photos, shirts, videos, gifts, or whatever reminds me of "us") and either a.) trash it, b.) shred it, or c.) burn it.
3. Get back in the real world. I'd buy some new clothes and shoes. Get out and mingle. Stay out of the house and go chill with friends.
4. Flaunt it. I'd post tons of pics of how happy I am without him on social media. Show how great I look and how better off I am without him. (This is optional sometimes.)
Of course these happen over a course of time. 4 always sends him back though lol.
^^ What he said, it depends on how the guy treated her and how she reacted to how he treated her. If the relationship was going to shit she probably would not be too upset.
It'd depend on what had happened to cause the break up and if she's the dumper or dumpee.
She could be really sad, or really glad because her ex is an arsehole.
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For me personally, it's kind of not so bad. But i've never been in a long term relationship so i'm sure that would be a different thing. Although like i said, i haven't been in one so i can't really comment on it.
Usually though, i'll feel bad about myself... like feelings of inadequacy or like i wasn't good enough. Once i'm done sulking, i'll talk to my dad and step back and look at the situation objectively. Figure that it wasn't meant to be, that it's not that i'm not good enough, i'm just too different from the guy for it to have worked out.
if i got dumped.. i would feel very heartbroken bc i have been open and trustful in the relationship and if my bf just suddenly dumped me out of nowhere it would be like he never really cared or loved me and that the whole time he was pretending. I am an emotional person and if i say " i love you" i actaully mean it. So for my bf to say all those sweet things and suddenly broke up with no warning or reason, it would break me. I have been broken before which is why i have tryst issues and afraid to be in a relationship.
I honestly don't give a fuck lol. Everyone tells me all the time that I have a strong personality and I do! I've been dumped only once and I really didn't care, I've been taught all my life to never cry over a boy because there are million others in the world so there's really no point of getting all depressed. Just suck it up and move on. I mean if I was to really really like the guy then yea I would be a little hurt but id get over it within the next 48 hours lol it's not a thing to me.
I sit down, drink a little toast, and move on. But then again, I'm really independent when it comes to relationships. it still hurts, but I deal with pain better when I am busy.
If we were meant to be together, we would have worked it out. If he isn't willing to talk, then he doesn't think I'm important, and it Would be worse if we stayed together.
If she loves him then she will be very heartbroken, and she will wish he would just contact her and tell her that he wants her back. I was dumped 4 days ago and I feel really sad and depressed, it makes me feel as if something is wrong with me.
If she doesn't love him then she would most likely not care at all.
It's pretty shitty, I've gotten broken up with once and I felt like I was going to die, it may have been because I was indeed 15, but no matter the age, coming out of a relationship you have to adjust. It's literally going from interacting with a person every day to none at all if anything. But then you get over it
I didn't like my ex as much cause we were just drifting apart. But I didn't have the heart to tell him cause I felt awful. So when I got a text saying he wanted to break up ( it wasn't me it was him. Blah blah blubby blah) I squealed and did a happy dance
Depends on the circumstances, I expect. I've only been broken up with once, and... I was really sad. I missed him a lot. There was no yelling or fighting at any point, just an acceptance that the problem couldn't be fixed, so we both had to move on. But that was all.
If he does it honestly and directly then it's sad but I'm glad he did it bc I would not want someone being with me when They don't want me. That's life.
Worst thing is being dragged along in something that's been there a longtime bit you don't know. Such a waste of time.
Depends on why you broke up. loss of spark without comunicating could leave us feeling confused and clueless as to what happend if their was cheating involved she'd probobly be angry (And or be angry anyway) how you broke up. why. and just overall the situation and how it went down.
My best guy friend dumped my friend a month or so ago. From what he's told me, she's really broken up about it. She doesn't talk to him anymore, and she won't even look at him. He was her first serious boyfriend, so she's especially hurt that he chose to end things with her.
I have had guys break up with me and come back, so I stopped reacting. I am usually the one who does the final real break up, besides a couple mutuals and my first relationship where I was dumped and I was devastated I think I was in bed for like a month hardly ate cried blah blah, seems so mellow dramatic to me now looking back. I cried when I broke up with one bf, cause I loved him but he was an alcoholic and drug user and he wouldn't get help.
To be honest my last break up I saw coming and was really unhappy with the relationship, but he beat me to the punch and I was devastated. But like a month after I was bumping hips with one of my good friends.
So in my experience, usually I'll be depressed for like a day or two then just boogie. I was alone once I can be alone again.
Any of the following:
"asshole's gonna miss my asshole"
"whyyyyyy *cries* *eats ice cream* i loooooved him *cries*"
"need alcohol asap"
"oh well, more fish in the sea"
"when did I agree to dating him? goddammit alcohol"
This video says it all :P haha jk jk
She will go bat shit crazy replaying everything for a while. Drive herself nuts. Maybe even cry (depends how emotionally involved she was) then decide what to do. Weather it be not giving up, moving on etc
I try to maintain composure at the first instance. Then I try and be a lady and just say "Well, I wish you the best of luck". Then I will probably be sad for a day and then I will get over it, then get back out there and start dating again.
it depends, I've actually felt relieved after being dumped before... I might get upset for like an hour or 2 but I've never even been able to cry about it
The worst break up I had ended up me extremely depressed. Couldn't eat for 4 days due to being depressed and skipped majority of my classes. I was just a complete wreck.
It really depends on how he approached the break up. If he did it without an explanation or over something stupid ill be heartbroken or if we were dating for a long time.
But if i wasn't feeling it anymore i wouldn't care as much, but id still care a little.
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