My boyfriend's female friend just blocked me on Facebook?

[Anonymous]

I noticed her comment below one of his pics was gone. Out of curiosity, I went to see if maybe he deleted her or vice versa. I didn't see her on his friends list. I brought her name up and noticed it said content unavailable. I've been blocked and have blocked people and that's what it says when you're blocked.
I don't understand why she would block me when I haven't even talked to her? I know they used to hang out, he said only as friends, but now I don't know what to think? I have always had a bad vibe about her and if they really were just platonic. I text him earlier that I noticed she blocked me and that it seemed fishy. I don't know what to think or do about it. It's making me uncomfortable because obviously something happened to make her do such a thing.

[lightbulb27]

so you are bothered because you can't see if she is doing anything with your boyfriend, is that the gist of it? humm... how much do you trust your boyfriend? it isa lot to ask a girlfriend to accept his female friend, that is a boundary risk. I had the same challenge with my girlfriend... it bugged the heck out of her. I was always open with her, but still causes issues.
What are you comfortable with in terms of this other woman. Try to setup boundaries with him and her, like you are included in everything, or he lets her go, etc.. You may ned a counselor to help sort through that.

this will either build trust or tear it up... been there done that...

[Asker]

Thank you. It was silly of me to even let it get to me.

[lightbulb27]

I'm not saying blindly trust him, but you have to gauge how responsible he is. It is possible to just have a female friend. But these days, trust but verify I don't have a problem with...

[Asker]

I should have given you MHO. ;)

[lightbulb27]

oh, that's all right. you can follow me along if you like. Hope all this helped you out, thats the goal! PS I feel better at 49 than ever before, so age is a number, live it up! Just listen to your body more:)... wisdom!

[Asker]

I followed you. Thanks for your help :)

[AmongTheApples]

Maybe she did, maybe she didn't. It's more likely that she deactivated her account because it makes more sense would cause you to see the same thing.

Now, I was about to ask why you care and suggest that, even if she did block you, you shouldn't care and shouldn't make her problems your problems; but then I read this: "I have always had a bad vibe about her and if they really were just platonic." 🙄

Your jumping to conclusions based on little to no evidence and are probably on the verge of making yourself appear insecure, which it would seem that you are.

[Asker]

You're absolutely right. She did delete her account. And yes, I should never let something like that bother me.

[james_mark]

Trust your instinct.. you said you get the bad vibe about her.
And.. i have to add.. sometimes people deactivate their accounts and you will receive that message of (content unavailable).. you can still look up for her from another family member account to verify.

[youtoo]

This happened to me. I later found out that the girl who did this had a big thing for my boyfriend, who later cheated on me (not with her, some other girl.) Needless to say this is serious in my opinion from personal experience. Communicate with your boyfriend about about this, in person to his face, immediately. If he dodges the subject, or his body language is off, pay attention. Update us if you need more advice.

[Asker]

Thank you. Come to find out she deleted her account.

[youtoo]

Good to know! Thanks for the update <3

[LJHam]

It may be because she simply doesn't like you.
Or, maybe she doesn't like you because you're with the person she really wants to be with.

There's no telling one way or another unless you just ask her straight up. But whether she likes your boyfriend or not, that's not really the problem. The issue is: do you trust your bf? If you trust him, then whatever she feels or doesn't feel is inconsequential.

[Asker]

Well said. Thank you. :)

[Aqualung]

I'll say!

[LJHam]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Asker]

👍🏾

[Aqualung]

That's nice, LJ. Very classy

[Anonymous]

I bet there is something either on her facebook or that she has posted that she doesn't want you to see. What does your boyfriend think? If you know someone who has her on their friends list maybe ask them to look on her page and see what she's posted? I can understand having strict privacy on FB but when its a friend of a boyfriend blocking YOU for no reason yeah something is being hidden.

[Asker]

I just found out she deleted her account. Lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Phew! Mystery solved, you must be relieved.

[Asker]

Lol very! But I also feel ridiculously stupid. :/

[Opinion Owner]

You shouldn't. Nowadays you never know why someone does certain things when it comes to social media.

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Anonymous]

That's weird. Could be nothing though, people do weird things sometimes that aren't for any logical reason. You should have mentioned it to him face to face so you could see his reaction better though. Keep an eye on the situation, but don't take her doing this as a big sign or anything, because as I said, people can just do weird things sometimes that make no sense.

[Asker]

I did. Thanks. Everything worked out. She just deleted her account is all. Nothing going on. It was a relief, of course, I wish it hadn't of come to that. I shouldn't have let it bother me so.

[becca123]

Facebook gets people in more trouble than anything else. I actually prefer not being FB friends with my boyfriend.

Glad you got it sorted, though.

[Asker]

Thanks me too :)

[JuicyBrain]

Maybe she wants to be able to talk to him without his nosy girlfriend reading everything. Would you like it if every time you meet your friends, he was there listening to everything that is said? Sometimes, people need to vent and they often do it to their friends. It's most people's way to get the puss out so they can go home with a different perspective renewed interest.

[Anonymous]

She wants to comment things that you won't see and probably doesn't want you all through her profile and pics either. Sounds like she's a messy person.

[Darkone1]

Your old Knight is just having glitches, like trying dating when you are 45+.

[Asker]

Lol, not quite.

[Anonymous]

Ask her. Or ask him if you're not comfortable doing so. It might just be by accident

[MikkyLachae]

Or she deleted her account.

[Asker]

She did.

[chintita]

if you're 45+ you shouldn't care

[Asker]

If there's something going on behind my back yeah I should. Its intuition.

[jeffend888]

I stopped reading at "boyfriend's female friend".

[bryon]

In all honesty it would make one wonder about it

[Asker]

I found out earlier she deleted her account. I feel dumb for overreacting.

[bryon]

Well I'm glad it wasn't what the alternative could have been

[Asker]

I agree. Thanks :)

[bryon]

Most welcome

[Asker]

She's back :/

[bryon]

How are you today young Lady?

[Asker]

We had a great day yesterday. This morning I noticed her account is activated again. I also noticed he's online on messenger. Could they be chatting? Why do I feel uneasy?

[bryon]

So the plot thickens !!! Her deactivating her account does give reason to wonder what up.

[Asker]

It's eating at me, big time. Do I trust him when he said there's nothing going on, nor was there ever? I have always listened to my intuition and it's always been right. How do I deal with this without pushing him away?

[bryon]

He really may be being honest that it is just a platonic friendship. I can't brag that I have an overwhelming number of female friends on my social media pages but I offer do talk to the ones that I have. My wife was never the type to be jelous of me doing that til last year. She didn't just come out and say she was , but tale tale signs told me she was uncomfortable with it. So what I done of my own free accord was sit down and open up each chat I had with these friends and let her browse through until she saw I was hiding nothing from her. Since then there has never been any pause in my ability to talk to them

[bryon]

I don't know that he is the type to be so open with you , but who knows , maybe he would be

[Asker]

He has been very open since day 1, so maybe it's something I need to look deep within myself on why I feel the way do.

[bryon]

That is a real possibility. Distrust is the number one reason that relationship end. Either the person who has the trust issue leaves due to it or the other person grows weary of being accused of wrongs that they aren't guilty of

[Becky01]

just ask him right out if he is messing around

[Asker]

We talked it out. Everything is fine now. Thank you.

[Becky01]

I am glad to hear that

[Anonymous]

He may be banging her.

[Asker]

Not even a possibility.

[Anonymous]

She might be jealous of you

[Aqualung]

Oh my, How dare she!

[Asker]

Lol I know I know. I'm over it.

[Aqualung]

Glad to see you have a sense of humor, sorry for the flippant reply,

[Asker]

Lol no worries :)