This girl says she considers me as a brother but still teases me, could she like me still?

[Anonymous]

When asked twice by my friends this girl says that she considers me as a bro. BUT when i start commenting on other girls or mention one of our friends and told her "she has a good voice doesn't she?", she replied to me (girl i like) "i can sing better than her". Or like even one time when i said this girl was a better driver right away she got mad and said "um i'm better than her at driving".

Why does she get mad when i mention other girls IF she says i'm a bro to her? What is going on?

[MrChadeo920]

You need to take control of your man hood and stay away from this girl that considers you a brother. That's worse then the friend zone. She's keeping you in the brozone, because she doesn't respect you as a man. If I were you, I wouldn't be hanging out with her. Go with your male friends and go to a bar or something and find other women. She gets jealous when you make comments like that because she doesn't want to lose her non related brother because I'm sure you take care of her as in paying for her stuff. At least I hope you don't. Anyway leave her be and do your own thing.

[Asker]

well... i paid like $5 for gas 3 or 4 times that's it. But yeah i won't pay attention to her anymore.

[MrChadeo920]

Good idea man just get out there and do it.

[Asker]

yup, thanks for the advice

[mrrapperguy]

NO she isn't, once she says brother, it's over man, sorry. She gets jealous because a lot of girls are jealous with their good guy friends

[Asker]

dang.. alright

[mrrapperguy]

Sorry for coming over the top lol, had memories of similar situations.

[Asker]

no harm done, you're telling the truth which is better than sugar coating the lie, i can respect that.

[MyBabyAngels]

Let me say this... anybody that says they see their friend like a brother or sister is someone u shouldn't consider as a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I know she acting all jelous from other girls but how can u get passed by her seen u as a brother? Girls n guys could be a little flirty with one another n still be just friends so hope this helped.

[Asker]

Well we known each other for 4 years and she has always ans still does tease me, she always acting flirty around me

[MyBabyAngels]

I can be a little flirty with my guy friend n vise versa but is just fun but there's a line we won't cross. But anyway, it seems u like her, so get off the friend zone. Sometimes if you dont do it on time u will remain there.

[Asker]

It bothers me cause yes i understand she considers me as a bro, but i'm kinda hurt cause i like her so i don't want her touching me anymore. I know it sounds harsh but i mean i feel like forgetting about her for a while.

[MyBabyAngels]

I see, well talk to her. The question here is, would u like to try to do something about it? Or be mad at her for been so charming n making u falk for her? Makes no sense. So before u get all mad about it, try to win her over n its going to take sum time n effort. Not promising anything but hey better than telling her, dont touch me anymore!! Lol ok, so buy her ice cream ask if u can have a taste, n lick her lip too lol n be like mmmm taste good. Lol try to hold her hand sometimes, see if she lets u. Buy her a sweet or a flower at random. So this is all little by little, making moves on her n then maybe talk to her how u feel. So, if after all work she dont see u as any different then u can ask her to keep her hands tk herself.

[Asker]

yes the hand thing she did. I told her once "give me your hand". and she put it out right away and i was holding it tight in this one instance. Like when i text her, she don't text back most of the times, ALWAYS during text she leave it dry, but when we're in person she likes to tease me, touch me, challenge me, emabaress me, etc...

[MyBabyAngels]

Ok i get it. So... she knows u like her i can tell u that right off the bad. She does that to u for exactly same reason. She feels good because u like her n loves to see u melting for her. What a beotch haha jp but dont be mad over it. I mean i know u like her, but hmm it might go away if u treat things a little different. How about u talk to her about another girl n when she says no i am better, say no for real she's damn good. Basically, let her know u finding someone else interesting. It is a little game but ah is better to get a little laugh hen to be sad n depressed. Give her a little taste of her own medecine. Let me tell u she does like u but dont see herself with u for relationship. Cuz u are her friend, i bet if u wanted u could get her in bed lol be friends with benefits, but i didn't tell u that lol

[Asker]

wait how do you know she likes me? the only thing i do when she teases me is basically let her and even tease her, i also sort to challenge her more and more and make her get mad. I can make laugh all the time. Not the fake laught, i men the snorting type laughing. Funny thing is when i confronted her about the texting thing i caught her lying and when i did she giggled and walked away. ANother instance is i love cars. When i talk to her about cars she pretends she knows then things... i asked her something and she got it wrong andf like "oh yeah i was just kidding, i knew the engine was in the back"...

I don't know, i literally had sleepiness night for real, first time feeling this way in my life. I asked one of her friends to see if she likes me and her friend texted me back saying "she kept talking about this other guy and called him cute", she also told me about this other guy and i saw her prom pics and i think she went with that guy :( I didn't go to prom at all.

[Asker]

When i talk about her driving she thinks i'm always serous and she actually gets mad at me. Like i start making fun of her now and she does get mad ta me. She even didn't talk to me for a week and like out of nowhere she was like "wanna hang out together"... like wtf is that lol. I don't know about you girl, very confusing creatures lmao. But are you sure she knows i like her? i even did make some things obvious OH AND 3 weeks ago, i got in this other chicks car instead of her cause we were going all out to a restaurant and she told me after via text message "next time come in my car <3"

I feel like a damn puppet you know? what should i do :( :( like i try to forget about her but can't :( What do you think of this all?

[MyBabyAngels]

Hmm how can i explain this... she does like you but also can't get passed been friends. Get it? Is like stuck in the middle. I know she likes u, n i know you are a shy guy, meaning you hold yourself back from doing certain things. I see it as a respectful guy but if u are too respectful u will be stuck at friend zone. I gaved u tips to slowly get off it, might work. You know, u dont have to ask a girl out to be dating right? You just make it happen... but like i say she just may not like u as a boyfriend. Hmm i know little upseting. Thats why i told u if u wanted to u could get something else out of it. N dont be mad try to control ur feelings through ur mind. Whatever happens between u n this girl u will be ok just smile, u r young n worth it n seem like a sweet guy. Good luck tho :)

[MyBabyAngels]

Oh n let me tell you something else, u are no puppet. That is ur problem, i know u like her but u gotta take control of things. Have more attitude, make decisions for yourself u don gotta ask what u want to do, just do em. N do make moves on her n never say sorry for doing em. Eventually it will become ur personality.

[Asker]

this is a bit crazy, how do you know i'm a shy and nice guy? you're good at this girl and guy stuff and yes what you say is correct. I'm also kinda scared in all honesty to meet new people and a bit social anxious at times, this is the only girl that kinda makes me feel good and a girl i can trust, she also tells me secrets about her now and all that stuff and now i do understand what you're saying.

I have some questions if you can answer them please...

1. How can i start meeting new people (girls mostly, like where to start) and get over my fear

2. How can i not get friendzoned? should i stop being nice to girls and respectful? (i always hold the door open and am very nice when we're together)-----> like should i not hold the door open and that kinda stuff and basically change my attitude to a mean one if i can (what do you girls like in terms of attitude)

Thank you for all the help, i seriously appreciate it soo much.

[MyBabyAngels]

Oooh so i hit the spot lol yei me haha jp this is kinda personal stuff, i know u are anonymous here but request me n ill try to help k

[Asker]

by request you mean message correct?

[MyBabyAngels]

Yes sir

[AmandaLynn1930]

she sounds like she's jealous...
maybe she's scared being anything more than friends could ruin your awesome relationship...

[Asker]

Well we known each other for 4 years and she has always and still does tease me. It bothers me cause yes i understand she considers me as a bro, but i'm kinda hurt cause i like her so i don't want her touching me anymore. I know it sounds harsh but i mean i feel like forgetting about her for a while.

[AmandaLynn1930]

thats not harsh... you need to do whats best for you... you shouldn't have to be hurting, ya kno...
just do what you need to do...
maybe if you try dating, it'll help you... just an idea!

[Asker]

dating lol? i'm stuck in this friend-zone thing. I mean sure i guess i can consider him my sister but i mean why would she be jealous still? Ok let's say we're talking about a real bro and sis. If i had a real sis she wouldn't care who i like right? Are you single kid?

[AmandaLynn1930]

i meant date someone else... just meet someone you like and date...
right, if she thinks of you like a brother she shouldn't care who you date. i have a feeling she will care though, just based on how she reacts when you talk about other chicks... but you gotta try. if she doesn't like you back or doesn't want to ruin your friendship you gotta move on. you deserve to be happy, too :)

[Asker]

thank you :) only problem is that i'm a very shy guy and to be how i am with this chick took 2 years really. I know i need to get out of my shell but I don't know where to meet girls on even how to approach them. This girl has ALWAYS approached me.

[AmandaLynn1930]

just look for girls in places you hang out... you could always try dating sites, too... if thats something you want to try just to get the experience and get your confidence up :)

[Asker]

yeah i'll try, thanks :)

[Klaatu51]

maybe she's honest... sometimes REAL-LIFE sis tend 2 b jealous when bros mention they like some gal from wot i've noticed... ^_^

[Asker]

i've never had a sis so i wouldn't now haha

[MrChadeo920]

Yeah that never happens. When I go do lunch with my sister and I mentioned to her that "That girl over there is gorgeous" she doesn't get jealous.

[Asker]

alright

[Klaatu51]

@MrChadeo920 it was yer sis and only then :-)

[Nathand]

No.

once your in the friend-zone there is no way out of it... unless you have lots of money.

[Asker]

uh-oh